I'm thinking it's my resting face and that I have boobs XD the dress probably didn't help. He was probably like "I know you're not my mom, but is my dinner in there?" XD

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hahahaha oh my.

I decided a while ago that I never want children for many of the reasons already mentioned. I have a younger brother and sister that are 9 and 14 years my junior so I had a hand in raising them. That was enough to make me realize parenthood is not for me. My family members don't seem to mind and never bug me about it, which is a huge relief. I guess I am just happy/complete living my life for myself.

Go you! There are way too many people on the planet.

It's so rude to be pressuring you into outdated assumptions. You only have one life. Live it your way!

With me its not just holding out, but also indifference and the obvious fact that I'm no catch.

I'm 30, cis woman married to a cis man, and I never wanted kids. I don't want my own, I don't want to adopt, I'd be ok with MAYBE teenager foster care if we weren't low-income, but we are, and I don't simply don't like children. The sounds that babies make, from happy gurgling to full blown screaming, all the sounds they make, make me feel violent. Not like I'm going to hit or hurt said baby, but I feel like I'm going to kick a hole in the wall or fling a chair across the room. And older children, I just don't like them. I'm not comfortable around them. They gross me out. And the parents always have bullshit asinine rules that need to be followed. But then you also have the real shittastic parents that don't watch their children. Twice now in my life, I've had unattended TODDLERS try to get into (two different toddlers, and two different apartments!) into my apartment. The last one I lost it and screamed, "FUCK YOU! GET THE FUCK OUT!" because it had opened my front door and was standing there, staring at me. The mother was NO WHERE in sight! I don't have that, "Oh hi baby, are you lost? Let's find your mommy!" mentality. I never wandered into other people's homes when I was a toddler. How hard is it to watch your own kid?

My mom has loosely tried to pressure me into having kids by calling me and tell me whenever a former childhood friend had a baby. And my grandfather adamantly pressured me ("Don't you want to make me happy?"). I'm an only child, and an only grandchild for said grandfather and that grandmother, and the only female grandchild on the other side. I also kept my last name when I married, and the only liberal in my family, so I'm pretty much a big embarrassment.

hugs Yeah, I've heard that all before. When I was a young kid in first or second grade, I didn't know much. Didn't know how babies were made and all that, but I remember repeating I dont want to get pregnant over and over and over. >_>

There's a lot of the world I still don't understand and I am just now starting to figure out who I am. And that it is more than alright to abstain from having children. You can't have children for someone else, your grandfather, your mother, etc etc. You have to genuinely want to bring that life into this world. Until then, let's go play games and explore the world.

XD As for the kiddo wandering into your apartment, I would have been a little D:< too. I mean, wtf. People have kids then they don't look after them. This is why you need to absolutely want to have children.

I remember being six and the other girls wanted to play, idk house or mommies?, and they all shoved baby dolls up their shirts. For whatever reason I was SUPER uncomfortable but knew I had to play along. I grabbed a stuffed dog. "You can't do that! You have to have a baby!" "But I want a dog?" I've found that most women that don't want kids as an adult, knew they didn't want them when they were under 10. From six to 30, I still don't want a baby, and still prefer animals. I've got two amazing cats. If people can not want cats/dogs/pets in general, why is it so hard to grasp that some people, especially the people who would have to carry it inside their bodies, not want anything to do with that?

XD I has a furbaby. She is the most spoiled cat you will ever meet. XD if she ever came out around company. I wish I understood why others cannot simply respect the wishes of others. I don't want to have my body go through those changes, the hormones, the stress, the emotions. Having a child is a huge undertaking and one that i am not ready for. Money also plays a big factor, but not the main one. I am swimming in student loans, I am not sure what adding the expense of a child would do to that.

You aren't alone. Never be ashamed. huggles shares chocolate

It's so comforting to hear people of like-minds to me about the choice of not wanting kids.

Not only have I never really wanted kids, even when I was a child I don't really think I ever thought about having kids in the future, but I grew up with two parents who didn't seem to value THEIR kids, and it made me realize that... I just don't love the thought of having kids, which is why I couldn't do it. I can be around kids for a short time, but I know I wouldn't make a good parent because of all the things I've grown up with. All the anxieties and stress would be too much. Once you have a child, you can't undo that. You're stuck with that choice for the rest of your life, so you have to be so sure you REALLY want them.

My abusive father asked me if I was planning to have children, and I told him no not ever and he questioned me on why, and then got upset when I told him that he and my mother just... completely made me feel that having kids is impossible for myself. The way they treated me, I feel I would do myself to a kid, and I can't handle that idea. Not after all the many days and years I thought 'how could they possibly treat me like this? how could they hurt me?'.

Thankfully I've had my tubes tied and have an IUD and soon will be taking hormones (I'm trans) so having children will be impossible for me. It's such a relief to never have to fear accidentally getting pregnant and having kids.

I do like kids since I like my nieces and nephews, but I also know that I'm not the one permanently living with that child. I can hand the kid back at a set time if I don't want to be around the kid any longer.

Oddly enough, I did want kids when I was really young. I think I wanted them more out of the expectation that I was supposed to have them as a female than, actually wanting them though. I realized by the time I was 10-12 and going through the sex ed phase of school that the act of pregnancy itself terrified me, and it still does. The idea of pushing another human out of me plus all the bodily complications that can result from that has pretty much nixed permanently the idea that I'll ever have a child, at least not biologically. I have considered older kids later in life, though I mean 15 and up since a young kid, nope. Toddlers and kids 9 and under tend to annoy me just from the sheer nervous energy and noise they produce.

I also just don't like kids. I'm from a somewhat traditional Asian family, and it's generally been expected that a female in the family would have a kid so when I expressed to my parents that I didn't want them; they weren't happy. They stopped once I hit my late twenties because they realized it just wasn't going to happen and my mentality never changed so, I think my mom eventually realized it was a lost cause though. She used to hound me constantly about when I wanted to have kids when I was in my early-mid-twenties.

I've realized over time that while I don't mind kids, at least for short periods of time I just can't deal with having kids permanently. I also have little, pretty much almost non-existent motherly bones in my body when it comes to human kids. Now, animals, I will adore them to death, coo over how cute they are, and spoil them rotten though.

I never understand why this subject turns into a debate. I dream of a world where we stop telling people what to do with their own lives and bodies. I'm a Mom, cool. If you don't want kids, cool. Parenthood is not for everyone. I totally support OP in that, Japan sounds like an adventure of a lifetime!

I never really played as a mother figure with my toys, more like a god. Or you know, when you play the Sims. I've never thought about getting married even when I had crushes. I didn't have a good mother growing up and I'm afraid that I will continue the same cycle that she promised herself she would break but didn't. If you know anything about my life, you know how much trouble I've had with my mom up until pretty recently.

I never day dreamed about having a family, and I think that a lot of other millennials aren't the child-rearing type, whatever that is. More importantly, I don't think I should have kids. I don't want to pass on any mental or physical issues I know I have. Why subject a child to a life of misery interspersed with a few years of being okay?