- I don't know how you do it. My youngest has Aspergers but He's no where like Liz. You're a saint but also very lucky. Myne will eventually move away and get a life of his own. Liz will always be with you. Sigh Sometimes I wish mine would be 5 years old forever. I love him more then I can express now but he was so darned cute when he was 5. XD

- We'll all stop adulting for the weekend. 😂 I'm happy you finished one of them. perhaps it is your mood but maybe the books really do suck. XD

I didn't know your youngest had Aspergers. From things you've said he seems like he's high functioning though. Yes while I do so much for Liz I often wonder had she been high functioning how would I be able to let her go and I know it's probably not easy for you. I was very wild in my youth and I always think that's so I would have it all out of my system and be a good mom for Liz. I try to look at the bright side but dang I do sometimes wish I was laying on a beach somewhere hot and tropical with no cares in the world. lol

- he is high functioning but darn, sometimes he throws me for a loop. He's so rigid and spock like in his mannerisms that I wonder how he'll make it in today's world if he has to get a real-world job. I'm teaching him everything I can including how to introduce him to strangers. It's been an adventure. XD I understand your desires. I think every parent looks forward to the time their child flys the nest, not because they don't love their child but because they want them to become a successful part of society. That is not easy these days. I swear, society is messed up. :/

And you're a good mom trying to teach him people skills. I keep trying to teach Liz how to make a Lean Cuisine and I always tell her, "some day when I'm not around you will be happy you know how to make yourself something for dinner". And I agree that society is messed up these days.

- I try but sometimes I think it's futile. It's good that you teach Liz skills like that. I'm not sure they understand why we teach them those skills. I have tried to explain it to my son but he seems oblivious. I remind him of my stroke and he says things like, "That was then, this is now." As if a second one couldn't happen at any time. facepalm I still teach though because if I can make life even the littlest bit better for him after I'm goine then I'll do it. Whether he understands or not. Sometimes, I wish I could just look into his brain to see how he processes stuff so I could teach him better . Oh, well. I do what I can and so do you. That's why you're a good mom too. :D ❤

It's not easy trying to get them to "get" that we're merely trying to help them for when we're not around. sigh Kids!! lol But when Liz is at her job and any of the other employees or the job coach teaches her something new she's all happy about it. I guess I kind of get that as my mom drove me right up the wall. But we'll both keep trying cause we're just good moms! 💗💗💗And it is hard trying to teach people who process differently.

diana - That's vvery true. ❤ Have you ever asked her job coach to teach her something that you've tried to teach her? There are times when I ask the hubby how he would broach a subject and he has no clue. I'd love someone else who I could ask about stuff I've been trying to teach him, like how to prioritize tasks and people. He just doesn't get it that sometimes people have to come before tasks. :)

priorities and prioritizing are difficult and subjective so I understand why it's really difficult!

I'm in need of a longer vacation from adulting than I can really afford alas

- You are so very right. I've tried to approach it like they do in an Emergency room with Triage but he's never worked in one so he doesn't always get my references. So, I've tried it like when you cook multiple things for a dinner, you have to prioritize each item so it will be done at the right time. He understands that better but not quite all the way. So, I'm still searching for that perfect, teachable moment. 😂

Part of the problem with Liz is she doesn't process pain like you or I would. Basically, she doesn't feel it and that's rough as having her help in the kitchen would be too dangerous. Although, I have got her to heat up her daily snack in the microwave. She eats 2 small frozen turkey sausages and heats them for 45 seconds but I'm always near as she could easily set the microwave for 4.5 minutes and might not notice, or even think it would matter. Her current job coach has had more success with her than anyone and it does help with Liz wanting to try more things. 👏🏼

I get it and adulting is exhausting! I had a super busy week and I have a million things I need to get done tomorrow and Friday but I plan to be a bit lazy this weekend. ☺️

- I need to find a job coach like that. Where did you find them? Is it a social services type thing? :D

I think it is through our state social services. It's called Developmental Disabilities Administration or DDA for short. It might be something worth checking into. So Liz has a job at a pizza place called Mod Pizza and they hire people with disabilities. She mostly folds boxes and fills ranch cups which would seem very boring to me but she loves it. She's behind the counter with the people taking orders and baking the pizzas so to her it's lot's of fun. There's some awesome youngish people that work there and always keep an eye on her when her job coach isn't there as her job coach is only there one shift a week as funding is tight these days.

- That definitely sounds like something I'd like to find here, for my youngest. Something like that would really help him. I'll let you know what I find. :D

I sure hope you can find a program. I think there's probably more programs here that would be appropriate so if you could get someone on the phone they might be able to offer more suggestions. Good luck!!💜

I have less energy for everything, here's hoping it passes

I hope it works out for you & son with job stuff / coaching!

I feel you! I used to be a neat freak and now I'm pretty messy. Still worry about germs though. LOL Your HA is beautiful!

thank you, so is yours, these new hairstyles with scrunchy options are awesome.

I have never been anything but messy - as a kid, my mom made me keep my room door closed because she couldn't get me to clean it lol. I'm definitely careful about germs too. (do not like them one bit!)

I love the new scrunchies! So fun! I was messy too but loved doing a big clean up. But once I got my own place I became a neat freak. Then I married my husband who is the biggest slob ever and a few years ago I finally gave up. lol

we are trying to clean up enough to make it safe for our kittens at six months old they aren't babies anymore but it's still not safe to leave things they could try to eat and there's too much clutter to get at it all without some cleaning work. It's terrible but the kitties are worth it❤

Kittens?! 😲 I did not know you had kittens. I bet they're so cute! I want another cat so bad but not sure if want to deal with a litter box again. Brown tabbies are my favorites.