this is going to be a long ass post so if you don't really want to sit here and read it, i don't blame you. it's sort of like a way to get out my emotion about this situation as well as get all the details in so people don't get confused.

oh, and there's some cussing in here so read at your own risk i guess. here we go.

so my brother is 24 and i'm 16. we're super close for being siblings. anyways, he still lives at home because he doesn't want to live by himself (he's not a piece of shit, jobless and fat mama's boy or anything, so we like having him around).

he had this girlfriend that i and pretty much the rest of the world absolutely adored. they dated for 4 years and then one day he came home with her and told us that they just got engaged. this was my brother's first true love, in all essence.

well, about a month later, and with no warning, this little bitch breaks up with him and leaves him heartbroken (and yes, i have a reason to call her a little bitch for doing so. the story behind that is just irrelevant to this case and i don't feel like elaborating). so everything was horrible, but he's doing better now and stuff.

but now he's got this stupid new little ''person of interest'', and to be completely honest, i know he only likes her because she looks just like his ex-fiancee. she's built just like her and looks like her. and he's spending all his god damn time with her and it SUCKS because i HATE when he's ALWAYS around his fucking ''crushes''. i don't even hang around MY boyfriend that much. yeah, i know he's older and he's going to be spending more time with her, but EVERY fucking night?

and the part that pisses me off to no fucking extent is that he hates all of my boyfriends. and he has absofuckinglutely NO reason to. they're not douches, they don't do drugs, they're not bad influences, they're not rude, etc. my parents and my family always love them, but my stupid brother doesn't. and get this: the one boyfriend that he did like turned out to be a lying sack of crap that actually did drugs but lied to me and my family about it.

good one, ryan.

and every time i confront him about why he doesn't like them he's just like, ''laugh it doesn't matter. don't worry about it'' and ''it's no big deal'' and then he just walks away. well you know why he says that? because he has no reason.

and don't say it's because he's being protective because there's a difference between saying ''oh, i think he's a bad influence on you'' and saying ''i don't like him because he's not someone that i'd hang around with personally so no, i'm not going to like him.'' its' so damn frustrating when he does this.

and what's worse is he hates when my sister doesn't like his girlfriends and doesn't give him a reason but yet he's fine with disliking mine for no reason. akdjfkasjf. if you can't tell i am pissed off to no extent.

and i don't want him to have another girl in his life right now because she's just another rebound chick like he's had in the past and it's just aggravating that he's doing this. i don't want another chick around that reminds me of his ex and i sure as hell don't want him talking about her and bringing her EVERYWHERE with us when we're just going out as a FAMILY. she's NOT in our family, so leave her out, thanks.

i don't know what to do. my boyfriend is a great fucking guy and if he makes me happy, my brother shouldn't give a shit.

maybe your brother thinks your bfs are total douches (in his opinion) but doesn't want to say so because he wants you to just get to know them and doesn't want to ruin your experience?

i say this because my partner used to always have something to say about the boyfriends of the girls he would work with. it was almost always something snide or scoffing. while i wasn't overly concerned about why he was so interested in who they were dating, i DID finally figure out that he was essentially comparing himself to those guys that X Y and Z were dating. not to gain the approval of some girl at his work... but for some sort of silly guy-test in his brain.

it's a guy thing. that's why it may be hard for your brother to explain.... well that and because imagine how silly it would be to explain THAT!

This is coming from personal experience.

My sister is older than me, granted, but she had her first major relationship last year which lasted 8 - 9 months. I liked the guy, but because I knew and thought that this is someone good for my sister.

It seems as though your brother has set a high standard in his mind of the guys he wants you to be with and doesn't feel as though your other boyfriends and your current one, measure up to what he sees in his head.

I wouldn't really worry about, he just seems to want you to have pretty much a prince in shining armor.

but that's totally unfair. and now he pretty much ignores me whenever he's on the phone with her/is around her. i was in his life first, and now that he has this stupid girl, i'm second again.

I'M SO IRRITATED.

surely you can't expect your brother to put his life on the line for you every time. you should probably re-examine the situation(s) and the part you and he plays.

Maybe the reason you think your brother has no reason to dislike your boyfriend is because you like him(bf).Your feelings for your boyfriend is helping you ignore and look past his faults, while your brother can't. He's allowed to have an opinion.

And with the whole ignoring you while he's on the phone... Well he can't ignore his girlfriend either. It's incredibely rude, and he lives in the same house as you. He has the chance to see you every day. Try and talk to him about it. Ask to go to the cinema or do something you both enjoy, and if he says he's busy, make sure you agree to go somewhere when he's not(just remember to make sure he doesn’t agree to do something with someone else at the same time!).

You can't expect him to pay more attention to you than her. Especially when they're on the phone or when he's trying to spend time with her. It doesn't matter if she's a "rebound" girl or not. It'd be the same if he had friends over and wanted to spend time with only them or if he was on the phone with them. Give him space...whining and getting all butthurt because he doesn't want to let you in on THEIR time isn't going to get you anywhere.

And you're upset about him not being supportive of your relationships, but you can't be nice about his ex "first true love" OR about his current girlfriend? I mean, the worst you've been able to say about his girlfriend is that she LOOKS like his ex. That's no better than him not giving you a reason why he doesn't like your boyfriends.

You just come off sounding jealous of his girlfriends in this whole topic.