So there's someone that I really like. I met them here on subeta and we've know each other for quite awhile now. We've recently started talking over webcam and stuff like that. The problem is, we live 20 hours away from each other, and that distance is about it get a lot larger.

I've had a few online relationships before, but they never really last. I'm also afraid of rejection, the only two other times I've told people I like them they've rejected me.

BUT I really like this person, a lot. I've hinted it, but they've never truly responded.

Any advice, or am I destined to be floundering around forever? ;~;

Personally i wouldn't go for an online relationship. Since you've never met this person in the flesh, you can't know what they're really like, and you can't enjoy the closeness of having them there for real...and 20 hours seems very long if you wanted to meet up in person too.

i think if you have a history of online relationships -- and then those relationships fail to work out -- it's probably best to stop falling for people online. you should probably understand how easy it is to fill-in-the-blanks about people on the internet with imaginary behaviors and conditions. this isn't necessarily bad... but it isn't the safest or most honest thing to do to yourself either.

i would totally suggest putting on the brakes and controlling your emotions towards people on the internet.

1.5 years online isn't the same as 1.5 years IRL.

Well, it's more getting the courage to tell them this. ^^; I appreciate everyone's views.

About my past online relationships, I was younger. I didn't really have feelings for the people I was with. They didn't really 'fail', I just lost interest in having them (as harsh as that sounds).

But I really truly like this person. I'm still unsure since you guys seem to disagree with it. ^^;;

here's the thing --- if you aren't going to flat-out tell 'them' that you like 'them'... then you need to walk away. hinting around isn't working and there is no sense in playing games.

I'm not seeing what you're really asking for here. Advice on how to tell them you really like them or advice on how you should move your relationship as the mileage between you two grows larger?

My personal opinions aside, I've seen quite a few people meet on the internet and have wonderful relationships. I've even seen many couples get married and have families that met online. It's not something I recommend as it does seem rare for them to work out, but it's not a hopeless case.

If you really care for this person, why not just tell them exactly what you're trying to tell us here? Even if past relationships have failed, you get right back up and keep going. You don't want to wonder what would have happened down the line had you said something.

Well some of you were were a bit ruder than others, but I think I have the guts to tell them now. If they don't like me back I guess I don't have anything to lose.

it's just life. you post a query on the internet, you have to expect to interpret text in your own personal way. this is why rolling the dice on an internet relationship is always a harder gamble than real life.

glad to hear you have the guts to be up-front.

Well, if you want to tell this person you could just show them this thread. :3 XD