Thought I'd jump in and say hello, I'm also asexual and identify as agender (but lean towards male). I've known since I was a teenager and I've never really felt uncomfortable about it. My family is very open-minded and accepting as are my close friends. I have experienced the usual "just you wait"/"you haven't met them yet" crap from certain people but to quote Dr. Seuss -- "those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind". It's great to see so many fellow aces here! ^^

I am ace as well :)

Im an ace, aromantic asexual. I only really figured it out about half a year ago (since until then I'd never heard of asexuality), but it has been really relieving to find that I'm not alone in this, and that there are other asexuals out there :)

I'm asexual. I'm not entirely open about it, but I don't try to hide it. I am biromantic, though.

I've fully or officially identified myself as an asexual just shy of a year ago, after several years of non-arousal and disinterest in sexual activities. I found it difficult for my previous partners to maintain a relationship with me. And of course, it has taken a lot out of my self-esteem. I'm always afraid that people will think of my asexuality as an excuse not to have sex with them. But if it came down to it for a partner whom I love with all of my heart, I would. I could be demisexual, but I won't know until it happens.

This is definitely a very important thread. Ive gone through a lot of trouble for being an ace on lesbian spaces (since I do feel romantic attraction), but then I met my girlfriend whos also asexual and there`s literally nothing more relieving than being fully understood in a relationship.

I really hope the ace community here get to form lots of bonds, being comprehended really changes your perspective on life for better.

I'm going to start crying guys. I'm glad my thread has been received so warmly by all of you, and it has even (in the case of ) helped people find their niche. I really want anyone and everyone in this group to feel welcome here, to be able to share their stories, and to just... be.

Thank you all, for your responses, for sharing a little bit of yourselves with me and everyone else... thank you.

Something that is important that I've been seeing here is people discussing the idea of being understood as a non-sexual being. I'm in a relationship with a bisexual boy and while everything is pretty smooth sailing, some days my own worry will cause issues in our relationships because I'm /not/ sexual.

It's important to know that that is okay. We are okay. We are us.

I'm asexual also!!! ^.^ It's been fun to see others around online. ^.^ I still haven't met any in person to my knowledge though...... :< ( not that I really ever ask folks about their sexual orientation in real life because I'm way too socially awkward & it feels way too personal for me >.>; )

I don't really know my gender ID, there are so many these days and they're so confusing ;____; I am genetically and anatomically female and I prefer to receive female pronouns from others-- but I sometimes identify myself as feminine / strongly female in my mind and other times masculine / almost male in my mind, and most of the time I don't feel one way or the other.....

I don't even bother to try to figure out my romantic orientation, and I'm married now anyways. ^.^ though I am definitely romantically-oriented.

I ALSO HAVE A HABIT OF RANTING AND OVER-SHARING, SORRY. It's nice to meet you guys ^^ like, really stinking nice, I FEEL SO ALONE IN REAL LIFE, WHERE ARE YOU ALL HIDING? :<

Preeeeeetty sure I'm asexual (or maybe gray-asexual), I enjoy reading about romance and/or sex, but I've never really had a strong desire for a sexual encounter myself. I'm not repulsed by sex or anything, I just don't look at people and have a desire to see them naked, haha! That may change if the right person came along, but I'm in no hurry for anything like that.

I don't really go around telling people I'm ace or whatever because I'm still not 100% sure of myself yet. However, it's nice to see a bunch of other people who are ace here as well.

Just thought I'd drop by :3 I was very happy to find this thread! I'm a homoromantic ace (sometimes I affectionately refer to myself as "gayce" x3) and if there's one thing I really, really wish, it's that I had known about asexuality sooner. I first heard the term about two years ago, but I only really discovered it last year by reading someone's blog, and I felt like I was reading about my life. I started looking into it more and let me just say, discovering asexuality was one of the best things to ever happen ;w;

Before, the only sexualities I really had an understanding of were gay & lesbian, bi, and straight. It was difficult because I knew 100% I was not straight or bi, so that left being lesbian. But yet...I never felt comfortable identifying as lesbian. I felt...extremely conflicted about my sexuality. Ever since I was very young, I felt "broken" because I never experienced the things my friends experienced...that is, sexual attraction. And I wasn't attracted to boys, so I felt even more broken.

Before I had an understanding of asexuality, I used to talk to my parents about how I felt like I was broken, and I got the old "you just haven't met the right one yet." That never made me feel better, and as I got older, I started to feel like I was just never going to "meet the right one" and that I was going to stay "broken" forever. When I discovered asexuality and how it resonated with me, and I understood finally that what I was feeling wasn't just a problem with me, I was able to really talk to my parents about it and explain how it was a sexual orientation, and they were fine with it. I think at first they didn't quite understand, but the more I talked to my Mom about it, we sort of discovered that she was asexual as well...which just goes to show you can be ace and be in a loving relationship and have kids, too :3

I think I'll hold off trying to explain to them about being genderfluid/genderflux though x3

ANYWAY apologies for the long post x3

Oh, also! it sounds like you may be fluidflux as well :3

Up until the age of 22 I didn't even know about Asexuality. I felt like there was something wrong with me before that. I've never really found any person of either gender hot. I'm not repulsed by sex though, I guess I just don't care about it. Not really interested in being in relationships.

raises hand I'm a (panromantic) sex-repulsed asexual. Hello everyone!

Demi-ro sex-repulsed ace here :DD I discovered the term around 16 but it really didn't click for me until I turned 17 and read someone's experience about it online.

It makes me so happy to talk to fellow aces. Most of the time, people don't believe me when I tell them, even super close friends. I've had people ask me really invasive and offensive questions, and even people telling me I should never date because it'd be too selfish of me to deny my partner sex.

The first person to believe me was my best friend, who coincidentally identified as aro-ace but didn't know until I brought up these terms and we researched them together, so that was a really awesome point of my life. He's still the only ace friend I have, but after talking about asexuality at a uni panel I'm hoping to find more people irl, and also befriend some here too.

I think I might be asexual? I'm not entirely sure where I fall on the spectrum, though, other than still desiring a romantic relationship.

I was in a relationship for 4.5 years without having sex, but a number of factors may have played into that. To start off, we were young when we first got together (he was 15 1/2 and I was barely 17) and it was the first real relationship for both of us, so we weren't very likely to have sex in the first couple years anyway. We broke up because we just aren't the same people at 20 and (nearly) 22 as we were in our mid-teens, and our relationship had become more like that of best friends. I can't pinpoint an exact time when that changed, but I think it was long before we broke up if I'm being completely honest. So I don't know if I just didn't want to have sex because, subconsciously, I didn't want to sleep with the person I saw as my best friend (because ew?) or if I'm actually asexual.

I'm leaning towards actually asexual because even when thinking about sex in a general sense, I just... don't really care. I could go my whole life without it and be fine. On the other hand, though, I'm not repulsed by it either, and I'm not totally against the idea of having sex should I end up in a committed relationship again and my partner really wants to. I'm thinking I'm most likely to ultimately identify as demi-sexual but I won't know for sure until I find someone I want to have a long-term relationship with again.

I guess a basic summary of my thoughts right now would be along the lines of, "Do I find guys to be attractive? Most definitely. Do I want to have sex with them? Nope--at least not right now, but I'm not completely ruling out the possibility of wanting to (or at least being willing to) if I really fall in love with someone."

For now I try not to worry about it since I know I won't figure it out for sure until that time comes, but it feels good to at least put down my thoughts where people who understand will be able to see them. Now that it's all in words, it's out of my head and maybe I won't have to spend so much time thinking about it :)

Everyone here in this thread has their own special story, and I'm really glad I could hear them all.

For those who have a good support structure, congratulations! I'm so happy you have people to turn to... for those without a structure... please don't hesitate to come here or to message me just to talk about your day or to rant about someone not understanding.

We are all here for you.

I'm a very weird type of asexual. The longer I'm with someone, the less interested in sex I become. :( My poor boyfriend.

Hi everyone, I'm panromantic/asexual/genderfluid! :) I'm 26 years old and for the longest time (since I was maybe 13-14) I've read endless amounts of yaoi fan fiction and even read some lemons here and there. Along with that during high school I finally make the connection in my head that I didn't just only like guys, but girls too. I've mostly had crushes on people, but never had a boyfriend or girlfriend due to nobody liking the "fat girl". But I was fine with that and got over that once I was in my senior year, that's when I didn't give a damn about what anybody said about me. Anyways, I was only interested in reading yaoi fan fiction, so my gay best friend gave me a dvd with porn on it, and I thought this would be great! Except there was only one problem...even though I enjoyed reading about it through stories, I didn't find it as enjoyable like I hoped I would. So of course I was confused about it, but never really looked for a deeper meaning for why I didn't enjoy it.

Five years after I was out of high school I enrolled in a technical school to get medical experience since I was having (and still am) the worst luck with finding work. So after completing 13-14 months of schooling, I was out on externship. I was in the dialysis program, but because I couldn't get a dialysis externship I was stuck with doing a PCT externship. Once it came down to giving bed baths that's when I discovered I did NOT like seeing anybody naked! I mean, I have no problem caring for people, but seeing people exposed kinda grossed me out. Hell, even seeing my favorite wrestler naked gave me no sexual desire!

The only thing I've ever wanted to do with anyone is cuddle up and watch a movie or two! Luckily for me during my high school years I became online friends with my current long-distance girlfriend :') (Fyi we talked on the phone for years after being online friends for a year or two before we met in person. We haven't been able to visit each other too often due to financial or family issues, plus we live 800+ miles apart :'( ) And she's an ace as well, though funny enough we've discovered this together after finding out about the ace community on tumblr! The information I've read made so much sense and I was finally able to piece everything about myself together.

Haha, so sorry for my long-winded story. I meant to make this short & sweet, but I feel like I rambled on about too much XD

Hi I'm Mabon and I'm super asexual and super romantic :D By that I mean I would love to have a super semi-platonic partner to cuddle with every single night and go out on cute dates with. That's my true sexuality - I'm cuddle-sexual. With the right people.

But as for here, its so nice to see so many people here. I'd love to make friends with you guys and connect maybe. I probably won't be very chatty most of the time because I have a typical 9-5 job and when I get home I usually try to spend time writing (because I'd much rather be a writer than a phone answerer) but it would be nice to be able to log in sometimes and be like 'my people!!' from time to time.

Is there a ping-group yet/is there interest in one to have Ace of Hearts chats during events or whatever ;)

I consider myself a gray-asexual. I've known for about 10 years that I am not attracted to people the same way as most people are. I'm not sure if I'm asexual or demi-sexual. I've never been in a sexual relationship with someone and my only real desires involving other people are purely romantic and/or platonic. I haven't told any of my family members since they wouldn't understand and only one of my irl friends knows. I'll probably make an announcement once I figure out which label fits me since it will hopefully make it easier for them to understand. :/

I'd love to talk to and get to know other ace people! Feel free to message me~

I searched the forum groups but there doesn't seem to be anything under ace or asexual. I think there should definitely be a ping group!

I'm gray-ace/possibly demi and non-binary as well! (:

Oh my gosh, this thread makes me kind of excited seeing so many other asexuals on here! I've never been friends with anyone else that identified that way before, so it's kind of comforting. I identify as a bi-romantic, sex repulsed asexual.

I'm also possibly demi-romantic, I'm not really sure at the moment. I've only ever started to felt that way about someone after I've known them for a long time and have been very close with them, but I don't really feel like I have a frame of reference about what romantic attraction is like for other people, if that makes sense? (It probably doesn't I'm a bit brain foggy today XD.)

Anyway, I'll stop rambling now. (: I'm Caítlin, and anyone is totally welcome to message me whenever they like, I'd be very happy to make some new friends!