I opened the doors to my fiances closet looking for a screwdriver. No idea why a screwdriver would be in there, but if you seen this cabinet thing, you'd understand why I looked there.

On the bottom shelf, is this makeshift keepsake box. I opened it, no big deal. But inside, were letters, pictures, and addresses of his exs. According to him, all the girls he's dated has cheated on him.

Among the mentioned above, theirs a ring, a necklace, a pair of ear rings, and a few charms from necklaces.

We've been living together, for almost 4 years now. I never knew he had any one this. Should I be worried?

Confront him about it. That's really the only way to know. They could just be old keepsakes. People like to remember their lovers, some of 'em. Whether they cheated or not- that's really only one aspect of their person, and at some point, he must have been happy, and some happy aspects were memorable.

If they are just keepsakes, he shouldn't have an issue discussing it, methinks. If they're more... =/ Murf. It's really hard to say. It comes down to how well you know your fiance. Moreover, how much you trust him.

Im just terrified if I mention it, he'll be pissed cause I was snooping...but then he looks through my cell phone almost all the time..

Its confusing.....and hurtful

The keeping of jewelry and address book is kind of creepy. Why have those- is he keeping their addresses to return the jewelry?

Keeping keepsakes of your exes is kind of normal. My husband still has dance pictures with his exes and kept a couple of pictures of them until we had been dating for 3 years. I kept a picture and love note that an ex had given me. Sometimes things hold sentimental value that you like to hold onto. It's normal.

Snooping, my ass. If you wouldn't want future wife to come upon that, you wouldn't have it there. Moreover, you were looking for a screwdriver and any normal person would snoop if there was reason to snoop. Suspicious or not. C'mon, we're only human, and as such, trust is a thin line.

Well, he looks through your cell phone, then it would be unfair of him to get mad because you happened to stumble over a box.

And if you really need to know why he has this stuff: confront him.

My boyfriend has some stuff left from his ex's, he doesn't get mad when I ask about them. As he say; "they're just stuff".

Im not sure what the jewelry is for.

I understand the sentimental value of things, since I still have a few elephants that my first real bf gave me.

I dont understand the addresses though. I mean, most of them were from 2000.

I'll ask him about it when he gets home.

i really wouldn't turn it into an issue. it's a few keepsakes from past relationships.

while you don't really seem the type, i just think that getting crazy or suspicious over those items would really be blowing things out of proportion. addresses? meh... who cares. you've been with him for quite a long time... and if all he has is a few trinkets, i'd consider yourself quite secure. ^_^

I agree partially with Shatzy.

Don't show you're really suspicious...that is likely to cause more harm than good. Maybe just offhandedly mention it. There should be no problem asking him about it. Just make sure he doesn't think you're pegging him as disloyal. Be calm and rational.❤

I wouldnt be worried. Its just stuff. But if you ask him about it and he flips out, then I would worry.

But I have lots of stuff my exes gave me, and i dont know if my hubby knows it or not. But if he asks me I just tell him.

You shouldn't be worried ^^ it's kinda weird, but you could ask him about it. Say something like: "I was looking for a screwdriver and I found this box, did you mind that I looked inside?" If he is fine with it, then you should be fine with it.

He's probably just keeping the stuff for sentiment. I have a few things from my ex (and honestly xD he wasn't that nice, but some of the stuff was really worth keeping for the sentiment). And I think everyone has things from previous experiences just to remember them of those experiences :3

Unless he freaks out - it's fine :D