So my ex just broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. Im still hurting over it and I thought he would be as well seeing as we were together for a year and a half. Well come to find out he's already gone on a date with someone he works with (how we met) and its the same girl whos I.D I found in my car! When I asked him if he gave her a ride in my car he said "no" and that her bf (at the time) had it with him and left it on accident. I cheated on him a month before we broke up and confessed but Im just confused by this now. How can he feel absolutely nothing after everything we'd been through? But he still wants to be my friend, like he pleads to remain friends...Im looosssttt... His reason for falling out of love with me is because I was not handling my shit like I needed to O.O So because I didn't enroll in school yet he fell out of love.....wtf!?

there is something called emotional divorce that people experience for a variety of reasons. it is also claimed that the stronger of the two persons in a relationship usually experiences emotional divorce first, allowing them to be the dumper. (but that is really not the point of my post)

the bottom line is this -- your bf had enough time to come to terms with leaving you. he had experienced his emotional divorce from you while you were still together -- who knows, maybe after you cheated -- and so when he was emotionally ready, broke up with you.

this is why you are still hurting and he isn't. you haven't been given an adequate amount of time to prepare for the separation.

it's best to leave it as that. don't ask for reasons or explanations over X Y and Z... because it doesn't really matter. concentrate more on getting over him and moving on.

That makes sense.

He is playing with my head now though, saying he wants to be friends, "best friends" and "I know he knows me better than anyone else" or he'll start making it seem like it was his fault by saying things like how he isn't consistent with anything and hes only capable of creating bills and problems. Plus he gets mad if i go out with friends, he blew up at me and told me that he felt left out. I don't understand that and my head is just running all over the place.

that's a way for him to keep you tugging on the line.... just in case.

don't be his safety net or second option... seriously. cut that fish from the line.

You're right. Ahahahaha last night was a real eye opener as well, I have been going out with a good friend of his and one of my girl friends (not a date, just us all hanging out..he likes her not me) and have been leaving him out and then ALL OF A SUDDEN he decides to go out as well and told me it was none of my business hahaha he's jealous and even confessed he still had feelings. I have had so much fun with those two this past week and I would always let HIM ruin the fun because he would keep texting me while i was out and it would upset me of course. Im more pissed now than anything and Im glad because I have a reason to not even bother with him. I would seriously rather be angry than depressed/sad, its easier to get over :P

But yea, everyone has been telling me that he is playing me. Good riddance, people like that dont deserve the time and energy :) I feel cleansed. Thanks :D