Well, I have a friend who I met at the beginning of the year. We were pretty good buddies. But now (with two weeks left of school)...it's really wearing thin. I started to notice it a couple weeks ago, when it just wasn't as fun to hang out with her anymore. She wasn't fun to talk to, and it was getting to the point where she was just...annoying. I don't know if I want to be friends with her anymore. I feel terrible for saying it, but I know what I want to do.

What makes it worse is that she doesn't have many (if any) friends out side the small lunch group she eats with besides me. I get the worst feeling of abandoning her.

With summer so close, I'm thinking it might just be easiest to just not see her over the summer, and then, since we don't take the same classes, just let it die without any drama.

Really, all I'm asking is if this sounds completely cruel or heartless, because this is truly the first person that I became friends with, and then just did not want to be so any longer. And perhaps other suggestions to let this go calmly, or just opinions.

Your idea sounds pretty good... just deal with it until you're out of school, and hope things get better the next year. Maybe you'll like her more next year, or maybe it'll be more of an acquaintance thing... just saying hi every now and then wouldn't be so bad, right?

I'd say be honest with her, but that seems kinda bitchy to me... oh well, I dunno. I fail at social situations. xD Good luck!

Maybe you're spending too much time together?

Jazzeh- Yeah, reading back over it I could see how dodgy it was. ^_^; But, stopping a 'hi and wave in the hallway' routine is not part of my plan. That's too extreme.

virGIN- No, we honestly don't spend too much time together. Even before I started pulling away.

There's really nothing you can do about this. You won't be 'abandoning' her if you stop hanging out with her... to be honest, you might be doing her a favor. If she isn't that good of a friend it is more unkind to keep up an act than to just do what is right.

It sounds like she needs to find more friends outside your group anyway. Do what you need to do and she'll work her own issue out. Maybe after the summer you'll find you want to be her friend again!

thing is -- this is life. these are the same issues you'd have to face with all friendships... especially between you and a partner (beyond marriage). you have the convenience of being young and being able to just trash anyone that doesn't suit you just right -- however eventually we all have to figure out a happy medium and how to deal with our own short-comings.

if you find her annoying and you are getting tired of hanging around her, then you are the one with the problem (which i figure you are accepting).

it's best to walk away from her without much fanfare. that way, you will be obligated to deal with the feelings of doing that to her for no decent reason.

Shatzy- This is the advice I was both fearing and wanting. With that post, it definitely helped me realize I was the only one with a problem here. My reason is very good either, and I know I've accepted other people with quirks that don't rub me right. Perhaps I should be doing the thing VirGin was questioning- hang out with her more. Maybe I need to understand her personality better, and then I might find it less annoying. Who knows, but now I find myself questioning if my idea is truly right...thank you?

Evanesce- ...And now I'm not to sure how to respond to this. :x I don't think she is poor friend as much as our personalities don't click well. Or, now, mine with hers. But, taking the summer to think this over seems a better version of my plan...

I would just distance your selves. Best without the drama.