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So you think you're the maturity police, basically? It's a voluntary part of the site. You do not have to engage in it, and all you're doing is galloping around on your high horse, acting like you're better than everyone else because you don't block. Just because you don't like to block, doesn't mean other people don't see valid reasons for it.

I did not block you for your insensitivity because you weren't worth it. You didn't act in the way that caused me to block the people I have blocked. You were an annoyance, nothing more, and I didn't care enough to block you. The people I have blocked? I've done so because the fights were vicious, unpleasant, and left me feeling very, very uncomfortable and shaky. Now, if someone makes me feel that way, tell me why I should try to 'work things out' with them? Why should I compromise my comfort on a website I go on to for fun and a small escape, just to attempt to 'work out' a problem with someone that made me extremely uncomfortable?

And again, why do you care that other people block? Not everyone wants to work things out, not every body can. Some would be blockees just refuse to apologize/change their ways, some would be blockers are unable to face confrontation. Stop telling these people that they're somehow immature, petty, or overly sensitive because they choose to make their own experience on subeta more comfortable for themselves in a way that effects nobody but themselves.

Because it will help you to get over your bad feelings and the hate for them. And it may help them to realise what they are doing is wrong and maybe change their behaviour. They may realise WHY they are really doing it.

The nature of a problem is that it persists. It will repeat and repeat and repeat itself. Just with another person. And that´s why I care that other people block (or try to run away from dealing with problematic people in general). They won´t get out of that cicle.

For example: Explain to those who really think what I posted about people with anxiety issues what hell those fears are. How those issues inconvience you at every step in life. Make them see what it really means to have them. Let them understand because it´s the not understanding it (because they have not experienced it) that mostly genereates those comments. If they understand you they WILL change their behaviour and opinion. But they won´t if no one talks to them and just judges them. And maybe you´ ll understand in return why they did what they did. You can reach a common ground, even if there have been vicious confrontations.

I doubt that in this situation an understanding was aimed at. Normally when arguments turn vicious and ugly both parties blame each other and demand an apology. And those who, as you say, are unable to face a confrontation, an arbiter could help. That´s why I said an arbiter would be a better way than blocking. And everything you do effects others and the community as a whole. Blocking too. posted a good example.

Please, I ask you again not to claim I say people who block are immature, petty or overly sensitive. I never said that and never implied it. I just tell you there is a more beneficial way to deal with problematic people. You say, you see me as an annoyance and yet you are facing me and the problem you have with me. Why is that?

It's not any of your business why they block or who they block. If blocking someone makes a person's experience on subeta more comfortable and enjoyable for them, that's not for you to criticize or pass judgement on. Every one of your replies has implied that you think blocking is petty and immature. Go back and read them.

I block people for my own sanity.

Every you is general here.

Some times it's not you but the blockee. Other times it is you. And sometimes you are blind/refuse to see why.

Also a small possibility the block was an accident. I've accidentally mistaken one user for another before and didn't realize for sometime.

This is all I have to say on this. Do not ping me back here.

Sorry but has it ever occurred to you that the block feature may not be the problem here ?

That's like saying, I was amputated one leg, so seeing manual cars makes me feel bad because I can't use the clutch.

I think there are bigger issues at stake if you're in either situation, but you must always keep in mind that features aren't meant with just you in mind. There's thousands of people involved.

Some people use it just to bully other users.. this is how I felt and it devastated me.. I'm pretty sure that I'm not the only one that experienced this kind of situations.

If it's a fight between users, fine, probably the best way is to block.

Like you said there are thousands of people involved and also thousands of reasons, half of them are correct reasons to block and the other half are not correct.

After I read all the posts I understand that there is still a need for this feature, I just hope that they will find a way to prevent users to abuse it to harm other users..

Most people that use the feature use it because it's needed. Your 50/50 mark is way off, I can guarantee it. If someone is unpleasant enough to block you just to hurt you, well then they're not someone you want to interact with anyway, aren't they?

I don't understand how this thread even became about the morality of blocking? I mean, thinking every problem can or should be talked out if a little naive imo. Sometimes people simply clash and no amount of pseudo-therapy (from another user on a pet site of all places) is going to make a difference. We all make judgments in real life about who to avoid and who to work things out with. I really don't understand how it's anyone else's business if we do the same online.

I understand that! and I'm not judging, if I said something wrong or if I judged so I'm sorry and I take it back :) My point is that some people can't handle a random block with no reason, the block feature needs to be taken seriously to prevent abuse and prevent users to harm others.. Anyway, maybe I'm wrong, I don't mind to admit it and I'm open to listen and to understand better the situation :)

There's no way to police the blocking feature, though. If we try to set up 'rules' for it, what can happen is a lot of blocks being rejected because people technically weren't breaking the site rules.

I saw an example once of someone saying they blocked another person just because of their junk trades. And I don't see a problem with that? It's a website, and people should be able to see what they want to see.

I had this thought before of a maybe a UA can review the blocking reasons but it's not something that can happen here.. and Subeta can't babysit problems between users as long as no one is breaking the rules..

Thanks for the example, yes honestly I don't see a problem with that, I don't know if it's a good or bad reason, but who am I to judge? thanks for opening my eyes "^_^

That's partially what I see the blocking feature for. The things users do that don't break the rules, but are annoying/hurtful. And exactly, the staff can't babysit our problems. We're expected to just deal with them, with the block feature.

Why are you so very concerned that Aztec "gets over her bad feelings"? You are telling Aztec that you know what is best for her, not her. That she should do what you say, because you know better. Heads up: you don't. Aztec will do whatever is comfortable for her, and it's none of your business. Right now you are concern trolling, with a bit of sea lioning thrown in.

She asked me to give reasons for my opinion and I did just that. I stated my opinion based on what I have learned about human conflicts during my education and based on my personal experience.

I didn't ask for your opinion, I asked why you cared what other people did. And your answer was some pretentious drivel about resolving conflicts where you acted like everyone's mother, and like you knew best.

Then I misinterpreted that part as asking for reasons why I think it is a good thing to work things out

Can this thread be locked already? Nothing is going to come of it. There will be no changes to the blocking policy.

Some people block for the simplest of reasons. Maybe so and so blocked them because they wore blue on their ha in July. Idk, I just don't see why if someone blocks someone why the reason they blocked matters. What I think matters is how the feature is used and can be used. To help sanity of users everywhere:o

lmao @ this thread.

For people who "need to block because they can't stop arguing" or whatever, .... hello? Perhaps be the bigger person and just stop talking? The argument can't continue if you don't engage. If you NEED to block just to be able to quit, then maybe you are the problem...

Also so many of the examples listed on WHY you would possibly block are against the rules, so, idk why they're even being brought up. I cannot understand the need to block someone HERE, for something that was said on another site also. That logic is baffling. If it was THAT BAD, then it's something they would be in trouble for HERE if they did it.

Anyways, as far as blocking goes, I've always liked the idea of whatever site that lets you know there's a blocked post on a thread, and gives you the option to see it. Would be beneficial for plots or holidays etc. Also, could have the added bonus of the blocker going maybe I didn't really need to block this person, and unblocking them. idk what kind of strain a person with a block list a mile long puts on the servers, but hey, maybe it could help.