Ok so this is more or less a ranting but any advice is appreciated.

So both of my parents died. Dad last year my mother this year around valenties weekend.

My dad ended up dying of cancer from his lung that got so big it started attaching to his spine. It even broke one of the vertebrae and started spreading to other areas.

My dad had a heart attack 2 years ago around valentines day and my mother called to say he deserved it and was faking it. She never called me once after the day she dropped me off at 17 saying until me and my sis could learn to respect her rights to drink we weren't welcome in her life. She had a court order that when me and my sis were there no alcohol or drunk people were to be around us as the judge found she had a running bad history of it. So fine she breaks it then writes us off. And then her ONLY call to me was 8 years later to say my dad DESERVED a heart attack? Fuck that shit, I did just fine with out her and continued to do fine without her.

Well forward to this year and mother died. We first thought it was a heart attack but it turned out to be she DRANK HERSELF to death. She loved her alcohol above all else and it only got her dead. She pretty much lowered her body reaction and resistances so that when she had fallen off her couch it triggered her heart to go into a heart attack, otherwise she most likely wouldn't have had one. I myself found it ironic that 2 years after she claimed my dad deserved his she got one too. Some have called me mean for it but I thought it rude of her to have called her child she NEVER contacted to say the things she did.

Well I personally wanted ZERO to do with her at all. But state law dictated that without a will all direct (as in spouses, kids or parents) surviving family is to make sure things are dealt with. Bills paid and what ever is left over divided. In this case it'd just be me and my sister since not only did our dad die but they were divorced. And stuff only goes to the parents if there is no children or spouse of the person who passed.

So when this got found out my sis said she'd take charge of finding papers and checking things out. Pretty much because she has no job she knew she had time to line up appointments and such. I told her all she needs to do is make the appointments/ figure out what is when and where and tell me so I could tell my boss and work it so I wouldn't have to lose many hours from this. Not only has she FAILED in doing this basic task she has taken to drugs and drinking.

Our mother died about 2 months ago. I promise you things are being marked as late/unpaid and there's nothing to be done because neither of us can access the bank because my sister hasn't made any appointments to get things done. I'm not unwilling to get things done, hell most days I'm off work by noon so there's ZERO reasons to not even get afternoon appointments leaving the mornings open to her for getting proper papers from our moms belongings for court needs to bring to these appointments.

My sister was going to go talk to the courthouse THREE TIMES. And each time she had an excuse like her kid was with her so it'd be boring/ difficult. Another time it was her back hurting and the last time she didn't even try to go. Now she's saying it's all my fault things aren't done. WHAT.THE.FUCK. SHE wanted to take lead on this and I was fine with it, no worries until I found out she got into meth.

Now she's saying it's "fucked up" how I went to talk to her ex husband to see what she's been doing. Sorry but when YOU don't contact me for weeks and no other family can reach you I'm going to go to the ONLY adult you see every week and find shit out.

Also everyone is pretty sure that she has taken things she wants for herself by now. Even her ex husband said she was getting greedy. Like from our dad dying she got a car, lots of his collection items, his military items, her pick of his things pretty much. All I got? Old gaming systems like NES and the like. And she is still trying to get the game systems from me claiming "they are for my daughter". Uh no she has leapster gaming and access to ps3 and other more advanced consoles that can also do "retro" games, my sis only wants the systems because she thinks they are worth money.

Our mom dies and she takes ALL the cars right away, Took the best jewelry for herself, she gave me like 3 real pieces and the rest are upscale costume jewelry but our mother always bought real metals and stones never fake stuff. So that there indicates she took more than "a few". She also is the only one aside from her friend who have any keys to the house and a lock box with "more" jewelry for later. I don't even know where the house is other than planet earth x city of x state USA.

My sister has tried to convince me that my hubby and I should move into her falling apart trailer and pay her "rent" so she can go live in our moms house. Her trailer has a big leak in the hallway. the bedroom has a leak above the bed so no matter where you place the bed it's always going to be wet in the rainy/ snowy weather. Also she pissed off an ex to the point he RAMMED the trailer FOUR times with his truck and rocked the foundation... YEAH I'm SO aching to live in that...

At this point idk what to do. I'm really half tempted to say fuck it all and and let the banks take back what hasn't been paid and if they want my sisters new precious cars to repay debts then fine they can have them. The other option I have is to find a way to get stuff placed into probate court. That's it, but doing that will still reward my sister with stuff or cash.

And my sister isn't trying to find a job but uses the whole trying to sort mothers things out as a reason to NOT work. She is claiming it's so one day she can give her kid a house when she's older, right now her kid is only 6. I'm fairly sure she doesn't care about that yet if at all because she's busy doing school work. There's no reason why my sister can't get a job, oh wait yes there is it's called meth and being drunk at her previous job which is why they let her go.

All that's left of my family is her, myself, our gma, our uncle and some second cousins... and my sister won't do anything other than what will get her high.

First off, I am very sorry to hear your father died and sorry that your mother was so hurtful. I think a lot of it had to do with the drinking and probably a lot of other problems she had going on in her life so she unfairly took it out on everyone else instead of seeking help.

As unfortunate as it sounds, your sister sounds like all she cares about is a free ride through life and is trying to take advantage. That's not how things work and as a mother, she should be more responsible than that. Honestly, she's using her kids as an excuse to be greedy or not take responsibility and that's not right. I say you just let the bank take everything to pay off debts and if your sister really wants to be greedy and take everything then she'll go to the court and sort it out. She has no one to blame but herself. As for the drug problem, I am no psychiatrists, but she may have inherited some bad traits from your mom and be prone to developing addictions. Please don't be offending as I don't believe it is my place to make suggestions here, but I think you should have an intervention with your sister if you suspect substance abuse and encourage her to seek help, especially if she has a child to care for. A lot of the times people change when they have substance abuse problems and it could be those things that are making her act the way she does.

If you know your sister is doing meth and caring for a young child, you have en ethical responsibility to call CPS and the police on her. Seriously, I cannot tell you how many people I personally know who were neglected and abused because of methamphetamine and heroin use.

Well apparently you can't just click each name to ping :x

but an update of sorts. So it's my b-day and I spent the day out of the house and went to bed at GASP my usual bedtime. My sister proceeds to call me while I'm sleeping to yell at me. I hear my niece crying in the background and I wonder what's wrong. Apparently not answering a call during my sleeping time is grounds to make my niece (who is 6 mind you) cry and then call me from a different number to make me feel bad. It didn't work like she planned.

Well she went on to say it's now /MY/ fault she hasn't gone to find a job/ WTF how does that fall to me no matter if we still have to sort our moms things out? It can still be done if we were both named by the courts as able to act on our moms behalf and just keep contact of where we've been to pay bills or cancel contracts AND still gasp hold a job. She's trying to use the whole "our moms things aren't sorted so I can't work and I've been waiting on you to do things so I simply can't get a job" as a new reason to blame me and make me be the "bad" one here.

She's known all along all she needed to do was make appointments and tell me so I could tell my job and oh hey shit could get done. I'd try doing any of the work on my own but I don't know where the house is nor have access to it so I'd have zero ability to even know anything she had in terms of payments or anything to work on with the courts because my sister refuses to take me to our moms or even tell me where it's at.

She was the one who wanted to find any papers and set up appointments because at our moms passing she had no job so it made sense to have her set it up and then tell me what was going on and when. Now she is flipping out even more blaming me for anything she can and trying to flip shit around so I'm always the bad one in this.

...Did you call CPS? She's not just abusing you, she's emotionally and verbally abusing her child, who's being used as a tool to manipulate you for what sounds like money.

She'll hate you more, but at least she won't be taking it out on someone who'll bear the emotional scars for the rest of her life.