Thank god this thread exists.

Okay.

I'm 29. High Functioning Asperger's Syndrome. Been out of an abusive relationship for close to 3 years. HE wanted kids, I didn't and I would have let him win because he was my abuser and I'm conflict-avoidant. I have other medical conditions and I know my body more than anyone else because it's quite frankly no one else's. Telling me I "have the hips" for baby birthing is not the same as "having a strong enough heart".

Especially after leaving him, I love my life too much to part with it for a long time. I deserve to enjoy it. I'm convinced I would die in the delivery room. Not an exaggeration.

My family respects my decision to not have kids but then goes right around talking about it like I'm going to.

Call me selfish, but I have my reasons. They might be selfish to some, but if I don't feel comfortable with the idea, my decision should be left be.

"Oh you never know". Pregnancies can be prevented by abstinence and SOME wiggle room with sex depending on what it is and how. I'm obviously not getting into that here. I GET IT. NOTHING IS FOR SURE UNLESS YOU DON'T.

Let me tell ya though... I was active with him for along time. There's many times we could have been parents, but it wasn't until last year when my mom told me about a pre-natal blood lab they had done on my unborn blood when mom was still pregnant with me that indicates a gene was passed down to me from my dad where I will probably miscarry. Recent events in my country have me worried about my reproductive health anyway, because I've never truly known if I'm infertile. When I have my exam in April with my doctor, I'd like a referral to find out if I've had nothing to worry about this entire time.

I'm sure I left out like 5 paragraphs, I never had caffeine today as I had an interview at work for a promotion rank. I'm sure I'll come back if more comes to me or if someone jogs my memory for me.

My husband and I can't rlly have a kid naturally, and we've thought about maybe adopting someday but eh... I'm starting to accept that I might just not want to. I think babies are cute as fuck but I hate toddlers, children, and teenagers. I don't want the life that comes with having kids either. Honestly all the parents I know are like "I haven't slept in years and I never get any time to myself but it's worth it!" and I'm like, no thanks. Like am I capable of loving a child? Yeah. Do I want one? No.

The way I see it, my family has been a long line of miserable people creating more miserable people via both nature AND nurture. I don't really need to continue that cycle.

My boyfriend and I both dislike children. I've known since I was young that I didn't want kids. Pregnancy doesn't appeal to me, and my narrow hips are not birthin' hips.

My family and friends have accepted this. Trying to explain it to acquaintances/new friends/coworkers is freaking hard though. I've heard plenty of "well you'll change your mind someday"s and I usually ignore it but if I feel feisty that day I'll reply with a "that's an incredibly rude thing to say, like you know me better than I know myself" and that shuts them up.

My least favorite thing is when people say, "Yeah, I've had friends that say they don't like other people's kids but like their own kids" like can you PLEASE stop trying to convince me otherwise? Like 5 words from you punk ass is going to change my whole outlook on children and reproducing.

That's not to say that maybe, MAYBE, down the road, if we're financially established and still have means of having some sort of freedom (traveling, etc.), my BF and I have discussed adoption. However we're also totally cool with playing the "weird but cool aunt and uncle" roles and that's it. As of right now, though, the only grandchildren we'll be producing will have four legs or feathers or fins.

No kids here thanks. The idea of a thing growing inside me makes my skin crawl. The sound of a baby crying makes me want to hulk smash. I know it'd be very painful for me to carry, too, due to various health conditions. Nine months of increased pain and discomfort to ultimately be presented with a small noisy unhygienic Thing?.. noooooo I'm unemployed, so I couldn't support it financially. My family has cancers and mental illness on both sides, and I also have physical health problems I wouldn't want to pass on. Plus, how horrible for a child to be brought up by someone who doesn't want a child.

All these reasons contribute, but it all boils down to the fact that I just don't want one :)

I'm not fit to be a mother. I'd LOVE to be an aunt! I'd love to take care of a child once in awhile - spoil them, do fun things, be there if they need someone to talk to. But, financially and emotionally, I couldn't do it full-time. I struggle with BPD, depression, and anxiety. I would not make a stable mother. It's way too much responsibility and stress. And the thought of being pregnant makes me feel ill. Having a parasite (yes, they are technically parasites until they leave your body) growing and moving around inside me... eugh. Gives me chills.

I have a severe dislike of children. I don't find any stage if children to be cute at all, and whenever I see kids I want to remove myself from that area. When I'm stuck around them, I'm willing to bet I have some variation of a Resting Bitch Face until either they or I'm able to leave.

Thankfully my family gets the fact that I do not want anything to do with children, especially considering I already avoid theirs. I've always been adamant about refusing to babysit, etc. Children not only give me way too much anxiety, they're simply an emotional and financial burden I don't want or need in my life.

Absolutely any variation of "You'll change your mind!!" drives me up the wall tbh and only deepens my dislike for both kids and the people who tell me this. If for some hairballed reason I "change my mind", I'd rather get a parrot. If I have to deal with constant screaming, destructiveness, and having to chase something, I'd at least rather have something cute to look after.

This thread is really a relief for me. I'm 19 and all my life I have REALLY disliked kids. I don't want to be around anyone's kid and I certainly don't want my own. I, like most people I'm seeing here, want to travel. It's hard to travel with kids. Heck it's hard for me to travel when other people bring their kids. Since I am so young, every time I tell people I don't want to have kids, I get the same "You will when you're older." Or "There's still time to change your mind." You know what? Yeah that may be true. But for right now it's not, and it's no one else's business if I ever have a kid or not.

I'm very thankful my boyfriend dislikes kids also, so there is no fighting about that. But since we live together, I always feel like people are expecting me to be expecting soon. My motherly instinct for people, well, I just don't have it. I have motherly instinct for taking care of animals. All my life I have had a pet or two. We currently have four dogs and one leopard gecko. We're young, yes. But that doesn't mean that we are clueless or just don't know what we want. We want pets, we want to travel, not kids.

Plus, the way I see it, there are TONS of kids waiting to be adopted. So maybe instead of worrying about me having children, maybe they should go out and adopt or foster some of them, yeah?

Ey, love meeting other Childfree people.

I am absolutely, without a doubt, never having my own children. I've gotten my tubes tied (confetti!) and if my choice changes, I would much rather adopt. I'm very much in love with my husband who thinks the same way.

I've always hated people telling me I'll change my mind. Mine isn't only disliking children, but I'm deeply terrified of giving birth. I'm uncomfortable around pregnant women, even. I would lose my mind if I wound up pregnant. I'm thankful every day I found a doctor willing to tie my tubes.

None of us will be blamed when there is standing room only. Thankfully it won't be in our lifetimes. May we live long, but die out.

I'm not having kids, and luckily my boyfriend is of the same persuasion. I was already not fond of the idea of adding another person to our crowded world, and then my mother was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. For the year that it took for her to pass, I was there. Every single day. It was brutal.

And now? I can think of nothing worse than having a child of my own nurse me to death. Maybe I'll foster when I'm older and in a more stable place, but I cannot have kids.

I can't have kids even if I wanted to, but I find little kids to be annoying so that doesn't bother me. That, and this planet is already getting way too crowded. I would rather not help contribute to that. The only kids I need are my feathery babies.

Kids freak me out, I don't hate them but I have no idea what to do around kids. I'm always told I'll want kids as an adult but no I can barely take care of myself do to poor mental health. Considering how bad my mental health can be, I think it would be best for me not to have kids.

Edit: also a trans guy so don't want that there dysphoria of getting pregnant. Since I'm not out everyone asks me when I plan on having kids even though I'm only 19

it's so nice to see so many people that feel the way I do. i've never wanted kids, even as a child, i vehemently said i would never have kids and i honestly cannot stress it enough. my mom says i'm a better parent than my sister (who has two daughters) and its pretty sad... but i absolutely am revolted by pregnancy and i refuse to change diapers. i can't stand human waste, but i love animals so im a-ok with cleaning litter boxes or picking up dog poop lol.

plus, living with my two nieces and younger sister is more than enough exposure to kids than i need in my lifetime. i can't wait til i can move out and have peace & quiet in my life for once.

and i'm with all of yall that say you want to travel... i would love to travel to several countries but you definitely can't do that with babies unless you want to be miserable the entire time. no point in that! plus i have mental & some physical problems that i definitely wouldn't want to pass on. i know how awful it is to suffer with these things, so it wouldn't be right to make someone else suffer as long as i can help it.

there are plenty of people that grow old and happy that have never had children. don't ever have kids if you're only going to do it because you feel like you HAVE TO, you know? that's just bad news for you and your possible kids.

not everyone has to have kids to live a happy, fulfilled life. personally, i'm never having kids (though i may adopt one later on!). this is something i've thought about literally my entire life, so when people tell me "oh, you'll change your mind! giving birth is wonderful! :)" i sort of want to punch them

but ya, live for yourself dude dont let anyone pressure you into having kids if you know that isn't what you want

I honestly never want kids. Well actually let me rephrase that. I never want kids of my own. I do plan on adopting a child ages 10-17. But that's when km like 35. My reasoning- I feel I'd be better with a child of thatage. And everyone wants a baby, so kids that old can be put second. There are too many people in the world. I don't feel the want to birth someone.

I told my mom about my plan because she has pestered me about kids before. And she said "wouldn't you miss all those wonderful baby years" And to that I say no. I won't miss the most expensive years of a child's life, I won't miss the postpartum depression. No I won't miss ruining my career. No I won't miss not being able to travel. No I won't miss the chance for birth complications or death. I won't miss never sleeping. I won't miss the constant stress. I won't miss shoving a human out of my body.

But probs to the people who do have kids. I can not.

I like tigers. I also like small children.

I don't want to have either one personally though. The OC my username comes from has maternal instincts but I really just don't.

I came out of an abusive relationship too. He always saw me as a mom. I really thought that was what I wanted too, until I broke up with him and started to think for myself again. It was an epiphany.

I am 37 now. I don't want kids of my own. Just the thought of it makes me cringe. I have schizotypal pd and it's hard enough to take care of myself and my pets whom I love more than any human. I wouldn't be able to raise a child. I do love kids. Just don't want my own. God no. I have 3 wonderful nieces and a close friend also has three kids that I see as nieces and nephew. They are all the kids I need really. I don't want the intrusion on my life. I like being single and free and doing my own stuff when I want to. lol

I'm the same way. I've got plenty of baby cousins from cousins. I'm also a kid magnet and I don't know why. Babies always find me interesting. A male infant at a bridal shower was staring me the eff down yesterday... what is it... lol

haha they often stare at me because of my lip ring. like O.O