My mom has always told me not to have kids unless I really want them and can afford them. She's actually emphasized it so much that I feel like she kind of regrets having kids herself. I'm not sure how she's going to feel as I start to get older, though, and I think my boyfriend's mom wants grandkids. oh well!

: My dad was like that. My mom raised me and she knew i never wanted kids, to the point where i'd have nightmares about being pregnant. Rape was not my nightmare, it was the pregnancy from it. I can't stress enough that i do NOT like children. in fact for the most part i hate kids. Even when i was a kid i hated kids. But after she died and i went to live with my dad he was always like 'oh you'll change your mind', nevermind that i've refused to even consider sex or dating, until i can either convince my doctor to give me a full hysterectomy, removing any possible chance, or until i die/hit menopause. I won't even compromise with getting my tubes tied because i hear all about how an egg can sometimes squeeze through. and at that point my family will no doubt go all religious 'god wanted you to have it blehblehbleh' and stop me from aborting it. Or try at least. An abortion clinic is the safest, but by far not the only way to put a stop to it. One thing i dreamed about, that i think i might just actually do if this were to happen, was to put a knife in the oven, and when its heated to several hundred degrees grab it with a pot holder and start cutting. I'm well aware it sounds crazy, but i would absolutely do it.

No one has the right to tell you that you HAVE to have children. It may seem over dramatic, but you can always make a similar threat to your mother. that you'd rather knife your womb out on your kitchen floor than have a kid. Once she sees you breaking down like that, maybe she'll realize she needs to back off.

If she wants kids around that badly, how about she ADOPT some? or become a foster guardian to some? there is no shortage of kids around, trust me.

Always on my damn lawn all damn day :P

Ohmygod, I feel you. I'm 30 years old, not married, single as ever, and really just now feeling like I'm wanting a relationship. I get so much flack from my parents' friends for not having children. And I'm getting really sick of my usual answer to variations of 'when are you going to have kids' which is 'Oh, I have my cats. They're my kids. They're my parents' grandcats' which usually gets a laugh, but damn. You know what? It's no one's damn business whether I have children or not! People just can't seem to wrap it around their thick skulls that some women do not want to be mothers. I don't feel like I'm cut out for such things.

Honestly, it's nice to hear you have a boyfriend who doesn't want kids either. It seems like all the guys I meet want kids and when I tell them I don't think I want to have kids, they lose all interest. It's frustrating as all hell. I hope I can find a guy some day soon who doesn't want kids either, because I want that relationship.

I swear though, if one more person tells me I'll change my mind and want kids later, I might just lose what's left of my shit and smack them or yell 'my body, my decision, fuck off' and leave.

Hahaha oh my.... I don't know if that's creepy or what but your decisition has been made and it's good to stand on something. I'd love to adopt a kid but I'd feel bad if the kid turned out all greedy or something and not think of me as his mother. I mean, if I ever decided to adopt, which I doubt.

I know so many boys who do want to have children and a big family!! I don't understand the need of having them. I really don't. I wonder what's what they desire about having "mini me"s all around.

We should start saying back something like "What? Children? Oh my, no, gross, why did you even decide to have some?" ahahahaaha That'd probably shut up a few and we might lose some friends but well... it's just turning the papers the way around so they're the buttholes after all ^_^'

I was informed very recently that my one aunt thinks I'm a lesbian. The only things that are going for her in confirming that is I'm 25, single and have short hair.

I don't ever see myself in a relationship, I can easily see myself working as a translator in Italy. But pregnant? Raising kids? I'm crazy but anyone who says that's the purpose of life is fucking insane.

: I meant SHE adopt some.

But if she's going to be all dramatic, you can be dramatic too.

My husband and I aren't having kids, everyone can just deal with it. It's no one's call but YOURS. My husband's mother tries to get him to have kids but only if she "can pick the mother".

Hahaha, my mom doesn't want my sister to be a lesbian so she let her go out with any boy (Except the one who smoked pot) hahaha It was so hilarious, try to make them think you are, you can get good laughs from that. Perhaps?

Oh, I got it. Oh my, no, God save me. I have plans for some of her furniture for when she dies... I am sorry, that sounded very mean but I only want 1 piece of furniture to paint it and modify it. Rest can go to charity tbh.

Sorry to hear you have an asshole mother-in-law too!! Tell her she can be buying her death hole already but only if you get to pick how far of the town she can be hohoho

She claimed to have throat cancer and convinced us to move 1,000 miles to live with her and it was a horrible ordeal. She utterly HATES me. She's crazy manipulative and emotionally abusive. I'd never been treated as poorly as sharing a home with her. Then she threatened to kick me out after my husband slammed the door during an argument we had. She also had rules that I had to follow which she broke constantly. Never pay any attention to yours. I've been noticing a trend in my adult life, the mothers of men in a relationship with a woman treat that woman horribly.

Oh God, I am afraid mine do the same! My boyfriend and I supposedly figured it out already but one can never know. The place I want to go to is only 3 hours away from here and I don't want to be coming here every freaking weekend. What I want is peace away from family.

I am totally not giving a peny for mine, at all. My boyfriend knows so very very well.

I love my family and I'd go live in the same city they do but never their home. Never.

Just tell her the truth, neither of you want children. Neither has a desire to raise children and don't need a child in your life to complete you. Tell her she needs to respect your wishes, and if you feel the need to apologize for hurt feelings, just remember, don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't want to do. It's not her choice, so be strong. And if she gets rude about it, tell her if she wants a grand child THAT badly, perhaps SHE should adopt one, because you have no desire to do so yourself. Tell her you don't need to explain yourself, because if your position was reversed no one would be grilling you about why you DO WANT a child, so they need to respect your privacy for why you DON'T want one.

My mother and my husband's family all want us to have a SECOND child because everyone wants a granddaughter (everyone had boys) and we're the only ones with only one kid. I DO NOT want any more and my family has been just as snippy about it.

Oh, that's very nice piece of advice!!

I wish it could work with my mother-in-law. Unfortunately, she's like a parrot. No matter what you do or say, it will tell you the same old words oTL

Oh, that's very nice piece of advice!!

I wish it could work with my mother-in-law. Unfortunately, she's like a parrot. No matter what you do or say, it will tell you the same old words oTL

You're only 23! I adamantly didn't want children either and after 5 years of marriage, I accidentally got pregnant at age 30. I was scared and upset, but when my son was born, something clicked and I really feel like I've grown emotionally. I wouldn't trade being my little guy's mommy for anything in the world. My point is, you have your whole life ahead of you and you have no idea how you're going to feel later on, so your mom needs to back off, because it's none of her business and it may even backfire.

ugh double post!

It's not my mom, it's my boyfriend's mom but I got your point! Thank you!

And your Ha is gorgeous. Amazing combination! <3

lol woops! Didn't mean to insult your mom!! XD And thanks! I can't figure out how to use the new wardrobe, so it looks like this HA is going to stay for a while.

Hahah, no offense taken. I've seen many double posts lately, must be something wrong because you technically shouldn't be able to.... Weird!! The new wardrobe is kind of complicated but it kind of helps too.

Can I ask what's the name for the green-yellow paint? I know I've seen the item and I am almost sure it's a sbtq one but can't recall the name ^_^

Of course! The Court Jesters Raving Mad Green Body Paint

Thank you!! <3 Part of my wishlist as I though! :)