Good job!!! Way to go! Stand firm when either he or your own feelings pop up ok? <3

I didn't think I was able to stand up to him. I also told him that if he continues, I'll be taking drastic measures and he said he didn't want that at all.

Good for you! ❤️ Hopefully he will listen, and you'll be able to get some of the stress off of your shoulders. Who knows if he truly is 'sorry' or not... But the best we can expect is that he will acknowledge your feelings, and get it through his head that he needs to listen. If not, definitely stick to your guns and follow through with nixing that relationship! No one needs to be forced to deal with that kind of crap!

Sorry this is so delayed D: Now you know you're stronger than you thought you were. Remember it. Remember that you stood up and don't let someone take away that strength. <3

It felt really good to stand up to him for once. It took me two freaking years to do this!

You need to sever all contact with him immediately. Do it YESTERDAY. Don't give an explanation, don't give a goodbye, don't try to compromise. Just delete, block, move on with life. Don't bother with this assertion and standing up to him, just peace the fuck out. There is nothing good to salvage here. This man is using you and you are enabling his lies and infidelity.

Also, don't hook up with married people ever. Why would you ever think he was a good or even worthwhile person if he's so eagerly cheating on his wife? What kind of justification have you been telling yourself that this is in any way admissible or understandable on his part? What is there to value in this human trashcan?

Also agreeing with getting therapy more frequently. Once every three months is nothing. Get weekly or bi-weekly appointments.

Block. Do it first, think NEVER ABOUT IT AGAIN. Do you have a big emotional attachment to him perhaps? Deeper than just friends with benefits?

Even so, he seems like a TERRIBLE person who is just looking to get off without having any concern for your well being. I cannot believe what I read. Those things are terrible to say ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU HAVE ASKED THEM TO STOP. Real men stop when you say stop and just leave it at that.

I totally get the upping the meds lowers the desire. I was put on lexapro and my high sex drive dropped so low its crazy! But luckily my bf understands and dosent really push it if I dont say something ;)

please though. Im begging you to throw that dude in the trash and never look back. Hes making ME mad and I dont even know him!

He came over a few days ago and brought me lunch. He didn't stay long and left shortly after. He messaged me on FB later in the evening and said it was really awkward being there because he's used to "playing and stuff".

I have asked him to stop and so far it's been good.

No, that's him trying to start the game of getting back with you. Block him on FB and reject any other attempt of contact.

SEVER.

Cut all contact immediately. Block him. Do not reply to him. Do not answer the door if he comes to your home.

A couple weeks ago, he said that his wife almost caught him on his fake account, while talking to me. He said she started asking him strange questions. I thought "Finally!" and I told him I'll be taking him off my Fb account. After I did that, about a day or two later, I noticed he deleted his fake account.

I feel really weird. It's very strange not talking to him and being harassed.

It's definitely gonna be an upset to your daily routine, as well as how you perceive yourself and your priorities. It's not weird to FEEL weird after something like this is concluded.

But you're free! You can live your life and not have to put up with a trashbag babyman anymore! Celebrate with some cool friends tomorrow!

And whatever you do, do NOT let him try and talk you back into a relationship or a friendship. Shut him out completely. This is your chance for a clean break; take full advantage of it!

Dude plz! For the love of everything follow this piece of advice.

I never,ever,never read these kinds of threads,But I must say that I am shocked dazed and truly amazed This guy is stalking you with your permission. I feel for you and also I never give advice on such matters,But you are a human being and no one deserves to be treated like this,stop asking him and start telling him,(if that's what you really want ) to leave you alone,period,end of story. Again,my heart goes out to you : (

I agree with everyone else posting on here. That sort of behavior actually sends up a lot of warning flags in my mind, especially his refusal to take no for an answer. is right. Get him out of your life.

Also, I'm sorry you're feeling so broken. It can be a really crappy place to be. Hang in there.

I've not been in exactly the same situation, but I have had a guy I was dating at one point say some similar crap, and it only got more abusive as time went on. Get him out of your life while you can.

Weird is ok. Weird is good. It's the first step towards feeling normal again after shit happens. Good on you for deleting him off your FB. Keep it that way in every aspect of life, and don't give into any second thoughts or hesitation. This is your chance to celebrate your success and start moving forward.

Yup. I'm not sure if they're red flags so much as flashing neon signs, but either way it's time to block all contact before things get even worse.

, yes. Exactly. Flashing neon signs is a really good way to put it. Mine went from that sort of talk and trying to describe his porn collection to me to saying he didn't care if I lived or died and saying I was heartless because I stood up for myself.

, definitely time to get out of that relationship. Just block and run. Run away as fast as you can and as far as you can. And then if he keeps trying to contact you, if he finds a way to, as those people usually are really reluctant to leave you alone, then you can resort to more drastic measures.

Actually, no. He usually just showed up, did his thing and left. Or, he would come bring me lunch and then leave right after he dropped it off. He never wanted to spend any time with me because "I'm too nervous".

Should I block his real account?

At least you won't have to worry about him trying to chase you.

I hope it won't come to that, but he probably won't since his wife is back home.