BEFORE YOU TELL ME ITS A JUST A BIKE, YOU NEED TO SEE THE WHOLE PICTURE THAT DOESN'T INCLUDE MATERIAL ITEMS.

Typical. My dad promises he will buy me a bike for my 16th birthday, and I call him, and he changes his mind, gives me a ton of shit excuses, makes it my moms fault, and then says hes not buying it. I was so excited to get that bike.

Ill have to remember not to rely on him, or basically talk to him. Im practically speechless.

My parents are currently going through a divorce, and due to the following my dad is refusing to pay child support and all that stuff hes supposed to do.

To make matters worse, my dad has every single symptom of the God Complex (Narcissistic personality disorder) AND Anti-social disorder. EVERY SINGLE SYMPTOM. Hes got the same disorder combination as hitler. Can you possibly imagine how impossible it is to deal with this guy? Symptoms below.

[/center] "In order for a person to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) they must meet five or more of the following symptoms:

--Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) --Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love --Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions) --Requires excessive admiration --Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations --Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends --Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others --Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes."

"Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a long-standing pattern of a disregard for other people's rights, often crossing the line and violating those rights. This pattern of behavior has occurred since age 15 (although only adults 18 years or older can be diagnosed with this disorder) and consists by the presence of the majority of these symptoms:

--Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest --Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure --Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead --Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults --Reckless disregard for safety of self or others --Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations --Lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another" [center]

i don't know what to say.

but you're 16... shouldn't a car be more important than a bike? xD;

I don't have a license, and driving scares me. xD;; Besides, theres less of a chance he would get me a car than a bike.

Tons of excuses right?

Sheesh. Though the bike concept isn't really all that important, relying on your father to keep his word is.

Exactly. To get my hopes up and then crush them. Relying on this guy is impossible now.

if i couldn't trust my parents i don't know what i'd do.

I trust my mother, I dont really need my dad anymore. He doesn't live with us, and life is good when I don't have to communicate with 'im. I knew trying to talk to him today would be a 50/50 chance for disaster.

well, try to enjoy your birthday nonetheless.

my dad has made me cry on my birthday too, but i got over it.

Yeah, I have other plans today to make it awesome.

Been there :/ My parents actually got their divorce around the same time, and by that point, I wasn't even talking to my dad, because he was pretty undependable and a shit head before the divorce, and the fact that he cheated on my mom was the straw that broke the camel's back. I can't even remember my 16th birthday, and don't know if my dad got me anything or not. If he did, it must not have been anything very special - he was never around for my birthdays before he left.

So, I feel your pain. I'm honestly sorry he had to go and fuck things up. But, things can only get better from here, and just take comfort in your mom and your friends, and I hope the rest of your day goes better.

I cried at a job interview today - so don't feel too bad! I messed up more than you ever did.

Hah sounds like me, except my crying was because my two best friends had a massive fallout at my sleepover :/ They were just arguing all night despite me asking them to chill out.

Anyway, i'm sorry about your disappointment... i hate when you rely on people and they let you down majorly

First of all, GOOD that you wanted a bike.. (tis good for the environment and exercise and all.. x-x )

I hope you got something else?

I know how it is to cry on a birthday.. I had that last time I had mine, a dear person to me had to go away because someone in her family wasn't doing well..

I'm sorry you have to go through that :( hope your day gets better from now on. It's great that you have a dependable trustworthy mother too :) if you stick together I'm sure you're going to make it just fine without your father...

I mean, aren't parents there to be trusted?

Happy birthday too :D

I know what it's like to cry on your birthday. My dad is a Vietnam Vet and he goes through these black moods of serious depression and doesn't talk to anyone for days, and when he does, he belittles the person or yells at them for no reason. On my 18th birthday, he was in one of those moods and I was walking downstairs to wait for my uncle to pick me up for lunch and my dad was standing by the front door and I smiled at him and said good morning and he snapped at me and told me to go to hell and he stormed out of the house and didn't come home until late that night. I was floored. All I said was good morning.

I wish I knew what else to say, but I don't. Try to stick with your mom, esp today. Happy Birthday and I hope it gets better!

Well, that's shit. :/ Make sure never to take his word on anything again...

My parents had a massive argument on my 16th Birthday, so I had to just stay home all day and not have cake, lol. My presents were at my dad's house, so I couldn't have them either. Then later that week, they decided to take me to a restaurant to make up for it - but before we got through the door they had another massive argument, so that went out the window >:|

And happy birthday, yeah? :D

I'm really sorry. Happy birthday, though. c:

You really need to be able to rely on your father and he's being too ignorant to. I'm sorry about that. :c

Sorry to hear it. My parents constantly promise me things. My mom normally buys pills and shit instead, or I would assume. And my dad just doesn't have the money. -shrugs-

Thank you for the gifts, and the happy birthdays, and the support. You guys always make me feel better. ❤

Your 16, Go get a job and get money to buy a bike. Sorry, but when you say you were REALLY looking forward to a bike and cried when you didn't get one, you sound 8 :/