I hate his friends.. He has SOO many of them. =[

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3.5 years. We are 16+17 years old. We are both very down to earth. And quiet. I only have him, hes my best friend as I am to him.

But he has SOOO many guy friends. I get very jealous.. Sometimes we start fights over them. I just hate it a lot. Maybe i dont understand guys, I grew up with 4 sisters. I only have one friend who is like my sister and ive known her since kindergarten..

sooo i dunno. does any other girl feel this way? how do i overcome this? i love my boyfriend sooo much.

There's your answer right there. :/

My best advice would be get to know them, maybe get to know more people (does your friend know anymore people you could meet?) while you're at it. I'm shy myself but it isn't too hard to get to know more people and build new friendships.

maybe you get jealous of his excitement and happiness he has with his friends. getting into fights about it is rather destructive and i really hope you learn to deal with these emotions in a constructive manner.

with so many friends, what are you afraid of?

I dont know. Maybe I feel like hes having more fun with them than me. I have emotional problems anyways because I live with an alcoholic dad so I feel really bummed sitting at home while hes having fun with his friends. Hes my best friend and I'm his, but still.. I wish he would want to hang out with me all the time! =/ Hopefully these jealousy issues will pass with time and as I mature..

Well, maybe ask sometime if you can come with? Getting to know his friends and maybe getting to like a few of them will probably help you some. It sounds like you're just lonely and need some company. So, go with him if you can. I don't mean make a pest of yourself and cling all the time, but going places with him and his friends every now and then would be good for you, I think.

again, i agree.

i'm wondering where the girlfriends are of the other boys (er, providing they have some). maybe you can make a gf group and do (different) things with them while the guys hang out?

I've always been one of the boys so I usually hang out with my boyfriend + our homies no problem. Well, some of them I get really mad @ sometimes but I always stand up for myself and let them know if I gotta problem with it ;D The trick is to not say too much until you get a feel for them, a lot of times guys get weirded out by some of the things girls say.

Since you're a girl through and through though, I think Shatzy's idea is great. You won't feel jealous one bit if you have your own fun group of friends to hang out with! Plus, if you become involved in other activities and hobbies, it will make you seem a lot more interesting and elusive.

I'll tell you this now to save you a lot of trouble in the future: Guys DO NOT want a girl who just hangs on them all the time. The more mysterious and independent you seem, the more attractive he will find you and the more he will desire to see you instead of his friends. Imagine driving him sick with a desire to see your uber-cool and confident self!

Next time he calls, don't be so eager to drop your plans to be with him. In fact, tell him you're doing something with YOUR friends instead--even if you're not. I've done this before and it works. It seems deceitful but it's harmless, and absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

You hate your boyfriend hanging out with his friends because you hate that he's happy.

You're sucking out his soul, lady.

jealousy and possessiveness is normal. it's okay cause you love him, yeah?

Yeah if you know it's normal it isn't so bad.

Try and hang around with other people for a while and understand that even if he is in love with you, he will want to hang around with other people. (Even Romeo got Meructio and Benvolio, right?)