The kitties doing well! She's happy to be able to wash properly and everything...

Cool Whip is a frozen version of whipped cream that became popular because of how easy it was to use. However, it is not actually cream-based, but rather oil based. It's primarily water, oil, and corn syrup, though there is some cream or milk in it, down as ingredient four or five... Lots of people like it, but I always hated it. It feels greasy, and I can feel it coating my throat when it goes down... Dreadful stuff...

As for taxes... In the states, if you have your own company, taxes are of course trickier. If you work for someone else, though, your taxes WILL indeed be taken from your monthly check. However, that is only a rough estimate of your taxes. At the end of the year, you have to calculate what you owe, minus all of your deductions, and find out what you ACTually owe. Some people maybe earned more than expected by the end of the year (due to changing jobs, or earning the lottery, or working loads and loads of overtime), while loads of others find that their deductions outweigh what they owe, so they actually get a check BACK from the government, which can be nice. :O Since I'm overseas and don't make much money, I don't pay in, I still have to file, but I usually owe 0, so that's not too bad...

Moving out could be aMAZing for your health then. Having stressful living conditions is the worst, because you can't get away to relax then. :( It's super exciting that you get to move away next month! Do you have a place picked out already?

- Oh, so Cool Whip is oil and corn syrup based. No wonder why I can't stand it.

The house I'm at right now sold, so we have to move out by the end of May. My fiance's father is trying to get us an apartment. My main problem is that I had to go into bankruptcy last year to avoid a lawsuit. The majority of the money I owed were medical bills that piled up and my mother maxing out a credit card. Yeah... I opened up a card when I was 18 or so so the mother could get a lawnmower under the promise she wouldn't spend any more. Nope, she maxes it out without me knowing.

Anyway, when you apply for apartments, they do credit checks. Everyone assumes a bankruptcy is due to reckless spending. Therefore, they don't want you to live there since they think you're going to not have rent money. It's also very hard to get any credit nowadays since credit cards always deny people with no credit or bad credit. It's ridiculous how broken the credit system is here.

I do know my fiance's father is in contact with the owners of the apartment or something to that effect, so he can talk to them. Several things can come out of this:

1. My fiance and I can move in together immediately.
2. My fiance moves in by himself and I go with my parents.
3. My fiance goes back to his mother's and I go with my parents.

I really hope it's the first option. I don't want more time with awful people... I really need to get better for my own sake. ;~;

Sorry everyone that I haven't been active in the group and doing the fun things around here. I wanted to update everyone on how I'm doing and how my father is doing. I think I mentioned it last time that my dad had to have surgery. Well, he had it done this past Tuesday. The did open heart surgery but he didn't have to have a bypass done. What they did was put in a thing called a Heart Mate III. The Heart Mate III is a heart pump that hooks at the top of the heart, the bottom of the heart and uses magnets to pump the blood through the heart. My father had a horribly low number on his heart. He had 17% of a heart function left. The percentage that it was at was enough to keep a newborn alive and you see what little newborns do. They cry, eat, sleep and go to the bathroom. My dad is a full grown adult trying to do things like build his house, work on cars, mow the yard. His heart just wasn't able to keep up with him. He has been diagnosed with heart failure back when he had his heart attack in 2009. Anyhow, now that he has the heart pump, good things has happened. His blood pressure improved. His blood oxygen improved. The right side of the heart is beating with the left side correctly.

Now you're wondering what the heart pump is without having to Google it. Well, like I said above, it connects to the top of the heart to the bottom and it has a wire that goes from the inside to the outside and connects to two batteries that last anywhere from 10-12 hours. He's got a total of 8 batteries and. Now these aren't like double A or triple A batteries. These things are like the power pack supply box on your laptop power cord. He's got two of them that he wears in a harness and is able to do things.

When he came out of surgery, they had to stitch him up with wires that go through the ribs, up through the skin and tie. I haven't seen him since the surgery but I can imagine that it looks as bad as the doctor told me. He was hooked up to seven different IV bags, a ventilator tube, a catheter since he can't get up to use the bathroom, and I think a feeding tube since he can barely eat on his own. I'll be seeing him tomorrow and I hope he looks like my father with a big chest incision. He'll be in the hospital for up to four to five weeks to make sure that he can do things on his own and not afraid to live with the pump without the constant care of doctors or nurses. When he gets out of the hospital, he'll be living with me for another six weeks and I'll have to take care of him. I have medical knowledge and experience, so I'll be able to take care of him just fine. My house is clean, bigger than his little camper and I don't have a hyper active dog like he does and he'll be able to lounge comfortably and watch Netflix and play Candy Crush.

Now on to me. I'm trying to get a job since I got me and my wife a mobile home by trading off my 1969 VW Bug. I need the money so that I can buy the things I need and to pay bills with extra money to start going out again. My health has been decent since I have a mental disorder. I've been getting enough sleep, been eating as healthy as I can. I don't know if I dropped any weight but maybe. I do a lot of walking and cleaning since the house gets messy without me there to clean it. My wife and cats do all kinds of messy stuff so it's like I have three people to look after. Ha ha!

As a final note, I may be doing another Human Avatar contest with the prize being like the last two; 10million sP. When I have more time to be online and get a little bit more sP saved, I'll do said contest. So until then, wait for the announcement. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Talk to all of you later!!

Trying to be more active and came here and saw the first part of your post about Cool Whip! So ironic, as the store I mostly shop at, just started carrying Sugar Free Cool Whip. I got so excited I even bought 2 containers. When I got home and read the ingredients the 2nd one is Corn Syrup! ? Grrrr!

And I hope Option 1 works out for you!! :-)

It sounds like you have your hands full taking care of loved ones! But at least you are also taking care of yourself!

- But, that makes no sense... Corn syrup is definitely sugar. :c

I'm not sure if you cook, but I thought this would be worth sharing: I found this recipe for homemade Cool Whip. I'm pretty sure you could use granular splenda or granular stevia as a replacement for the sugar.

Yes! I was like WTF?

Thank you for the recipe! I am going to try it, only I'll replace the sugar with stevia!! :-)

- I'm curious as to how it'll turn out. ^^

I know how that can be! Please don't feel selfish for pinging us! It's why we're here for you! If you need someone to talk to I'm here! I know exactly how you feel. I didn't post everything I was going through here because I didn't want to feel like I was bugging anyone. But people have helped me and having someone to talk to helps alot. Big big hugs to you. Also sometimes venting/ranking it helps getting everything out. So if you ever just need to get something out I'm here, as well as others :) Glad your father is doing well after all of the surgeries!

It seems that everyone has been having problems lately. And I don't want to add to it, or try to "out shadow" anyone's problems because everyone has different things and it affects them all differently. But Tuesday I found that my mom has cancer in her colon. They caught it early enough and it hasn't spread at all so that's the great news about it. I"ll post some more about it later as right now I have to go cook. But I just wanted to let everyone know because at the moment I haven't really cried about it or anything, and I know at some point I will. And I guess I want to have a future support?

Regardless if anyone ever needs someone to listen to I'm here for you!

My father-in-law over the past three years has fought 5 cancers and thus far won. Here is to hoping they caught it early enough and can nip it in the bud!

-hugs- I'm sorry, hope she gets well very soon. Good thing it hasn't spread.

I will def let you know how it turns out.

I'm so sorry about your mom! Even though you don't know me if you ever need a shoulder please don't hesitate to use mine! Sending love and hugs!!

Hey goober!! ;-)

Oh man, that's horrible! But at least they found it early; that's a really good thing! It may not feel like a good thing now, but it is... I'm sure the doctors will do an amazing job, and get rid of it asap. :) My thoughts are with you and her!

That's so great to here! Yeah, From what the doctor said is that they caught it before it had a change to spread and early enough. Yeah that's what I'm the most grateful for so far. Thank you. I'll let remember that :) Yeah, that's what I'm happy about too Thanks to everyone!

I think you being there will be a big help to her too!!

Hey you!! lol I am on all the forums today asp chatter too :P

And I guessed you survived work today! :-) You deserve a fun week-end!!

Yeah. I guess it's going to be some background time?

As a kid my dad worked offshore so I was always with my mom. When I turned 18 and was in my first year of college my dad divorced my mom. So I of course was going to stay with her and help. When I was in maybe middle school she got disability for her back and fibromyalgia. She's not at the point where she can't care for herself or anything like that. She does have her days where she is in a lot of pain and can't really do anything and others where she can do everything and anything. So I have always been with her and she's pretty much all I have. I'm an only child and her family is in Michigan (just her two brothers. Both her parents had cancer as well and died of other causes) So we only have each other really. What I'm trying not to be selfish of is that my birthday is in May and I'll be 25 and I'm trying not to think that she won't make it. Because I know with how the odds look right now everything is going to good. But you know how when you find out news you always go through all of the bad stuff because that's just how your mind works

My aunt also suffers with fibromyalgia. Small world huh? She is almost entirely bed ridden. :( She has some bad days and some not so bad days but never any good days. Your mom must be a fighter! That is a good thing to be when fighting cancer. My aunt is always trying her best to be happy. She also suffers with kidney stones on a regular bases and just has a tough time. I am sorry that you only have your mom but glad that she can be there for you. At least you have your subeta family too!!!

Yeah. It's been just an on going battle with everything in her health. I'm more than happy to just have my mom with me. We've close and we only really have each other. So it all works out. And I do have my subeta family!

I start talking about cool whip and now we are all making it :P My only concern would be that buying cool whip might be cheaper than making it...

Cheaper and easier! :-P But with yucky ingredients.

Making regular whipped cream is so easy that's what I often do. Trader Joe's has shelf stable boxes of whipping cream (the liquid) so could easily, and if needed, use that. But I still want to try the recipe from at least once.