I'm thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend, Sky. He's my first ever boyfriend, and I had my first kiss with him this past V-Day. But, it's become a bit difficult to bear with him. Well, not him, but his mom. She never lets us hang out. The one time I went to his house, she asked me if I liked Sky's hair the way it was, which was long with bangs in the front. I said yes, and lo and behold, every time he's gotten his hair cut since, it's short without bangs. sigh

Not only that, but she constantly makes him stay home and babysit his brother or refuses to drive him to my house/the movie theater/restaurants right before we had planned to go out on a date or hang out, even though he had given her prior notice of our plans.

And now, it's gone too far. I'm assuming she took his cell phone away (again) because he hasn't answered his phone whenever I've called him in the past 2 WEEKS, or texted me back when I tried to text him, even though he's usually really quick to call/text me back. And, when I try to call his home phone, I get the 'this number is not in service' message. I have no way of contacting him.

It's getting way too frustrating. We go to different schools, but my other friend goes to school with him, so I'm asking him to tell Sky to call me when the weekend's over and we're back in school. If I don't get a call from him, I'm going to have to do the cliche break up through a friend break -up maneuver, since I have no other way of telling him. :(

Should I break up with him because his mom's a bitch? He's a great guy, and we acted like a couple, and not just friends. Plus, we had so much in common. sigh

And I'm pretty sure my friend who goes to school with him has a huge crush on me. But that's a whole 'nuther story, and I'm sure he'll be THRILLED to deliver the break-up verdict when I figure it all out. xD

I am not a fan of dumping because of the parent. You need to tell him how you feel the next time you are able too see him. Try see if he can talk to his mother, ask her why she is so against you, he needs to back you up on this sort of situation.

Just wait some more, something built over a year shouldn't be broken up because his mother is obviously a total control freak, just get him to talk to her and explain things, step back if you will.

Punishing the boy because of his mom wouldn't be right, if the opposite were the case, how would you feel? You'd hate your mom right? If everyone who dumped their bf/gfs because of the parent no one would ever hate their in laws. Mom doesn't like you for one reason or another, could be because no one could ever be good enough for her little baby. Just remember, you're not dating his mother, you're dating HIM. Maybe grow some backbone and just go over, tell her straight up " I LIKE YOUR SON, you may think that no one's will ever be good enough for him, but could you at least give me the opportunity to try?" or something like that. Ask her what it is about you that bothers her confront her about it, sometimes your bluntness might make her back off haha. Have your bf side with you, if he sides with his mother, you lost from the beginning. -.- Good Luck!!

The mother should only be an issue if your boyfriend is siding with her.

You are not dating his mother. Yes the crazy lunatic is going to apparently try to make dating her son a hard thing, but if you have real feelings for him than should have the answer your looking for.

Well, in a situation like this where there's no other way to make things work, since you two are pretty young, I think there's really no other solution than to break up with him. I'd say you might be able to work things out if either of you have a license, but if his mom is that controlling to the point where you can't even talk to him properly, I doubt things will work... unless you can talk to him and/or his mom and get some things worked out. If not, I guess it's the end of the road. =(

...You can always dream about Adam Lambert though, amirite? =P

XD Jazzeh, that's a great idea! :P

But yeah, guys, I'm only 15. So is he. Neither of us can drive yet. D: So I have no way on getting in contact with him, except asking my friend who goes to his school to tell him to call me. :o

Could you talk to him via the Internet? Like instant messengers, e-mail, Facebook/MySpace?

Because while I don't think you should break up with him just his mum clearly doesn't approve, I think being in a relationship where you can't contact him at all will be quite difficult. =/

Nope, he doesn't have a Facebook, but I do. I don't think he has an email either, since he doesn't have his own computer. :(

But I did ask my friend if he could talk to him at school tomorrow, and tell him to call me or contact me in some other way. He said he'd try, even though they hardly see each other during the day.

I know this sounds old fashioned by why not try to contact him by mail? I'm sure he has an address, and hearing your own words from what you wrote is much better than hearing anything you have to say through a friend. I'm not saying you should break up with him, because as has been said previously you should not punish him for what his mother is doing...

Hmm. I could try that! I just don't know how hard it is to send a letter to his apartment.

Could you try and meet up with him somewhere? Like tell the friend who goes to school with him to meet you at ___ at a certain time. He could lie to his mom and say he's going with his friends. Or what you need to do is confront his mom and ask why she doesn't want you talking to him at all. Whatever the case, breaking up with him because his mom doesn't like you isn't a very good reason to break up. You've only got another year (? depending on your birthdates) before you can both drive, and if it's lasted this long at your age, that means it's something.

Lying to her only makes things worse, assuming if she were to find out. I'm thinking you should confront her about it - if you're his first girlfriend, sure, she might have trouble adjusting to her son dating someone she doesn't even know. Or if she's just very overprotective, she just feels there's no one good enough for her son. But talking to her about it might just make you gain respect from her in the long run; she might think you have enough courage to talk of such a touchy subject to her.

Good luck. :)

Yikes, that totally sucks that she is a control freak. Perhaps she doesn't want him dating?

The thing that is more odd to me is that the landline # has been disconnected. :/

While I don't think you should let the boy suffer for the mother, you are only 15 and there is a lot more of life for you to have. Don't wait around too long.

I say send a message through the friend asking if you guys can meet up somewhere. Don't have him lie to his mum though, that only causes trouble. Partial truths where it is out with friends (do a group thing maybe) and just have him omit that you will be there. Unless she asks. :P

Good luck

Like that idea Kal. I'll see if I can get some of my friends to come along. Can you say MALL PARTAY? :D

By the way Kal, do you recognize me? :D

Well. I wouldn't put up with it, myself. At 15 he's getting to the age where he should start struggling for a little independence. If he's letting her just lord over him like that (picking his HAIRCUT? at his age?) and everything...it's just gonna be stress all the time. I've dealt with controlling moms before and almost always it boils down to the guy not being able to man up and address the issue. That leads to a lot of lovely problems later on in his life. Like I say. I've been there. Wouldn't deal with it again for anything. I wouldn't wish it on anyone either.

Oh god no. No, no, NO.

I'm pretty sure Daniel just said that to make me cry a bit and go to him for support, but oh my god. What if my boyfriend actually DID say that? :(

If he did? Be glad it's over; a guy like that isn't somebody you want around. But it's possible it's just like you said, that Daniel's bullshitting you. (Either way, I'm so sorry. I know it's rough.)

Do your best to just go straight to your boyfriend to find out. Get a ride over to his house to find out what's up.

I could actually do that tomorrow. I have a half day, and Sky doesn't, so I get out at around noon, an hour before his school gets out. I could ask my mom to drive me over to his place when I'm pretty sure he's home.

I'd do it. If nothing else you'll actually get to see him and let him know (if he doesn't already) that you've not been able to get in touch with him.