"Are you eating?" "Are you sure you're getting enough to eat?" "You know, you can't trust a skinny cook!" And my personal favorite: Friend/Acquaintance: "Oh, wow you're so skinny/tiny/little! Lucky!"

"You're just saying that because you're a virgin!" in regards to me saying I'm asexual. If I wanted to have sex, I could easily do so with my boyfriend of nearly 3 years. We're both adults who are able to consent.

Oh, and a couple of the customers at my job like to comment about how I'm "too pretty to like video games" (I work at GameStop). I mean...I get that they're trying to compliment me, but they can do so without implying that women who play games are generally ugly. Not only is that very untrue, I hate being complimented at the expense of another woman.

Ooh, I feel you on that one. My personal favorite is when people are surprised by my appetite and ask if I've eaten anything else that day (because obviously because I'm hungry, it means I haven't eaten properly).

Oh man I hateeee when someone implies that I have type one diabetes because I'm chubby. Like, I'm 5'1 and 190 pounds, I get it, I'm not tiny, I'm not huge either but I'm fat. Thick, plump, curvy, chubby, husky, whatever you want to call it- I'm fat. And I'm totally fine with that, honestly most of the time I love my body, and when I don't its usually because its a day I wish I looked more masculine or androgenous(I'm Genderfluid) or my old eating disorder is acting up which thankfully is getting to be a rare thing. But man if you don't know the basics, like that theres two types of diabetes, shut your trap. Please. I'm so tired of people justifying this GENETIC disorder that made my pancreas not function with my weight. Like oh boy you fuckin got me, I totally have to inject insulin into myself several times a day because I ate a few extra gummy bears when I was a kid. Yup. By the way can I see you medical license please? I mean I'm totally used to ignorance and fatphobia. I mean one of my grandmothers seems to have nothing but diet and knitting books in her house and once when I asked for a popsicle told me to my face"Sure, why dont we just sit around and get fat!" in a mocking tone when I was like eight (which still hurts me sometimes on aforementioned ed days, grandma) and the other when told by my mom that I was 89 pounds with an ed in the pysch ward for suicide attempts response was "Oh, its about time! I'm sure she looks so much better" nah i looked like I was going to die but. hey doesnt matter as long as im supermodel thin right. Anyway I'm used to antifat garbage and I've dealt with it all my life but man does it just get so TIRING. especially when people ask me "are you sure you can have that?" Look buddy I've been diagnosed with this for 5-6 years, I'm pretty sure I know better than you and you preconceived notions about what I can eat. And don't get me started on people who yell at me and call me disgusting and tell me about how I need to hide away from public view when I take insulin, which, I need, to live, in public. I warn new people about the needles, if you can't handle it please just look away.

This turned out longer than I thought it would.

"How did you get so tall? Maybe the extra FAT you have in your feet made you taller."

I still sometimes think about this and am shocked that someone could say something so stupid. And, for the record, I most certainly am not walking on platforms made of my own foot fat.

"So, have you found a real relationship yet?"

My fiance and I will have been together for five years this November, and our wedding is in a year. I guess our relationship doesn't count as real because we're both women? Thanks, Mom.

"Why don't you go talk to your fake friends online?" Or when my parents use my birth name, it's so annoying especially since I told them it makes me feel sick to the stomach when they say stuff like that. A l so anyone saying "aren't you dressing a bit masculine?" Yes. Yes I am. Because I'm a boy. That's what boys do. (The whole gendering of clothes makes me feel sick as well).

"Why don't you have a job yet?" Maybe because no one is hiring? It's not like i'm just lying on the floor yelling at the ceiling to give me a job. Not to mention how hard it is to get a job with no experience tsk tsk

I'm just really bad at listening and taking things in all the time. My mind wanders a lot so I always loose focus on what people are telling me. So, before high school ended, I had so many things on my mind that I would forget simple little things like peoples names and events that had happened during school or over the weekend. Sometimes I'd find myself staring at my friend and totally forgetting what their name is, so I'd instead snap my fingers at their face to get their attention. My friends seemed totally fine with it. We're always acting silly during lunch and I thought that it wouldn't matter until I started thinking about it again after I've said all my goodbyes. I can't believe that I would snap my fingers to get someones attention. I was so angry at myself. I thought that I wasn't even treating my friends like human beings and instead like dogs. I actually texted the friends that I did that to and they didn't seem to care. They were totally fine with it. I'm over it now, but I try to listen to people a lot more and actually take the time to pay attention to them. I always seem to be doing something rude, but that's the way I was raised, I believe. My parents never took the time to listen to me and always spoke over me, so I found myself doing it to the people around me. It has gotten me into trouble on some days, but like I said, I always try to better myself.

: Dude, I feel you. I've got a friend who's mom tried to literally throw away his clothes and leave dresses and crap last time she visited him. It's crazy.

: Oh my God, this too. I got lucky when I got my job, but it took months of searching, even with experience. It's tough nowadays.

I understand the type one diabetes problems, to an extent. My boyfriend is type one, so anytime we go out with new friends I usually tell them so they're prepared for when he takes his insulin. It never fails that someone forgets. My favorite is when strangers see him do it and try to walk away as fast as possible with a horrified expression because obviously broad daylight in front of a restaurant is the best time for suspicious syringe usage. He has never been able to gain weight either, so he gets snarky comments about being 119lbs at 6'3" from random jerks.

Personally, I hate when people say," Oh, you'll never get a job if you facial piercings, tattoos, etc.! You should take them out to look respectable. You'd look prettier!"

My piercings do not take away from my facial features. They add to them. Also, it's my face. I'll poke holes in it if I want to. I feel lost and awkward without them in, as they give me confidence. Plus, I enjoy them which is really all that matters. Not once in a single job interview has the subject of my piercings come up other than compliments. If a job really wanted to base my ability to work on my appearance rather than my actual capabilities then it's not a job I'd be happy at anyway.

oh man, nothing like someone thinking you're shooting up heroin in the local mcdonalds when uhm, no.

I honestly hate when people play the whole "WHY would you RUIN such a pretty face with THOSE??" and while I could do a big spiel about how personal preference isn't fact and that body mods are none of you business but most of the time its just like.......who asked you though. lmao I just get really tired of people doing this whole "OH I could NEVER do THAT! Because ______" because like it always either feels like a backhanded compliment or fishing for compliments backhanded:"Oh I could never get those! they just look so weird. They're okay on you though I guess." fishing:"Oh I could never do that with my hair, I just don't have the confidence haha!" what. what am I supposed to say to this. you can do it? just do it? believe in yourself? what is the response people want from this genuinely dont know last thing I'll put because its related to the last thing I wrote is I dont know how people want me to respond to really obvious questions?? like, you know, when you have piercings everyone and their dog asks you if it hurt. And after about twenty times of saying "I mean a bit, but its not as bad as people tend to think." it gets tiring so I either say yes or no depending and either answer people react sourly too even if I'm being polite. what do you want guys??? Or "Did you dye your hair?" my hairs blue green pink and purple buddy, and its not a wig. after so long of saying yes I started jokingly saying "nah dude I woke up and it was just like this" (which would be rude if I said it sarcastically, but I tend to make it regular deadpan to just make it a silly statement I guess) and people hate that but react awkwardly to just yes so??? What answer do they want??? and of course if I say no well thats just rude because it highlights how obvious their question is EVEN MORE so they get mad. ??? I love my body mods but peoples reactions I could take or leave.

"Hey, talk more! We don't bite!! :)" I have social anxiety, so to me that's like telling someone with depression to "be happy". "You don't like people, do you?" I actually want to make friends with a lot of people, but I'm constantly being held back by my SA. I'm trying to so hard to act normal but it's not exactly working and I've had to bear with it for years.

"You look so much better when you're not wearing black" - my cousins' grandma nearly every time I see her. If I am wearing darker clothes that day, she'll be like "Ugh, I thought you'd be over this phase by now" or "Aren't you a little old to still wear that ugly lip piercing?"

"I might just have to leave, you're being SO clingy and needy!" - my ex-boyfriend when I tried to initiate non-sexual physical intimacy. This is really the only one of these where I got really hurt. I rely very much on physical intimacy for approval (hugs, kisses, cuddling etc.) where he preferred to only give me this if it was leading up to something sexual, and only if he was the one who felt like it. I am endlessly happy to be out of that farce of a relationship.

"You should be more happy! An intelligent girl like you should know that I'm right!" - guy who tried (and failed) to get with me while I was depressed. This particular phrase was simply so idiotic that me and a couple of friends have it as an inside joke now.

"Do you want to be alone right now?" - my "friend" yesterday, when I broke down crying in front of him. He proceeded to leave without saying a word. So much for 10 years of friendship apparently.

"I hate it when girls say they think they're fat" - date I had a few weeks back. Like no, one's perception of their own body is literally not something you have a say in.

"You don't seem depressed; I think you're just spoiled."

"You're going to be a teacher? Oh honey, get use to never being rich!"

Like LOL who says that to people.

Okay, how about when people say they hate children or children are gross/disgusting. It's like, fuck you. My kid is awesome, and is neither gross or disgusting. Lol.

"You need to relax! Get a hobby! Keep your mind busy!" To me when I'm having a bad burst of anxiety. I would love to relax, but cannot. Thank you. Also, thanks for implying that I do nothing with my life.

"I hate when women think they're fat. They need to shut up and be happy!" -_-

"What do you mean you're sick?! You look fine."

It's called a chronic illness, which is not always visible, as I just told you. What's worse is that I'm a teenager who has had issues with chronic pain since before elementary school and is now showing signs of what doctors and us are guessing could be lupus. No one seems to believe that younger people can be chronically ill.

"Oh, yeah, I had a bisexual phase too. It's just a phase."

Cool. Just because you had one doesn't mean that over half of the LGBT+ communities' sexuality is invalid though.

oh my god, same. That and when you come out to someone, the first thing they say is "So are you a starfish or something?" or "Humans can't do that! (meaning asexual reproduction)" and it's even more so irritating as someone who studies linguistics that they say this because they should know this isn't what I meant, and that my identity as asexual is nothing near the reproduction habits of bacteria. I can't believe the amount of people that have said this kind of stuff to me as a joke.