Okay so I've been talking to this guy for awhile, he came down to visit me for a few months awhile back and now I am going down to visit him for the summer/winter (I posted on here awhile ago asking opinions on moving there etc)

At first I thought he was really, really nice as I have had a lot of SHIT boyfriends in my past. He said sweet things and seemed concerned when I was upset, etc etc. We have fun when we're together, he makes me laugh... Regular nice guy stuff, right?

So lately, the past month, he has been...Kind of... obsessive. He goes on my facebook page every single day and comments on EVERYTHING... He texts me at LEAST 30 times a day (no lie), usually more, he calls me every day and when I don't pick up he calls me over and over and over and over and over and over until I do pick up and then asks if I'm ignoring him... He talks to me on MSN every time I go on NON-STOP...He calls my house when I don't pick up my cell phone (if I'm busy or studying or in the fucking shower)

He is always asking where I am, where I am going, who I'm with, how I know them, what bars we're going to, what restaurants we're at...

I mean, it's nice and all but we aren't even close to dating and...Why does he need to know every little detail?

He asks me how I can afford to go out for dinner with my friends sometimes, or where I get money to buy my makeup... Like, he is hella tracking my spending and expenses...

He even talks about me to my best friend, CONSTANTLY, to the point where she is like... "Wtf..."

He's 23 and you'd think he'd know better... As he is a regular, successful, attractive college student...

I kind of feel like he is being incredibly clingy and obsessive, but he is a SUPER nice guy and he's killer to hang out with...Like a lot of the shit I do and...I don't know, knows how to have fun and stuff and SEEMS like a mellow down to earth guy...

Hmmf.

Just curious as to what exactly makes a clingy boyfriend and how I should tackle something like this... (I know we're not dating, or anything at all like that, which makes it weirder) Or maybe I just want to rant and know that I'm not the only lady who is experiencing this... What should I do? Haha...

(Sorry about the essay)

I think if you have a lot in common and like hanging out with him, then at least stick it out for a little bit and talk to him about how you feel and that you'd appreciate it if he toned it down.

But holy shit. This sounds like my sister's situation.

So she works as a bartender. She met this guy, he told her how pretty she is, etc. Usual nice guy stuff as well. They went on a date. He seemed really sweet.

Then he texts her dozens of times a day. She won't respond, he thinks he's being ignored, and he'll start asking if she's ok or what's wrong, etc.

Ok, so, slightly weird.

Then he keeps trying to call when she's at work. She doesn't answer. He repeatedly calls and then starts texting again like ''Are you ok?? Is something wrong?'' etc Then he starts freaking out at her later on about how he just wants to spend time with her and make her happy. She's gets a little creeped out. Process repeats until she tells him to leave her alone.

This all happened in about 2-3 weeks. xD

To be honest, I think if you have to ask what makes a clingy boyfriend, you have a clingy boyfriend.

Not to be the bearer of bad news but some of that is like classic pre-hitting in an a relationship.

If he really is the bomb, then tell him straight up that he's weirding you out. You said you're not dating but it seems like you are. Either he loves you or he's just a freak. :P

I'd take a moment to talk about your relationship, where HE hopes it is going, where you feel it is going, and explain to him how you feel. If he is really the great guy you think he is, he'll back off a bit.

yikes! You should tell him about it. I know the feeling. Hope it doesn't ruin he all around feeling, because he sounds like a nice guy.

Aw man Thanks guys I was trying to avoid talking to him about it because I don't want to hurt his feelings Or...anything like that, haha

Fingers crossed :S

Seriously, I would have told him to shape up long time ago. That's a bit beyond clingy, that's starting to sound stalkerish. Even my semi-clingy boyfriend wouldn't go even near this far.

I know of situations that have started off like that and I just have this much to say... Stay the fuck away from that. Guys like that generally end up doing one of two things.

1. Becoming abusive and/or over controlling.
2. Becoming intolerable and invasive. Sorry ot be so negative, but that is how those things generally go.

I don't want to sound overly negative or rude, but reading your post really gave me the creeps. The behaviour you described goes beyond "clingy". I'd say it goes beyond merely "obsessive" even, and heads into the realms of "controlling" and "manipulative". I wouldn't tolerate too much of that kind of behaviour even from my husband, let alone from some guy who isn't even my boyfriend.

Of course I could be completely wrong. He might really be a decent bloke who simply has no idea about what's appropriate behaviour to try and show a girl that he's interested in her. But you really do need to set him straight and let him know his behaviour isn't acceptable. Hopefully he'll take it in his stride and shape up. Good luck!

i think hes never had a girlfriend be4...i no! but it could be a possibility and maybe hes just trying a bit TOO hard to hold onto you. so his intentions are good, but yea. tell him gently that you wont die if he doesnt call u every sec of the dae.