...but will probably not change the course of my entire life. But it's still caused me to be jittery and upset this morning.

Background:

So, this has happened between Me and Friends -3. Friend completely hates Friend , even through they used to be friends. Friend refuses to hang out with , but simply dislikes and is annoyed by (mainly because of the 'feud' that she proclaimed). I'm staying neutral on this, with between neutral but becoming annoyed with as well. Ultimately, she just doesn't want to get in a fight. Oh, and happens to be one of the (if not the) most emotional people I have ever met.

But to the real fight/story. asked me and to go to a movie, but doesn't give the time/place until after asks me to go to see Transformers with her the next morning. I explain to before I get said time/place that I there's a chance I could go, but probably not. I'm beginning to feel in the middle (again), especially since I did promise to see Transformers with at some point (not on a set date). But I know the others formally (for the lack of a better word) invited me first, and that even if is going to be mad I went to do something with and not her, it's right to go with them. I even go to my mom, and she agrees that I'm definitely right by going with and 3. She would never pat me on the back for doing the wrong thing.

So, I go with and 3 and have a great time. I go home, and later in the night I chat with . She immediately asks me how the day was; I only say 'Good. xD', because I know it'd make her mad to say anything more, even if she asked. I quickly ask her how Transformers was, but she replies that she went with her neighbor and said neighbor's dad to a movie they were going to. However, they were forced to leave half-way through because the Dad thought it was too violent. I apologize for her crappy day, because I really do feel sorry. Plus, my guilt level is skyrocketing because I could have let this whole thing never happen. Trying to cheer her up, I say that I still want to see Transformers with her, like I promised.

Next thing I know: 'Well you already broke that :/'. WOAH WOAH WOAH.

I had promised to see it with her, not to see it with her at 2:50 at the Soandso Theatre. I was frustrated, but I was still guilty, and not to mention I didn't want her to blow-up. So I apologize twice, and repeat that we should just go see it soon. And now the real thing comes in when she begins to say how much she just wants to be away from and what she's done and she wants a new start. has told me all of this multiple times, but the one new thing is this new start means ending our friendship now.

And I just know this is because that I refused to stop being friends with . I'm completely upset, and she only starts to make it worse by saying how we are always 'talking about what great times we have' and 'leaving her to cry'. Excuse me? I said one word, one word. I have never gone gabbing about the our wonderful adventures in Wonderfulland. And isn't she the one who told us, 'If you invite , do not invite me.'? I tell her all of this, including what my mom encouraged me to do. This changes her excuse to 'I don't want to get angry at you.'

Now, this does sound and look great. But to me, it's an insult. I have been friends with for years, and as I said, she's emotional. But I've always listened to her rants and her angst. I've always given her advice. I've stuck by her when she was angry and upset and no one else wanted to get involved with her. And suddenly she thinks getting angry at me merits the end of our friendship?

Again, I tell her this, and suddenly she runs out of steam and asks for time to think. I say she can have as much as she wants, that I'll respect what's she saying more if it isn't in the middle of an outburst that was not thought out. I expect our conversation to end there so she can 'think', but no. She instead talks to me before leaving, which really made me relieved, because at least she didn't want to run the hell away.

So, after waking up this morning, I feel angrier then I did the past night. The more I think about it, the angrier I get. And I really do hate being angry, because it's such a dumb, blinding emotion.

So what this really drawn-out story is asking for is advice, or even just opinions. After typing this all out, I'm wondering whether this was just one of her random outbursts or a real proclamation of ending our friendship. I'm just confused, and it's giving me a big stomachache, and in need of some outside opinions. ^_^; Thank you in advance for anyone who bothered to read this. I didn't want it to be so long, and I took out details as well...

Well honestly I don't think there is much you can do. Your friend doesn't want to be around and you aren't willing (and I support that) to give up your friendship with because of a fight that didn't include you.

If friend cannot accept your friendship with others, it will be really hard for you two to stay friends. Friend cannot expect you to not see other friends, because that wouldn't be fair and it wouldn't be something that a friend (a true friend) should be asking.

Now if friend is as emotional as you say she is, perhaps you should write her a letter and ask her to write you back. Writing something down takes more time and friend will have the time to actually think really hard about the situation and perhaps realize that what she is trying to do isn't fair?

I'm not sure though :3 I would say that friend isn't being a true friend at this point, but you've been friends with her for years so breaking that friendship would be quite hard and even probably unnecessary.

I hope she just gets to look at the situation again and see it differently now ❤ Good luck with this though, I'm not much help I'm afraid.

i honestly think you were wrong when you chose to go to the movies with 3 and 2 instead of with 1. friend 3 never gave you a time/place, even though she asked you first. friend was set to go. i can easily see why she would be mad and hurt at that.

clearly feels neglected for her feelings and i can see why.

personally i don't buy the 'neutral' crap that people do to each other. its rude and insensitive. it's basically saying that you overlook someone's feelings because your feelings are most important when, in fact, it's just childish and selfish behavior. raising the 'im neutral' flag is cowardly, imo.

while i will grant that perhaps the drama between and is immature, there is really no reason to play the girls against each other -- and that is really what is going on, whether you intend it or not.

clearly is telling you that she feels hurt... and it seems that everyone is using the 'shes so emotional' card to their advantage.

oh man.... if i were ... i'd be looking out for and ditching the lot of ya.