Okay, so I'm going to warn people that this is a long story, but if I didn't explain myself, feel free to ask for more details.

I met this guy a while ago and we had a lot of interests in common, and got along really well. Neither of us got into what you deemed a 'relationship' but we had more of a friends with benefits going on. When we both decided to not take things further, we went our separate ways, and I started a committed relationship with another man and then I found out he got back together with his ex. I don't hate or hold anything against him for it, but I've always wondered if he was seeing her while he was "with" me. Just a curiosity thing. They were together again for about 2 months before they broke up again. lol

Anyways, a few days ago I was visiting a girlfriend of mine who lives in the same city. He found out of course and said we should get together to just catch up and maybe have a drink together. I did not want anything from him, but agreed to meet only if my friend could come along to make sure he did not start anything. So we went out for a few social drinks and he had a friend along too. We all drank and talked about life and then headed home.

I could tell that my "ex" was talking privately about me and so when we left I was curious again. His friend walked us to the train and waited with us until it came. I decided to just ask him what my "ex" said of me before we met. He didn't answer my question to I re-worded the same question and he responded before he realized oh fuck. I did not want to answer that.

So he goes on to tell me about how he was told I was an ex from up north. I just kinda laughed because I did not know we were happy though because I'm still kinda afraid of the social stigma from a FwB dealie....

Anyways, the next day my ex calls me and asks if his friend could have my number so he could ask me a question, thinking that he wanted my friend's number because they hit it off that night, I gave my number out. He used my friend as an excuse to call me but called me to wish me a safe trip home.

When I got home, he called me again. He started talking to me about what I thought about my "ex" because the question I asked him made him curious..and started going on about how he thought that I wanted something more then what I was getting..and when I said I didn't..he accused me of lying and said he thought something was wrong. o.O

He then asked about what my feelings were for the "ex" and if I wanted anything more...and I was like I just think of him as a friend. I'm preoccupied with someone else and he keeps going back to his ex and..that they should go do w.e yadda ya

and he then asked me if I ever wanted anything more..and I said maybe at one point but not anymore can you drop this subject please? I'm happy with who I am with right now.

and then he keeps apologizing for me not having a good time in the city and that next time I come down he'll make it better and we could go do stuff, me him whoever and I'm like .........

I WAS happy I DID have fun

Then I hung up on him

WTF is with this guy? Is he trying to dig dirt up on me for my "ex" What do you think? honestly?

I think he was digging dirt. Could be the ex put him up to it or the guy could be really nosy. I wouldn't talk to this guy anymore or mention it to your ex. If this continues to happen, just block the guy's number. You don't need this kind of drama in your life, especially when you've made it clear numerous times the conversation makes you uncomfortable and you're happy with what you have right now.

why in the world are you continuing with any of that crap??

having a social drink with (friends and) your ex is one thing -- something i wouldn't have promoted -- but to go further with this phone calling business is just weird, imo. why are you bothering??

your curiosity is beyond me. i'd totally leave my trash in the past and move on with what i have.

The girl that I went with hit it off really well with the ex's friend. He called the first time because he wanted to talk to her which she did. She never gave him her number apparently and so when I first talked to him, he asked about her but I refuse to give out anything of my friend's

ok but had it been me, after the discussion changed from my friend, i would have ended the communique asap. i hope things get better for you for sure.