so, I've been friends with someone for about a year, but Idk, I think I'm letting myself be bothered by this. She had a celebration party for school letting out. She talked about it with everyone infront of me, on facebook, her friends would tell me about it, and I am most certain that her best friend came to talk to me on facebook simply to say I had the BEST party ever with (insertfriendsnamehere). And I'm just- oh, glad you had a good time. I secretly roll my eyes behind the comfort of a computer screen. but how stupid is it that I'm letting this bother me? like even a lot lately i've just had a low self-esteem, I'll look in the magazine and go, man, I bet somebody is dating her because she's pretty. I'm not pretty. I must look like a man. D; a guy said I looked masculine like three times too. it made me very upset and I'm still self concious about it. ahhghhgh I feel like I'm not good enough for anybody or anything! ahaha, thanks for reading my random babbling. :/

That was incredibly rude. You don't talk about a big party in front of someone if you aren't inviting them. And you don't gush about the party to someone who didn't get to go. Basic manners.

I ain't gonna tell you to not worry about it 'cause I know that I'd be upset about it if I were you. But you -are- good enough. I don't know you, but every time I've seen you post you seem nice. Maybe you're different offline than on, but if you're able to have a good attitude (at all) that goes a long way towards having good friends and it always makes you worth being friends with.

And, girl. Next time that guy says anything about you pop it back at him that he looks/acts effeminate.

[edit] Maybe ask your friend why you weren't invited. Just let her know that you're a little bothered by it and wonder what's up.

I read the first line and totally freaked out all- what did I do?! xD; ahh

she invited everyone at lunch. I didn't sit at her table to watch, but it was all over facebook. :/

And awh, thanks Sugah. -bighugs-

the ironic part is, the guy who says I look masculine talks maybe just a tiny bit like he's got a thing for guys. xP

actually, I did. It kinda went that I asked her if I was supposed to be at her party because she was sending me mixed messages. earlier (like a month ago) she asked my opinion about having a party and seemed excited to get it all started. well, she said she made a list of people she could invite and picked the first five off her list... sometimes I think she's embarressed to admit that I'm her friend... I have reasons to believe... :/

if she was only allowed to invite the first five from her list, perhaps there is some truth to that. however, like sugah said, there is no reason to gloat about it in front of someone that wasn't able to come -- unless you just want to look like a jerk. but kids are competitive for attention so i suppose that is the excuse for all of these rude behaviors.

i personally wouldn't let it bother you after being given a reason. clearly they have no manners and you are just better for having some.

i also support pro-activity when someone is feeling bad -- so why not have your own party? say for july 4th or something? invite them all to a pavilion in the park where everyone can come? have them all bring something -- a food item and an activity?

as for the guy -- meh. guys are like that. so are magazines.... don't judge yourself from negative angles. you can consider opinions in a constructive manner... but there is no reason to let them rule your self-image.

lol! Sorry for the freakout! And you're welcome. :)

Shatzy's got a good idea there (as per!). Having your own party could even be more fun than being able to go to her's. Especially if you can have it someplace public where you can invite as many people as you want. Five people is hardly a party. It's more like a few friends hangin out.