I went out with this really sweet guy for a year, then broke it off because we never really went anywere because he was so shy. I got physicly detached from him after waiting a year for him to kiss me.

Now a year later we are still great friends but now he wants to be more then that again. Idk if I like him the same way anymore. I mean...I could, I'm always thinking about him, but idk if I could do it. If he was a little more self confedent then maybe we'd get further then holding hands? Not to mention he is kinda lazy and unambisious and it drives me absolutly crazy. But, he's kind and funny and he gives me all the attention he can which I love, I just can't get over it. And I feel I'm trying to change him more then is fair. Should we just stay friends?

just because cheesecake is offered after dinner doesn't mean you should take a slice. i could offer you a variety of reasons why you should or shouldn't eat that delicious-yet-naughty dessert... but ultimately it is your choice (and health) that has to deal with it. personally, i'd much rather have something more long-lasting than a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips.

wink wink

Haha! I like that. :D

Why didn't you kiss him? Maybe he was waiting for you to be ready. I had that problem with my boyfriend. He didn't think I wanted him to kiss me, so he waited for months, while I was waiting for him to kiss me. Did he say he wasn't ready? Sometimes it takes initiative on both sides. I would suggest talking to him, and telling him why it ended the first time, and say you don't want something like that to happen again.

Sounds like you just want the attention he is giving, not him.

Look, if you really wanted to be with the guy, you wouldn't be questioning it like this. Examples of your hesitancy:

Idk if I like him the same way anymore[/quote]

I could

- doesn't mean you do

[quote=]If he was/did...

Your answer is in your own post. You didn't ask if you should be more, you asked if you should just stay friends because that's what you really seem to want.

Side note, has anyone else ever really noticed how those "really sweet guys" turn out to just be the friend guy? /derail

The previous posters have valid points. Do you like this guy or just the attention? It doesn't have to him who take the first step all the time :)

If he's more like a brother than boyfriend material I'd say no. but if you have really strong feelings for him then take him back..at least he didn't cheat on you.

i agree with drowning_n_sorrow

If you're feeling reluctant, my advice would be to stay away. It would most likely stay the same way you are now, good friends, and because you're having doubts now, you're going to have doubts later on in the relationship where it'll hurt to break it off more so than it will now. In this situation (which I've been in more than once), I suggest to not over think your feelings for him, and if you have to think about it, he's not right for you. I hope that helps. : )