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All genders are a "mindset" (although that's not the word I would choose), since gender is something that is experienced in the mind. Anyone of any gender can have any body.

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Science is a social construct too, and what's in one's pants has nothing at all to do with what happens in one's brain. Try looking up qualia sometime and you'll maybe learn that what goes on in the brain is a lot more complicated than imagination. You say that you've asked a few questions, and I've done my best to answer them politely.

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oh good. i was worried for a little while that i shouldn't mention my gender onsite for fear of general nastiness, lol.

i'm agender. i use she / they pronouns. good to meet y'all!

I honestly 100% don't care what gender people see me as. It shouldn't affect how they interact with me, or the amount of respect they give me. I spent too many years wrestling with gender dysphoria because of what women are "supposed" to be like. I felt that because I didn't really fit in as female, I wasn't really.. allowed to be one, I guess? Obviously, that isn't true. It took me so, so many years to realize that. tl;dr: gender stereotypes are ridiculous and this may be slightly off topic lmao

Hey everyone! I mentioned before on this thread that I was working on a forum group for us nonbinary folk, and I wanted to come back and say I finally got it started. Check out this topic for more information:

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Solidarity and love ❤

Agender here, I'm glad there's more than just me on here. :3

Hello. Yay nice thread. Not many know that I am nonbinary. Well... I am mostly they/she. But my family doesn't know. I feel more female but most days I hate being one. But not so much that I'd change my gender. My boobs get on my nerves. - Last month I made me a sidecut and cuthalf my hair off. X'D

Hi everyone here. <3

i've been nonbinary for a while. i tested the waters by going by "he/him" and a new name and trying to enforce a more masculine mindset, i guess? and i still didn't feel right. then i gave they/them a try and loosened my "one or the other gender" kind of mindset and now ??? im just comfortable???? i'm finding more confidence dipping back into masculine and feminine styles and views on myself,,,, idk my gf is a cis girl and she loves and respects me and i'm not pressured to be one gender or the other indefinitely, i'm happy

but yeah hah,,, ramble! i'm genderqueer, they/them !

Gender-fluid here, although I generally identify as a female and use feminine pronouns 😄

My husband is demi, bi, and a liiitle genderfluid. It's been interesting for me to adjust. I mean I knew the demi/bi thing but the genderfluid came up a couple years after we were married. Actually we're not 100% genderfluid is the right word? He feels moooostly male but...and it's not a sometimes this sometimes that, it's like, things like getting to wear his hair long allow him to feel comfortable in his existence. (Which is fine by me! His long hair is way sexy.) XD And I'm just learning how to be a supportive wife. It's...a little alarming when you are cishet and your husband says he feels kind of also like a girl. But everything is good now. I guess it's just that he'd like to be allowed more room for "femininity" and that's not a problem for me.

[edit] Actually I guess part of the confusing thing is we don't really believe in a lot of gender roles in the first place, like household chores vs working and stuff. We see parenting as a non-gendered activity, we both made the kid! So we both raise her! Duh! And we both live in the house, so we both have to take care of it. Our agreement has to do with preference - I hate cooking, and dishes trigger my OCD, so he does those. I'm fine with laundry, so I do that. He works because he has a higher capacity to earn money than I do. I would work if it was the other way. The feeling has little to do with gender as gender ROLES and everything to do with something inside. So. Maybe. Kinda. More sorta trans? Which is the language he used when first trying to express what he felt inside, hence the slight panic, since I really love him but I don't want to be married to a woman. But. Not trans at the same time because still mostly male so genderfluid? ._. labels are hard.

I know this post is a little old but I just found it.

I'm nonbinary too! Genderqueer, to be specific. I've always found it really hard to meet other nb people, so this is lovely!

I'm nonbinary! I prefer they/them. I also consider myself trans because I want to undergo surgery because boobs are terrible.

I'm pretty much in the closet IRL though, and it's a huge pain.

I'm a trans boy, who also identifies as nonbinary. They / He pronouns. ❤ I had chest dysphoria, so I am now 1 year post top surgery and 5+ years on T. I don't like the idea of "passing", (or I just think what society views as "male" and "masculine" is very boring and toxic), so I wear very cutesy, pastel, frilly, childish clothing. I love Sweet Lolita dresses, Fairy kei, and Larme. I absolutely don't feel wearing dresses or being "feminine" is drag, it's just authentically me, as a pretty femme boy and my gender identity is just as valid as "masculine" or "passing" trans men. Though I know cisgender people will have confusion with my presentation and my gender identity (because to them I "don't look like I boy", which btw ew gender policing), it isn't my job to sacrifice my authentic, happiest self so they can be "comfortable". Gender is a social construct, it's all about how you feel - not your genitals or what you wear.

heeey genderqueer n usin they/them pronouns

I identify as genderqueer! You can call me whatever you please, as long as it is with respectful intent. I encourage folk to use the pronouns they feel fit me best. c: I go by Robin, Rob, and in my workplace, often times just my last name.

I identify as genderfluid. I'm pretty closeted with really only a handful of people knowing (some friends from high school who I rarely talk to anymore...life, you know), and the assistant teacher in my classroom at work. My partner doesn't know. My partner and I have been together 8 years. He never pressures me to be "girly" or "feminine" and has always been fine with me wearing whatever makes me happy. However, I haven't come out to him mostly because he can be pretty, well, conservative about certain things.

Growing up, I was really insecure about the fact that my gender fluctuated. I thought there was something wrong with me because I'm AFAB but I never identified completely with being female and my gender identity would change. Even in a more open high school, I never knew anyone else who identified as being genderfluid/genderqueer/non-binary. I had a lot of friends who were gay, trans, etc., but no one else that was like, well, me. My friends were accepting of the fact that I'm bi and that I didn't identify as being female but that I wasn't trans.

Even now that I have a name for it and have an identity, I still feel kind of insecure because I don't feel like I can be out to a lot of people. Basically, it's taken me 30 years to get to a place where I'm starting to be open with people and feel like my authentic self (I mean, I guess it would be 30 years...I turn 30 next month, so we'll go with that). While I'm only out to one person at work, I have started feeling more comfortable dressing however my gender is that day. I think a lot of that confidence has come from buying my first binder. I find that I have a lot more self-confidence when I wear it.

Anyway, I know this is a really long post, but I was wondering if any other non-binary people find that their gender identity is more one than the others? What I mean is, I very rarely ever feel feminine and mostly find myself feeling more masculine or gender neutral. I have more times where I feel more male or gender neutral than anything else. I was wondering if that's normal or if I'm just weird?

I think I get what you're saying! Most of the time, I feel very gender neutral. Like, I am just me. I am Robin and there is nothing that exists really beyond that point, truly. It's why I tell people that they can use any pronouns on me as long as the intent is with respect, personally. If people want to use social construct to better categorize me in their head some way, by all means. They most likely don't mean harm by it, that's just what they grew up on and believe in. Deep down though, I know I exist as me, whatever that thing that makes me myself is. :3 Nothing weird about that, don't worry yourself!