i know what you mean. my dad isnt that bad, but if i forget to the dishes sometime he gets in to this big rant and i hate when people yell at me so i start crying and he keeps asking me questions which i dont want to answer and that just keeps him going and going. he repeats himself constantly and when i tell him i dont like him yelling at me he justs starts doing it more.

sometimes its best not to be assertive, but thats doesnt mean let it slide. i agree with what some one else said about a letter, it gets your point across and he cant yell at you through a letter. a good idea might be to give him the letter before you go out somewhere so he can have a while to think before he confronts you about it, if he does.

also, sometimes its best just to walk away. go in your room and close the door. i always do that, except i can hear him bitching about the whole ordeal to my mom from the end of the hall which i hate. i'll try to distract myself with music at that point.

my dad screamed at me last night because i put too much water in too big of a pot for his soup last night. he was all, ''THIS IS TOO FUCKING BIG FOR MY SOUP. do we EVER use a pot THIS BIG when we eat soup? no!"

so i know how you feel. i'm sorry. ._.;

I feel that a lot more information is needed to give an appropriate response. The length and intensity of the yelling/arguing would be helpful and the parents side of things is necessary as well. There are always two sides to every argument so both sets of opinions are needed. Families should boost each others self esteem and NOT tear them down. This is a very basic yet widespread family issue that many, if not every family has.

A few problems with therapists is that many people see something wrong with seeing one. The reasons are many but among them, some people feel that seeing one admits that they have a weakness. Another common response is "This is my family and I'll raise my kids how I see fit. After all I know what's best for my children!" If your child is having such strong emotional problems however,then that must obviously not be true.

Two other common problem's with seeing a therapist are that they can be quite expensive at times and also, not every therapist is right for every family. I know when I had family troubles and my parents, sister and I saw a therapist he or she would always want us to do silly things like play these silly boardgames that were supposed to boost our teamwork capabilities yet this wasn't something my family was having trouble with. This might work for some families but my point is what's right for one family isn't necessarily right for all. You may have to try out multiple therapists before finding one that works for you.

In general, father's are the ones who therapists have the most trouble getting to come see them. I know that with my cousin's family for example, him and his mom would go but they could never get his father to join because he didn't feel like anything was wrong with him. It's crucial to remember that we all have faults, and admitting them is half the battle.

I know that this information will probably not provide any immediate help but as food for thought I hope you keep some of these things in mind, whatever you choose to do.

Also, as stated above, writing a letter or email may help due to the "Can't argue with a letter" fact. Just make sure that you stay honest but also do not be rude in any way as this could cause the idea to backfire and get you grounded. Just remain respectful but honest and hopefully it will help. Keep in mind too, that if you write a letter, it's all too easy for the parents to get angry and crumple it up and toss it in the trash, but if you type an email it's a bit more complicated to delete so it gives the parent a little time to think before deleting it. The problem with email's though is that it is best to time it so that he reads the letter/email when you are gone off so he won't be tempted to go up to you and pull the "If you want to talk to me, talk to me to my face" card and having him or her read this email at the time you are off could be tricky.

What I would suggest that you try would be to type what you want to say in a word document. Make sure that one of the first things you say is that you feel you can't speak to him directly so you decided to type a letter. Then, state your concerns and finally end the note by saying you will try to do better and that you love him or her.

Once you are done typing, save the letter and when it's time for you to go off somewhere, make sure right before you leave, you open the word document and leave it on screen so you're parent(s) can read it while you are gone.

Again, I hope something I have said can help you in some way and as a College Psychology Student and future therapist I wish you good luck. If you need anything else, feel free to comment or Subeta mail me at your leisure.

I also want to make sure that you know that no parents should ever hit their child. Except for spankings as a punishment, a parent hitting his or her child is child abuse and is against the law in many countries especially the United States. If your mom or dad ever physically abuse you or each other please call 911 if you live anywhere in the continental U.S. I'm not sure of the emergency number for other countries but if you need help simply tell your neighbor or any school official and he or she should be able to help you.

Good luck.

My mum used to do that ALL the time. She's not so bad now. I just tell her when she's saying hurtful things, I don't think she realizes when she's doing it. Just let them know when they are doing it rather then after when they have probably forgotten most of what they said.

I guess just show that you feel hurt more than try to hide it when he does hurt you, just try not to be overly dramatic. Who knows, it may work.

My dad does this also, always finding something wrong with whatever I do, having nothing good to say and all I can say is ignore it. He'll get it coming to him in a couple of years.

Just stay strong and believe that your not a baby and that what you do is great.

But if you really can't take it just confront him about it. If he gets nasty walk away. The next day do it again and possibly record him saying hurtful things. Replay it to him when he starts yelling again.

I did this once with my mom and she shut up right away, I think she realized that she was being a insert bad word here.

I know this Hotrelay. I wasn't trying to imply that her father's reaction is well founded because from what I hear it isn't. I'm just saying from a mediator's standpoint you can't always take everything at face value.

As far as "people cannot help the way they feel. Especially if they've been hurt. If you like I can give you examples." since this is an obvious fact of life that won't be necessary.

Regardless, I've said everything I wanted to say in this topic so shell_SHOCK, I wish you and anyone else who is having similar problems good luck and I bid you adieu. bows