Wow.

Today was not a good day at all.

My Step Mom and I got into it. I got up early to take my sister to school this morning. Got up at 6, and we left at 7. My dumbass self got lost after I dropped her off at 7:30 and spent an hour trying to find my way home. I got home and eventually knocked out about 9. I haven't been sleeping well.

I get up about 10:20 to answer the phone, and my stepmom stomps down stairs and demands what I have been doing since I got home, I said I read and fell asleep. She proceeds to bitch at me calling me a lazy ass and that I won't get anything done. She proceeds to tell me that I cannot sleep whenever I want.

Um... hold on a sec, I am 18, I am graduated, why the fuck not?

So my being the loud mouth that I am says, Um first of all you really are calling me lazy? Really? And then I said, Why can't I sleep whenever I want, I am not doing anything, its bull shit you control my sleeping habits.

Boy that pissed her off. She came in my room and got right up in my face. That pisses me off but I said get out of my face, calmly mind you, and she wouldn't so I kept saying it and eventually when you say something enough times and the other person doesn't listen, you get mad. So I yelled at her to get the fuck outta my face, and she kept shoving me, so I went upstairs.

That got worse. She followed me and got in my face again, and once again I said get the fuck outta my face, and she got more pissed off and she hit me, slapped my face, hit my eye, its swollen a bit. I shoved her outta my way since she doesn't listen, and she proceeds to still follow me around pushing my grabbing my hair and putting her hands around my throat.

This process went on for a good while, me screaming at her to get the fuck outta my face, and her pushing, shoving, hitting. I didn't hit her like I thought I would've, the only thing I did was push her outta my way.

Eventually she grabs me by my hair again and tells me to stop saying fuck..

Well then I started to say Fuck Fuckity Fuck Fuck Fuck. Well that pissed her off too, and she continued to pull my hair and hit me. Eventually she lets go and wants me to finish what I said about her being lazy. I am done at this point, so I don't say a damn thing and just sit on the stairs, while she continues to get in my face and threaten to call my dad.

Eventually she gets tired of standing there trying to get me to say something, and calls my dad. He comes home and asks what happened. He only knows the got into a scrabble and I dropped fuck like 50 times.

He doesn't know the details, and he didn't seem to care. He had been the one to say after my parents got divorced that if anyone hit me (ie a new girl) then he would get rid of them.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened. More like the 5th or 6th, and this has been the worst yet.

The only positive thing that came out of this is that my dad said why does it matter if she sleeps? I had told him that if I wanted to take a shit would I have to talk to her because she wants to control everything else. She doesn't actually I was making a point on the control freak aspect.

The reason I called her lazy is because she is. She has been laid off of work for 4 years and all she does is sit on her computer and play World of Warcraft, Smoke Cigarettes, and drink Coke.

Yeah my last few days have been lazy, but really don't I deserve some time to just chill? I worked my ass off this year, and I start college in fall and my new job next week. Give me a fucking break.

So I am not entirely sure what to do now. I want to get out of this place. But anywhere I go I put a burden on people. I don't want to do that, but I also do not want to sit around here dealing with bullshit.

Wow. Is there a friend you can move in with, just until you go off to college and/or have enough for your own place? You should sit down with your dad too, and calmly try to explain things to him. Remind him of his promise, about if anyone hit you, and tell him that although you don't expect him to get rid of her since they're married, that he needs to have a talk with her. If it got really bad, there's always shelters, I guess? I guess all you can do right now is try to stay out of her way. My dad is always at me because I'm looking for a job and he's always yelling at me, but what can I do? I can't force anyone to hire me. Hang in there, it'll get better as soon as your job and college starts. hugs

I think you really should talk to your father about what happened, because what did happen is complete shit. If he won’t listen, and it continues, I think it’s safe to say you need to leave. Also, if you can talk to him, remain calm and don’t try to blame everything on your step mom. Take some blame too.

Either way, try your best to hang in there. It may seem horrible now, but it does get better. If you can, you really should try to stay at home, because even though living away from your ‘rents may be or seem cool, it sucks.

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It wouldn't kill you to try and show a little bit of respect, would it? Granted, her actions were hardly appropriate, but you did everything within your power to escalate it and push every button of hers you could think of.

Sounds like it's time to move out!

Your dad sounds understanding, try talking to him. If you talk to him and nothing improves, I'd suggest moving in with a friend if possible.

Lol yes I did escalate it, but I am sure it would have gotten to that point anyways. I do show her respect, but I didn't today, continuous shit like this, what is there in respect?

I will probably talk to my dad tonight. I don't want them to be divorced, I just don't want to be touched again, a step parent should not touch their step kids.

I don't want to leave, but sometimes I feel I need to because this is just wearing me down. I don't want to do something I will regret.

-sigh-

Thanks guys for your input, I really really appreciate it :). I feel a bit better ^_^;

She better be glad she wasnt my step mom. Mine tried that shit with me when my dad and her first got together. But we had a huge fight and she saw that i would totally take her on. She had some good licks, but so did I. And she left me alone and i left her alone. And now that i dont live there, we both kinda respect each other now.

I would say, don't give her respect, but don't blow up in her face either. Just think "I'm NOT going to stoop down to her level", and rather say things she won't expect? Or just ignore her :p

But yeah, talk to your dad. It's not fair he should only know her side of the story.

I'd move out as soon as possible ,step-parents shouldn't hit thier step-kids.

edited because I can't flipping type.

Haha, I laughed at the fuck fuck fuckity fuck part. is easily amused

But seriously, talk to your dad, and if that doesn't work, leave a note on your dad's work stuff explaining why, and leave to stay with a friend. :)

Good luck! :)

Right now my best friend who I would turn to isn't fond of me right now, we are fighting alot.

I am going out of town Friday mornin, coming back monday, though I am unsure if I will come back, I am very tempted to just pack all of my clothes, my kitty, and just go live with my biological mother, despite the problems we have had. She has never done something to this extreme.

I have bruising on my arms, and I ache. I don't like this.

I haven't been able to talk to my dad, he is around her all the time. She acts like nothing happened and is all nice to my sister and my father, she ignores me.

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Thank you guys for listening to me :), I haven't been able to talk to anyone about this, I cannot exactly talk to my biological mother or my grandparents about this, they already dislike her, and this would just be more shit hitting the fan.

You know.. with you being 18, you could have called the police and charged her with assault and battery. You have the evidence with the bruises and swelling.

Oh my word! She sounds like a total psycho-bitch for lack of a better word. But, ah, I don't think your behaviour helped the situation at all. Try to cut back on your swearing and get on your dad's good side if you want to keep living at that house--otherwise, I think it's time to start looking for your own digs.

You kind of pushed her to do that, you know. I mean, you told someone who more than likely thinks of you as a daughter, "Get the fuck out of my face", you bet she'll be pissed. Sure, she was probably in the wrong to hit you, but you pushed her to do it. If it really bothers you, talk to your dad.

Just grin and bear it, unless she hits you again then have a serious talk to your dad.

You reacted pretty well to her yelling at you i probly would have just punched her right in her little annoying face but i do have some what of an anger problem. If i were you id totally tell your dad exactlly what happened.

Stick a lock on your bedroom door.

Your Dad sounds decent and understanding, not the sort who immediately takes the step-parent's side. If talking to him doesn't work out, and you still really want to move, what about your Mum? If that's not an option, try searching for a cheap rent or a friend's house to stay for a while. There are loads of hotlines and things you can ask advice from, too. :) Keep your head up. Don't act afraid in front of your stepmother. Show you can take her on if need be.

I would move out. I mean, she assaulted you. You could go stay with a friend, or a hotel, or with your biological mother. I'm sure you wouldn't be much of a burden if they knew what happened.

If I were you, I probably would have packed out there and then.

Why should she show some respect? Respect is a two-way street, you know. It should be earned, not given out like candy at Hallowe'en. Yes, there should be common courtesy, but her mom should have the respect to get out of her face when she asks calmly.

She's 18 years old, and has a right to do all she likes. I personally would be very pissed off if someone, even my own mother called me lazy and stuff when in actual fact I wasn't getting much sleep, especially since she doesn't work, sits doing shit all, wasting money on fags and WoW subscription without contributing anything to the household. Now you tell me if you would respect the opinion of someone like that on laziness.