Why is everyone always thinking about sex 24/7? Whats your thoughts? Don't just say 'its human nature'.

Okay, I'm in my mid 20s and I'm sexually attracted to men. That being said, I know there is a time and place to 'turn off' my sexual thoughts. I like that stuff/alone-time just as much as anyone else. Heck I do that just as much as anyone else (And I'm as dirty as anyone else...look at my avatar for crying outloud!). But, I spend my time doing other things too, like projects,games,reading,writing, and learning....traveling, camping.

I've noticed in more and more places that everyone is obsessed with sex to the point that it (or perverted type remarks based on body parts) is 75% of their conversations. Its driving me crazy. In fact, I'm getting bored with all of it.

My guild on an online game: only really talks about who they did, or what time they had doing it. As well as pervy jokes in most every conversation.

Online Roleplay: friends talk about wanting to strictly erotic roleplay. Which that's fine, but they want to do it all the time! Not just regular roleplays either! After the 2nd or 3rd time its horrible for me.

Trying to find friends with the same interests on board sites/games (At least SIX different sites/games) that live in my area and go to my school. They are SO SMUT OBSESSED. They have sexual pictures (18+ pics) of themselves, flirting very vulgarly to everyone.

Start to make a friend online game and we've been talking about ourselves (Interests/schooling ect)and the next moments its totally sexual!!!

It seems everyone is sexually frustrated hormonal balls of lust!

I'm not saying this is wrong or that I disagree with this lifestyle, but its like theses people don't do anything else! I don't mind sexual things being out in the open either. I also don't mind talking about sexual things with friends, I'm just as much of a perv. But....Where is the offswitch?! Is this all anyone wants to talk about? Not everything is about sex! There is a time and place! I kinda feel so many people lack morals.

Has anyone noticed this or had different experiences? I just had to get that off my chest.

I'm asexual, so my mind is never on sex. I'm sex-repulsed, and really, I have so many better things to think about.

But yeah. It's not everyone. My boyfriend (I'm heteromantic asexual) is bisexual and he doesn't have that type of conversation at all either, even before I came out as asexual. We just...really didn't bother about it.

Yeah, we RPed smut online, but not all the time, and it wasn't our subject.

My answer: It's the media (tv and movies and shit) and the constant "sex makes relationships last longer", "this much sex you should have every week to stay healthy and happy", "sex cures cancer!" (I'm exaggerating about that one) research presented every other day. No, honestly. I DON'T KNOW. Plus before someone mentions reproduction has nothing to do with this 'issue'. On the other hand, I think our capability to reproduce around the year plays a huge part in it. It's sad on so many levels.

I myself have these moments when I'm ***** as any other animal during mating season but I'm a loser and nobody wants me so that's my 'sex life' in a nutshell!

SIGHES. How did you find someone like that? Every man I'm finding is overly sexualized, thats the first thing on their mind. I might even say i'm kinda demisexual (lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless i become deeply emotionally connected)

Oh you're right...it is everywhere. I wish it wasn't. Honestly I'm more interested in seeing 'cool things' rather than sexual things. I'd personally rather have magazines saying things like "eat this to cure cancer." or "learn about making healthy food" but they always end up talking about katy perry's butt.

The best thing I've seen is having sexual intercourse to be fit and healthy! (I laughed so so hard and made some primal hip moves, it was hilarious).

Ahem. Like my father says: sex is everywhere and normal. He's really open about his sexual life (not that I want to know) while my mom is super close-minded. I know when to use sex jokes and with who, I am comfy enough and I always ask the person if it's okay or not to talk about it. But I agree, sex is everywhere but it shouldn't be a focus in life. :c

@ Mausi

Dude, romance yourself. Dinne yourself, candles and all, pizza or whatever. Enjoy some alone time ~ @ Jimmy

Yeah. I'm open about it (Fairly) I'll tell you what I did and with who...but I don't openly talk about it. I feel that should only be with close people.

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I just feel all that brain power can be used towards other things.

- Yup, sex is everywhere and I do blame the media for putting such a large focus on it. The first thing that came into my mind are those magazines that are at the cash registers in grocery stores. It is annoying to see.

The unfortunate truth is sex sells. Most ads have an "attractive" female when targeting males and an "attractive" male when targeting females. However, it's very disproportionate in terms of using a female as a sex object over a male. For example, a lot of the popular Youtube videos have a thumbnail of boobs as the main focus in some way, even though the videos have nothing to do with boobs.

In terms of individuals, I think the people that only talk about and think about sex are the ones that are the least satisfied with it and need to use it for self-worth. There are days when people are naturally in those moods, but there are days when it shouldn't be on their minds. Like, whenever people talk about it at work, I just feel like groaning and saying this isn't the right time to talk about such things.

As for me, I don't think about it most of the time. I'm either focused on listening to music, working, playing video games, reading, or talking with my friends. Even when I'm with my boyfriend (we're both heterosexual), we don't talk about it most of the time. We talk about it sometimes to get ideas. When we do get in the mood to act, we do if we're alone at the house. If we are somewhere else, we let it go and talk about other things. With friends, we talk about it, but not all the time.

I do agree that people in general should use their time more wisely. If someone is a sex addict, they should get help for it.

- Hugs You're not a loser. It's just a matter of finding the right person. I didn't have a sex life until I was 22 (a year ago).

For now, enjoy the time alone. Treat yourself and don't put yourself down.

- I totally agree with you.

I had a biology professor in college who hollered in a lecture one day "sex isn't just about having fun" or something along that line, basically saying that the whole point of sex is for reproduction. That is what sex is for, stone cold fact. So I believe the whole obsession with sex in society has to do with the natural urge to reproduce PLUS cultural views on that have morphed around it. Like just the "oh my goodness" gossip factor and treating it like emotional/physical currency.

I'm so glad I currently work in a different work environment than my last job. I use to work with a lot of guys and they would constantly, everyday bring up sex. In conversations, in jokes, showing off their collection of girl nudes on their cellphones, bragging or bragging about their "unfortunate situations". They would poke and prod at me in conversations trying to get personal details. Because I never engaged them they called me a lesbian (which I'm not) on a number of occasions. And the nun jokes. Besides the fact I was never ever interested in any of them, just their behavior was major turn off. It's highly inappropriate and immature. There's a time and a place and the right people to talk to about sex. Just...people...TMI, there's more to life than sex.

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Thank you so much for sharing that :) I'm getting a lot of feedback here and don't feel so bad about being 'not overly sexual'. I'm sorry that the boys were picking on you about that.

Whats strange is that...I get called a prude or virgin all the time! They ask me stuff like 'do you even know what this 'sexual term' is? I laugh to myself because I'm /vastly/ more sexual educated then they are, yet they see me as a 'prude' or 'virgin'.

Also, a bit tmi. Theses people are normally super vanilla in their sexual things. They don't know much about anything but 'missionary' and quick sex. It annoys me because there can be so much more besides that. Not just dirty or kinky, but romantic and just different ways to show love.

I was starting to think that I was the strange one.

Other thing that's making me gag is all the creepy and sick stuff people practise in their bedrooms and the fact that they are not keeping it a secret but bringing it up, and even worse, being 'proud' of it! People don't want nor need to know!

yeah. I mean the act doesnt disgust me but imagining the people in my mind does. It is not appealing and shouldn't be spoken about. I have to control myself from saying 'disgusting! Who talks about that shit." Hahaha

Meh, you say not to mention that it's human nature, but it /is/ human nature. Some people prefer to think/talk about other things, and those are the people you can have compatible conversations with. Personally I avoid any instance of people talking about taxes because I don't care and people who talk about it in public have historically bored me, but I'm sure it's because they place value on it. The media is of course going to put focus on something that's already on everyone's mind -- it's an easy sell.

People who shove it in your face (esp. if they don't seem to know what they're talking about) could just be feeling inadequate about it. When there's that much focus and pressure people like to prove that they're up to par.

i think u generalize men too much

Its both (and all) genders that do this.

What I stated about in my experiences is majority females. But I think its both genders equally.

ok, no sorry i didn't see any of that... but i still think you are being pretty negative and making an issue out of a non-issue

uh okay lol

I'd go ahead and make a guess that society as a whole is starting to put sex -or the idea of sex- on a pedestal. It's always kind of been the big goal of relationships in media (at least in America) and even in school, maybe at work. There are plenty of perverts and sexual deviants who end up making everything revolve around sex eventually, but you have to ask when that happens if it's appropriate to the conversation or not.

I have a pretty strong sex drive, so obviously there will be times that I talk about it or think about it. But I was taught that there's a time and place for that, and that if it's not warranted or relevant, you don't bring it up. I think it's moreso a matter of decency than it is any particular urge, and the concept of decency is shifting considerably as time goes on; some folks would even say it's eroding.

My personal opinion is that we've been taught to seek sex, and in seeking sex it's brought up as a topic all the time.

Well, unfortunately it really IS part of our nature. Everyone in their 20s, unless they have a mental or physical condition altering their sex drive, thinks a lot about sex. This need to talk and think about sex is enhanced when someone's not getting as much as they want, or their sexual relationships aren't secure yet, which they normally aren't since most mid 20 people aren't married or longterm-committed yet.

I get tired of it too, but I don't think it's morally wrong, it's just what happens when you can't meet one of your biological needs. I've been in monogamous relationships since I was 21 so I haven't been desperate for sex in a relatively long time. If I were still single, I'd probably think about it a lot more.