/thisisarant.

So I have had the same friends since I was in the first grade, because I'm not able to act normal around people I don't know. Yes I'm lame like that.

So anyways.

1. Last week we were all happy about going shopping. Then my best friend says she doesn't want to go shopping and suddenly no one wants to go anymore.

2. We had this group project to do and were finding a time when everyone could work. So my best friend, who I will call L, says that it's okay for her any day. My other friend, who will be K, says it's okay for her any day too. I say it's okay for me everyday too except in the meals' time because my parents won't allow me to skip meals. L tells me that our lunch time in tuesday is great for doing the project and K agrees because all of a sudden she has other projects to do. This knowing I have eating issues.

3. Yesterday we all combined to go have lunch at a restaurant together. Today, when I got there, there's no one. I sent an sms to a friend of mine asking if they're late, to which I get the answer 'we're not going anymore, o.o'.

Don't they realize how bossy and stupid they act? Man, they act like stupid sheep. Worst thing, your 'reputation' everywhere is marked by either you are in the group or not. So apparently I'm this loser chick if I don't follow them around and don't agree with everything. And I don't damn fit in any other group too. -_-

It seems like they just don't consider you as a friend, so why should you even bother? There's likely hundreds of students in school... many opportunities to make new friends. If you can't get over your inability to act 'normal' around people then be a loner, your choice. :P

i have to agree. it is totally your fault that you are in this predicament anyway. why complain about your friend's behaviors?

Sounds like you need new friends. :| Try being yourself around other people; if you act weird and they like it, BOOM. Friends. If you act weird and they're all, ''wtf? o.o; '', then they likely wouldn't make good friends for you. That's how I make friends; I just be myself. (I'm a silly otaku. :3 ) If I'm just myself and people go with it, awesome. If not, too bad.

I would forget about them, or tell them straight up they're jerks.

If they're treating you like crap, then why do you hang with them?

Anytime you say someone's a "crappy friend"...they're NOT a friend.

Branch out and find other people in school.

Even if you do not end up fitting in with anyone else in the school (which I doubt only because there is always somewhere, it just takes awhile), because you are better off as a lone wolf than with them as "friends".

Yeah, you definitely need some new friends. I don't know if they're doing it just to spite you or if you're just out of the loop in general, but if you were really their friend, they would include you in things, including information about what's going on. There are better people out there who will treat you like a true friend. You'll just need to take a deep breath and introduce yourself to some new people. It sucks to have a social anxiety (I'm assuming you have one since you said you can't act normal around people you don't know) but if you want to make new friends you're going to have to put it behind you for at least a while.

You gotta get some new friends. Don't dump your old friends unless you want to feel bottom-of-the-pit lonely until you get some new friends established. I've gone through what your going through. Actually, I'm basically going through the same thing now. If I didn't have other friends I'd have to up my dosage of anti-depressants. Once you feel comfortable with your new friends, slowly start hanging out and calling your old friends less and less. Eventually you'll drift apart and be left with your new friends. It's hard. Believe you me. I don't even know if I'll be able to follow my own advice. My best friend from grade school is slowly starting to replace me. It's the most awful feeling. Especially since she's mistreated me before. Good luck. We both need it.

And, in the grand scheme of things, what is there to gain by being friends with them? Will it get you a job or pay your bills in the future? Will it keep you healthy? Will it solve your problems?

Sometimes, popularity and reputation aren't worth the pain you have to go through, and you get nothing out of it all in the long run.

I'm siding with everyone else - find friends who are true friends, not these sycophantic airheads.

Popularity and reputation are worthless in the long run, yea its nice to have them but you don't need them to live your life. Usually all those 'cool' kids are just as miserable as any other person but they're fake and know how to hide it.

Just make some new friends, and if being popular/having a good rep is /that/ important to you, then stay with them.