Posting here reminds me that it will be 6 months that my grandmother is gone...on Christmas Day. How awful. In case anyone wants to read, since it's already public on Subeta, my grandmother, Nanny as I called her...recently won the pet spotlight. here. I forgot to add that to my first post. So sorry for your losses...

This is a beautiful thought. I want to say to everyone that I am sorry for your losses. hugs all around I miss my Nana most of all. She was my pillar of strength in an otherwise dark dark world. Her home was my safe haven. She treated everyone with equal kindness and respect, no matter what walk of life they came from. She was so so very wonderful that I actually feel sorrow for those who were unfortunate enough to have never met her.

I am Jewish and lost my dad around Passover (Northern hemisphere, Spring) a long long time ago but i still mourn. My heart aches for everyone who has posted and for the alone-ness that we all feel and I wish we could all be doing this together facing each other and benefitting from all the love that's happening here. thanks for this topic. ♥ Very touching words spoken and a beautiful picture of the love a marriage is supposed to build. I miss your Nana and wish I had met her. We all need to be a little more like that. hug Love you all!

Thank you for this topic, and I'm so sorry for everyone losses.

A few years ago I lost my father who died of a stroke in the age of 53, on his birthday, and on my second wedding aniversary. He was my rock, and I miss him badly!

, so many people to lose :(, big hugs,

christmas has been hard these last few yrs after losing Hubby's mum 3yrs ago as she loved christmas, it is also hard as my nan's birthday was on boxing day and she has been gone 8ys now,we lost both alan's dad and my grandfather 5yrs ago a month apart from each other, nearly every day we talk about them and how we wish they were here to see the children hubby and I have and how our kids would of loved them back.

This is a great topic. I didnt lose anyone this year but in 2011, i lost my grandpa to lung and skin cancer. I've lived with my grandparents most of my life (mostly because my mom cant support herself let alone someone else too..) and so it was kind of hard the first year without him. He was great and did everything to make sure i had what I needed. He bought me my first car and that car has been with me for 8 years and I just had to trade it in because it would not have lasted the winter. Oh, that first year I was so depressed I just wanted to crawl in bed and not wake up for a couple years. It didnt help that my mom's boyfriend kicked her out and she had to live with us...and I had to deal with her drinking and all her crap. But oh, I find myself wishing that I had Ned Piemaker's powers to bring people back from the dead with a single touch. (Pushing Daisies for those who dont know who Ned Piemaker is. Well, the narrator never mentions his last name. I am guessing it is probably Ned Piemaker though)

My grandpa would have been 89 this last November....

I lost my uncle Yusef about a month after I had graduated high school I ended up not starting college until a semester later because I was really shook up. He was an amazing individual who didn't have an easy life, but the life he did have was amazing. I wish I would have been old enough to see him when he was in full drag because he was absolutely beautiful in the pictures I found while going through his things after the funeral. He was true to who he was and it really helped me when I told my parents who I really was. I miss him more than words.

Hugs and much to everyone in this thread I'm tearing up like crazy I wish you all happy holidays and much love.

sorry to hear that I didn't loose a person but I did loose a friend who was my pet bunny a long time ago and even though it was a short time I cherished those moments even at times I do cry when the memories come back to me. I even wonder what would have happened if I managed to save my friend/pet bunny from the horrible fate even though it wasn't my fault that my friend got attacked by a unknown animal. Then again I wouldn't have got my dog today I suppose.

This year, I have been lucky not to have anyone die. 2011 was a very bad year. My uncle died of cancer, then three aunts died (they were all my mother's siblings) followed by two cousins. To cap it off, a couple of days before my birthday - and on father's day no less - my dad died. He'd been unwell for a while but seemed to be rallying when he had a stroke and, mercifully, it was quick after that.

We hadn't got on well in the last few years and I hadn't seen him for 6 months - mainly due to the fact that it was a good 5 hour trip back from where we lived. The last time we spoke it was Christmas 2010 and we'd had a few words. He'd been snarky about my husband and I'd snapped at him. He wasn't much for telephones and so we didn't speak again. His sudden downturn and death took us all by surprise and so I wasn't able to be there and I didn't see him again. At the time, I thought it would be better to remember him as he was in life rather than in death, so I didn't go to see him when he was in the chapel of rest. It's something that I am only now admitting that I regret. I never got to say goodbye. He was my dad and, despite our differences, I miss him.

I'm not the sort of person who offers prayers as I'm not overly religious myself. I will offer heartfelt thoughts, hugs and sympathies to all who have 'lost' someone.

The loss of my mother devastated me. I needed more time to make things right.

I would like to say to anyone who reads this - don't waste time. You cant mend bridges once they're gone. You may feel justified in keeping your distance but take into consideration how it affects everyone around you and how you'll feel when the justification suddenly seems stupid and petty.. its not a good feeling.

Do not waste time. Let them know you care. Let go of your pride, your anger, your indignation - let the past be the past. Before it's too late.

This is a wonderful idea. I miss my brother- a lot. We've always been close, and even though I moved away from our home three years ago to go to University, I would still see him at least once a month- either I would visit him or he would visit me. But over this past summer, he moved to South Dakota for a job- which is about 15 hours away. I miss having him around to help me through hard situations and getting to just spend time with him. We went through a lot growing up, and it was good knowing that he was never more than an hour or two away from comfort- so it's been so hard with this new living situation. He didn't die- but the distance is just a lot to handle.

And everyone on this topic who has suffered losses this year. We lost two of our beloved pets, and that is very hard, but not in the same league as your losses. My hugs and sympathy to everyone. As for me, I miss my "sis," WolfieMIne, who loved Subeta a lot and died after a long battle with cancer. We were as close as if she had been an actual member of my family. As says so well, never let a day go by without showing you care about the ones you love. We only have this moment in this day as a surety, so make the most of each bit of time.

Two years ago, I lost my great grandmother. She had just turned 98 shortly before she passed. I start to miss her a lot around this time because it was a family tradition to all gather at her house for Christmas Eve. We'd all eat dinner together, and then we'd open up some gifts with her. She always said not to get her anything because she didn't want anything, but everyone would always bring her gifts anyway and I knew she enjoyed it. She loved having us around for the holidays. I remember that every Christmas, she'd always wear the same sweater. It was red, with Santa's face and it said something like, "I've been good this year." haha. Every year. She died in September of that year, so that December, it felt weird not going to her house for Christmas. It's just not the same without her anymore.

I love this idea very much .

I can't spend all the time I'd like to honor those I've lost here, but the most recent three were my mom's best friend (like a second mother to me) she held me when I was born. She passed of complications including tumors in her brain. It was TOTALLY unexpected. It had started with a seizure. She'd never had one in her whole life. So she went to the hospital and they ran tons of tests on her and one of them they found the spots. :( We weren't able to be there to pay our respects as we live so far away now and work. But we miss her dearly and ache from the loss. Today is her birthday ironically as this thread was created.

The other two were my furbabies. I lost them just months apart from each other and to say much more will cause me more pain and tears then I care to deal with. I spend most of my time "distracting" myself from the thoughts as to not break down every minute. Sometimes I can think of them with just joy and no pain but a lot of the time my thoughts go to the "what if's" and I have to stop and focus on ANYTHING else. I don't know that I will ever mend the holes they left and I don't know when I can adopt again because no one can hold a candle to my girls.

I will spare everyone of my babbling as I could go on about my second mom and furbabies all night but as I said, the pain and tears. I'm currently wiping them away furiously.

I am sorry for the losses everyone else has suffered as well. That is one thing so hard to recover from. They say "it gets better with time" but it doesn't it just keeps that mark on our hearts.

Really...that is fuc... hard. I can´t know how you feel, I think... It must be more than hard. Much more. This year I lost my grandfather. Its a strange feeling, because...I never lost someone in my family or friends before him... And we never had a very stronge bond...but in the last time...

I´m very sorry, because of the lost from everyone here...

This is a wonderful topic. Thank you so much, and I'm very sorry for your losses. My great grandfather passed away not too long ago. I miss him, he was amazing and funny and he'll always be in my heart. My uncle had a procedure a couple of months back to remove cancer from the bone structure under his eye, and it's back now but we're all hoping for the best and we know he'll pull through. To everyone above and below who have lost loved ones, I give my deepest condolences. I know it's hard and I know it hurts. There's so much loss in the world but we will pull through. Everything's going to be alright. ❤ Happy Luminaire, Merry Christmas, and if any of you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

It's hard losing the ones we love, and I am sincerely sorry for all of your losses. They may be gone from this world, but they are never gone from our hearts; and that's what is most important.

I lost my dear friend and adoptive uncle almost 8 years ago, come this May. He was such a good man to his friends and family, and he was well-loved. He used to tell me stories of how the skies were all painted by me. I'd tell him he was a liar, but he insisted that I painted everything around us. And you know what, I wish I would have told him I believed him. One of these days, I will paint a sky for him.

My beloved Husky, Chief. Words cannot describe how awesome and incredible of a dog he was. My pet, Peace of Mind, is a memorial to him. I remember how I sat with him through his death. I cried for hours, so much that I couldn't speak. If I could go back in time and plead for my parents to never take him to that damned pet store, I'd do it in a heart beat. Today he sits with my on my desk. He keeps me company.

And lastly, my best friend whom I have not talked to in months. I love him so much that sometimes it hurts. I'm wishing him well, and I hope to speak to him someday soon.

I lost my cousin Amanda a couple of years ago in January to a heart attack she was only 29 I still miss her lots...

i am very sorry to hear about your losses. i haven't lost a person but in the past years i have lost most of my pets; a dog i had sinse i was four, and three cats who were my everything. one of those little ones was bassically the reason i kept living, but a car hit him and he didnt survive; it's very difficult living without him because he was my strenght, the only one who never left me alone and who i could talk to when i was feeling down. he stopped me from killing myself a thousand times; he would just ask to be petted or kiss my arms. i miss them lots, all of them and specially this little one.

My first crush was killed in a car accident two years ago. His mom is a close family friend, it's heart breaking to not only miss him myself, but to see the impact it has made on her. She's sold her house, broke up with her fiancee, and her own mother has gone off the deep end over it. Still, it's also a source of strength for her, and she's used the need to change her life and grab on tight to what she wants to do before it's too late. She's opened a yoga studio, and continues with her bee keeping.