I stalk BHH and its a wonder I havent been charged for being a stalker. Last 3 items in small time are a shock and surprised myself. I am doing great, outside of painful hands from crocheting way to much. Both hands have arthritis, but I refuse to stop crocheting. How are you?

well I have been doing ok ... I spent half the day today in the emergency room ... I have had a problem with ingrown hairs on my head and I had that taken care a couple of months ago now I was there for the same thing just this time it is on my face where my mustache is so the whole side of the right side of my face is swollen and my lip is swollen up like someone hit the face right there ... they gave me an antibiotic while I was that the hospital instead of waiting for them to give me an I.V I told them forget that I want to go home I am out of my comfort zone and I am starting to freak ... I had been there now for over 2 hours ... well the nurse took some blood from me and after she came back she talked to the pharmacist and they said she could just put the antibiotics straight into me instead of waiting for the IV but she had to do it over a five minute period ...which i thought was great so I didn't have to be there for another 3 or 4 hours for some damn IV... anyway I got home took some tylenol and went to sleep for a couple of hours and it still hurts but at least I don't feel like shit anymore

Oh Man that sounds painful as heck. Last time I was in the ER I was there 8 hours, and no answer to show for it. I was pissed. I got referred to the surgical clinic, which meant waiting over a week for an appt. Let them know you need to be in a private room, that you have PTSD and they should accommodate you, if not flash VA card. They x-rayed my hands I have to go to ortho clinic next.

I was in a private room and they know all that ..it was just I was way out of my comfort zone to many people around even with the door shut and the lights off I am in an unfamiliar place and I can't do that ... I spend about 99% of my time at home and go outside just to sit in the sun when its not to hot ... I am more of a shut in then anything if I don't have to leave I don't ....

My middle son is a creature of comfort and doesnt like to be out of his comfort zone. He does go out, but happier in his comfort zone. Being isolated in his bedroom, he only takes when sleeping otherwise only there to change clothes.

that is where I spend most of my day sitting in my room watching some type of sport and playing on here or watching a movie and playing on here I wish I could be like the old me when I was outgoing and loved being outside and around a lot of people ... I used to have big cookouts at my house where around 30 people would be there and I would have about 5 or 6 grills all going at once I miss those days

Those days are not gone, you can have them back. Just take a few steps at a time, and invite people who are aware of your anxieties. So that if you leave the room they get it, I would.

that was when I lived up in chicago I had a ton of friends when I lived there but here I have only one friend and he is always working and stuff but he will come over now and then to hang out with me he knows the deal I told him about me and y I am messed up and he is cool about it he understands now I have invited him over a few times for a cook out but he never comes not that he don't want to when I ask he is usually already doing something else which is cool I understand he helps his mom out a lot and is usually doing something for her ..

Better one friend then a room full that are clueless! Quality over quantity is my personal motto.

yea that is how I feel too... it don't matter much to me though no matter how many friends I have NONE of them compares to the friends I have here ... you guys don't judge anyone and are always here to help and give love when we need it ... I love all of you so much you guys don't know how much you actually mean to me ... I would be lost if it wasn't for all of my bear friends this is where I feel most comfortable is when I am here with all of you bears

The gift of a caring friendship is the biggest gift you can give to someone without judgment. I wish people around the world could do that this planet would be a better place or just like the lair. I am glad that you can feel comfortable here!

thank you for sharing all that's happened to you I totally understand about being around people for more than 2 hours I can't even handle it when they come over here and it's my own family I have to go in my room and get away from everyone and calm down my nerves or whatever it is that is bothering me being around people

Dilly Dilly the Superbowl is tomorrow in Minnesota who is going to be watching and tailgate partying

: We are blessed to have the Lair. You are so correct about he love and the acceptance, which is why I lurk here as much as I do. Thank you for being so open about the things that trouble you. So many of us have issues that the outside would doesn't even want to understand. We can be honest here and be validated and not marginalized like we are on the outside...the supposed real world. Hang in there brother, you are much loved and even though we cannot come over and have a brew and a cookout, we all can feel like we belong and that we are cared about.

I don't favor any of the teams, i just hope for a fun filled day for everybody.

Yes I consider everyone family in the lair

and I am not going for any team in particular but I don't want Brady's team to win lol

Hi folks...just popping on to say hi. - I understand those discomforts too...I can only take so much of being around anyone but family. It is just exhausting. My little family is gone this weekend so I'm on my own and loving it. I'm going to have my own little solo Super Bowl "party" tomorrow haha...I don't have a favorite team...but I tend to root for the underdog. I mostly like the commercials and halftime.

Hugs to all the bears ❤

: LOL!! I was really really really hoping that somehow the 49 football men would get a reprieve and get to play tomorrow...but alas, what do I know about all the intricacies of football? I'm just hoping for an exciting game and not a blow out one sided embarrassment either way. You know, a good fair entertaining game to compliment the commercials.

i swear if i dont get this internet reconnected i am going to lose my mind. thinking of you all!

: We miss you too Darling! Happy Super Bowl Day!

So good to hear from you! Enjoy the game day!