Okay, I live with my brother and my grandmother. My grandmother has never been a positive person but lately it has gone overboard.

I work at Walmart and make about $800 a month, roughly.

I give her about $400 a month for electricity and other things.

Our electric bill has never been more than $200, sometimes it's been $60, yet WHENEVER I cut on the computer or watch ANY TV, I hear, 'When I can't pay the electric bill anymore it'll shut off and you'll be sorry.'

And tonight, it's about 2:30 AM and I have to go to work at 11 - 3:30--and I have the next day off... As it is only 4 1/2 hours, I can do it well on just a few hours of sleep.

She wakes up and begins berating me about it 'don't you have any sense at all? You're just like your mother--I'm going to set a curfew!'

And now she is singing loudly and annoyingly to persuade me to go to bed. Ugh.

Mind you I will be 20 in just over a week.

I have no driver's license and no car. Looks like I'll have to save up and get out of this hellhole.

Because I already run myself ragged JUST making sure she eats and takes her shots (insulin) and then eats, because if she doesn't eat after a shot she loses her head. You diabetics or friends of them or family would know what i mean by this.

I don't WANT to be her nurse for life but NO ONE else in the family looks out for her...I feel like I need to.

Uggghh....

I also think you need to look into getting your driver's license, it can be your passport to freedom. One of my aunts never, ever got her license, then went and married some jackass who uses the fact that she can't drive to control every little thing she does. I convinced her eldest daughter to get her license, and it drives her father crazy because he's got no control (the obsessive kind, not the parental kind) over her anymore. She has a beater car and the license, she can just drive off whenever she wants to.

I know how much it sucks looking after a grandparent that isn't particularly pleasant, I lived with my grandmother for a few years while I was at school. I know the guilty feeling you get when you feel like you're the only one there that can make sure she's alright...but you need to look out for your own best interests sometimes, selfish as that sounds.

I'd say send her to a freaking nursing home! xD But then you wouldn't have someone to provide a home for you, soo.

Honey you just need to move out I am 21 and living with my dad and always attacks me about how much I weigh what I eat So I am just finding another job to go on top of mine so I can move out

I had a hard time finding this Wal-mart job, because it is my first job. Everyone wants experience and you can't GET experience unless they hire you.

Apartments in my area are in the $350-500 a month range...stupid as it sounds I want the place I move into to have internet of SOME kind. I can't help it, it's the one thing keeping me from going round the bend.

Guess I start saving...

One of my friends lived with her very mentally abusive uncle all through the end of grade school and highschool. In highschool she started to work an after school job and on weekends, and kept working there for a few years pretty much as often as she was given hours to do so. Finally after her first year of college she was able to move out and live with friends, and she is very grateful she did.

Just keep working, saving, sacrificing, and eventually when you can move out you'll be a better person for it. I'd also suggest moving out with your brother to help with the costs, my aforementioned friend lived with her younger sister, too.

You don't need to.

Dump the old hag. What good has she done for you that you have to repay her?

I would assume it has something to do with her mother not being able to care for her.

Whether or not she is abusive doesn't matter, she cared for you when no one else did, she just has a crappy personality. You owe her for that.