Hey!

I identify as romantic asexual.

Although I usually hesitate to insert myself into new communities without a lot of life experience in the area (being only 21) finding information about the spectrum of aces out there has been a great resource, and helps me feel more confident that it is not abnormal to be inherently uninterested in this strange thing that other people seem to find so important.

Thanks for sharing, everyone!

I now this isn't entirely called for but: don't ever let someone convince you it's wrong to try out a label, identity, concept, or just an idea that's resonating with you. It's kind of literally the ONLY way we figure out what works for us in the first place. If this feels like it "fits" you then great! Run with it! If you feel later on it's not quite appropriate that's fine. You didn't lose anything by trying, you gained understanding.

Also, yes hello! Yet another real live asexual Subeta user, hi. I know a ton of people have already chimed in, but I'm happy to reaffirm that you are anything but alone out here. And I may as well put myself out as available to talk, whether that's out here or in a safer more private context.

I'm a newly identified ace! I learned very recently that my "issue" is actually just...being on the ace spectrum. I'm most specifically demisexual.

Asexual, agender here!

My mom likes to throw out the idea whenever I try and say I'm asexual, also when I try to explain what it is to her. She just laughs and blows me off with a "just wait till you date the right guy." No, mom, no. :v

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Eeey fellow ace here : D (possibly aromantic). It's always a relief to see so many other aces/people on the ace-spectrum around.

Aro Ace here. :)

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Grey-Ace or Demisexual here! I honestly don't know which one I am since I never really got crushes or dated anyone yet but I'm not against having sex if I want to with someone I love someday. Damn it sexuality crisis and how annoying it is.

I'm so happy to see all of you here. I hope that this thread can be a resource for y'all if you ever need to vent or just talk about life. It's great to have that sort of space. You all are wonderful. Keep doing you!

Hello-oooo. Aromantic, Asexual here. I'm in a relationship, but more-less it's more just for my boyfriend now. He's very excited to even be with me {??? I'm trash???} and I don't really feel like stomping on his happiness.

One of my headmates, Aria, is ace/aro/agender!

I'm demisexual, so sort of? My brother is ace, though he doesn't have an account.

I'm really happy to see you all! Can you think of anything that you'd like to share with other aces (or aros, or any sexual minority)? Maybe something you wish you'd known? Or some advice?

there are a lot more asexuals around than most people think there are. it's super great tho b/c it's like a game. secret asexual spy. find the asexual around you. but yeah a lot of people in high school were really annoying about it, but then in college people stopped caring. like ok less competition for that frat dude who has a car. and now only my parents bother me about it. but they bother me about everything so w/e.

I'm asexual.. or at least pretty sure I am. I have no interest in sex at all, I can and will die happy never having it, but I like to look ya know. I get a lot of the whole, you haven't met the right person, just wait, or you're just being a prude. I even had one person after I told them I was Asexual tell me that just because I was didn't mean I couldn't date. Like I wouldn't know that. I'm just not interested in relationships other than friendship. I keep trying to tell my mom, I'm 21 almost 22, and I don't think she takes me serious. It's shocking that my normally passive aggressive dad is more... accepting over it than my normally accepting mom. But then I guess he likes it because he won't have to go caveman on potential dates xD

Hello! I'm demisexual, so I fall under the spectrum!

Oh, and something I wish I knew growing up was that there was a term for me! As extensive as my sex ed classes were starting from 5th grade, sexualities were never included. My friends joked a lot about how my eyes were "broken" because I never found people "hot" or attractive. I just learned to see what people found appealing in others so that I could blend into the conversation, but it never clicked for me why I had to do it. Finally, college rolled around and I learned quite a lot more, including the ace spectrum, from campus resources. I'm still not out to my roommates though, so them being excited to go to the new Magic Mike movie together has me in an awkward place right now, haha.

I'm 24 and just found out yesterday that I identify with being asexual...possibly demisexual because I haven't had many close friendships (from this forum too!). A very light bulb moment happened. It's like the pieces just fit, the little things I did or said made so much sense to me afterwords. As Zaphirite said, I guess I learned to see what people find attractive and roll with it. And then I've always felt awkward when people around me are being all sexual and talking about strangers like that. I've viewed a few people as good looking - clothes/style, eyes, etc - but I never had any sexual attraction to anyone. In a way, I thought that the attraction was mental & physical and not something that was just 'there' in most people.

(I also am demiromantic). Bring on the cuddling and holding hands. I'll pass on the chick flicks and overdoing of gifts.

hellooo!

it's just not a big part of my "identity" at all. definitely not something i talk about at all with my family, because of their general opinions about LGBT+ but they know i have zero interest in guys, never have, and don't expect to. they're just like "you never know, one day, but if not that's okay" and it's not a frequent conversation topic.

Why didn't I find this topic sooner? I am an aro ace. I'm so happy to see fellow aces here!

I wouldn't call myself asexual per say, but I do identify as demisexual. :)