so I am a seventeen, almost eighteen, year old guy. I am supposed to be in my sexual prime or w/e. thing is is that I have almost no interest in it, and even less interest in relationships.

I've had relationships before, yeah. Neither of them were very interesting and the second could probably even be labeled as catastrophic, but I don't have any hang ups over it or anything. I mean, I have a hard enough time with friendships, I just don't think I need a relationship, you know? I am not interested in any of that at all. I'm not even interested in having sex.

It makes me really uncomfortable talking to people about their relationships, because I feel like I need to recioprocate and I have nothing to reciprocate.

I'm on some anti depressants and I'm wondering if that has something to do with it. I know it can suppress libido but for all of my seventeen years I just never remember having much of one to begin with.

I mean, I'm sexually attracted to guys, I know that. I just don't want a relationship with one... and I don't want to have sex with one, either.

I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for here, I just want to know if anyone else feels even remotely the same. /: I am starting to feel like a serious freakazoid.

If it helps, you're still normal. I wasn't sexually interested in anything until I was about 20 years old, that's a little late, but it doesn't mean I was somehow defective. I know how uncomfortable it is when you're with friends who are sexually interested or sexually active, you feel like you've fallen behind and that you're somehow on the outside looking in, but I just tried to ignore it. My friends were my friends, they didn't need me to have experiences of my own to be able to talk to me about shit, although it may have helped. For a while they all thought I was some kind of scared wilting flower, that they couldn't "talk shop" around me because I'd be offended, uncomfortable or jealous, I just had to explain that I wasn't in that place yet, but that didn't mean I didn't understand it or couldn't talk about it. By the end of university I knew all my friends' secrets XD

Anyway, don't feel like a freak. Everyone is different, everyone reaches different stages in life at different times and that doesn't make them messed up. If you're concerned that your meds may be a problem, then I would suggest talking to your doctor. If that's not the case, then don't worry. Just be who you are and do what you're comfortable with. Whatever happens, happens.

I'm like that too, don't worry.

I'm a girl, I'm seventeen, I'm attracted to men, but I don't find sex that.. interesting really. xD I doubt it helps but I feel like a freak too lmao. D:

I guess it'll come in time? I can't really say because I'm in the same boat as you, really.

wow, i have the exact opposite problem. (being 15 and wanting sex/relationship constantly)

everyone's different w/ different problems. i don't think you're a freak, you're probably pretty stable/sane...not everyone wants just SEX SEX SEX and relationships are very...scary (not that i've ever HAD one, just...read about them.)

i dunno what i'm going with there but ah...hang tight?

honestly i don't think you're weird at all, you seem like you atleast know what you want/don't want.

i want to say that i was touched by the idea that you feel out of place because you aren't a seventeen year old sexual jackrabbit. if anything, you should feel proud for not falling into the social norms.

many, many people feel the way you do. i'm almost convinced that so many teens would NOT be having sex if it weren't for the extraneous social pressure and expectation to do so.

your self-reflection is enough to make you a sound human being. like arya said, certainly your friends can value that aspect of you as well without having to have actual experience. just don't feel inept because you aren't running around poking things into people like everyone else.

talk it over with your doctor to make sure it's not a physical issue but if it's not, then don't worry about it. contrary to what the movies, tv and magazines try to prove, not every human being spends their entire life in the pursuit of nookie. When the time is right for you, and the person is the right one, then things will work as they should.

I'm pretty much the same way. I'm not all that interested in sex, and I think my libido is pretty normal all things considered. It's not that I'm afraid to have sex (I'm 16 and people seem to find this weird that I don't want to spread 'em for any guy who's interested), I'm just not interested. Maybe it's because I'd rather have relationships without it and not have to worry about being pressured into it. You sound normal, though. Like most people have said, at least you know what you want out of life. =3 It's not like it'll never come, but it's not like everyone is really THAT into high-school sex anyway (at least most of the people I talk to aren't). It's just a weird fad that's going on now. Don't feel pressured by it.

it's totally not the anti-depressants. though they can suppress libido, they do not suppress the desire to be with someone. personally (having been on anti-depressants for years) i think they might encourage that (i became less anti-social when i went on drugs and was more inclined to be in a healthy relationship)

just wait it out- people totally develop differently. i was totally not interested in sex or relationships, really, until i met my current guy, and we now have plans to spend our lives together. it's just all about fining the right guy at the right time.

consider yourself lucky that you are not interested in sex OR a relationship! it would suck to be into a relationship and not want sex (if he did) or not want a relationship and want sex all the time (can get hella drana0fied and seriously dangerous).

good luck in your endeavors, ahaha! once it happens to you, you'll realize how wonderful it is to be in a loving relationship 9and how fun sex is, too!)