Oh my goodness! ...and I thought having a bear on my deck was scary! Prayers and best wishes to your Author. Be safe, and keep a sharp eye out, cretins like that are cowards who only act when their victims are helpless or unaware.

That's great news! Thanks for your help.

So true, but Germany should have stood out in my mind bove a lot of topics since I have been there before.

I am off - so tired I am not even doing my quests today. yawns

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So i want to vent in a non judging room. I know i can not solve this problem but if i dont say it i may very well explode. My brother is a type one diabetic (as is my 9 yo daughter not the point just saying). He also has a form of CF. And neuropathy in his feet (so he ((supposed)) to walk with a cane or walker) but does not. He has shaky hands like a parkensens patient (not what it is just how he shakes). He also has about 10-15 mini seizures a day. The state we live in took his driver licence away. And his wife just divorced him (because he is a dick not because of all the crap wrong with him). I dont know what to do to help him. i dont want to be his mother (we have one of those and she sucks biig balls) (another story for another day)... But i dont know what to do. Really there is nothing i can do. but it sucks watching him try to kill himself. ya know? He is not suppose to drive but has been, he needs to eat to get insulin to stay alive and he is not. he is not taking his meds at all. I just am at the end of my rope, he doesnt care or listen when the family tried to help. so idk... Thank you for letting me share.. sorry if it bummed you out. wasnt trying too. thanks.

His got to want to help himself, apparently he doesnt want to help himself. Basically you can only voice your concern, now whether he listens or not is another story. I know it hurts to see him, do this to himself. Especially, if he made an effort his health and situation would improve. You dont have to be his mother, let him know that. I know you want to yell at him, it will relief your anger. But he wont listen any better. You need to go on with your life, and dont live frozen in place hoping he will change. You deserve your own life and happiness.

Sounds like a sad situation @ ...best bet would be to get him in touch with a therapist and/or support group in his area. With all that he has going on, it wouldn't surprise me that he is also suffering from serious depression. Extended illnesses and the feeling of hopelessness can easily lead people down a very dark and angry path.

If you can give a medical professional, family doctor, or the local hospital a heads up (due to the implied threat of self harm, or potential suicide), then the rest is up to the medical professionals in his area and your brother. In that situation, people can actually be put under medical care / psych evaluations for their own good until their state of mind and health can be thoroughly diagnosed.

At least then, you will be able to deal with the guilt and frustration which seems to be bringing you down. No matter how big a dick some family members are, we just can't help worrying...but you can't let it take over your life as well.

Good-luck dear! ❤

I have to agree with SeriousGreen. He needs therapy, who wouldn't be depressed in his condition. One thing I have to say. Take his keys before he kills an innocent person/family.

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: I agree with the others; you didn't break him, you cannot fix him. By all means, confiscate his keys, disable the car ( pull the ignition coil or pull the battery, it won't wreck the car. ) but most importantly, validate his worth to you by telling him that when he doesn't take care of himself, it makes you feel sad, or angry, or worried or all those feelings. Don't worry about being burdensome, we love you and we can tell that you're under a lot of stress. That's what we do here, we come along side of you and love you and try to share your burden.

thank you for the dances. I am going to bed. I start feeling totally sick with a fever. I need to work tomorrow morning

I stumbled in here from the ballroom to see what everyone is up to and oh no - how frightening! Thinking about you and your author...hoping the headache goes away soon and also hoping that idiot doesn't come back. Or comes back long enough to get arrested.

- It is so painful to watch a loved one self destruct. I've been there...watching my sister who was determined to continue in self destructive behavior until the end. All I wanted to do was help her and she did not want help. As long as he knows you love him and anything you tell him is because you love him...well the rest is up to him...hoping something clicks in his thinking so he will listen to you ❤

Only got a minute, guys, they're bringing another batch of stuff to go thru in a little bit - we've sent Tammy a gift that hopefully will lighten her heart a little and since it's from all of us I wanted to share the sentiment that was sent also.

You sent these items to your friend Tammy!

- that's a lovely idea ❤️

thats so sweet,

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sorry to hear of this about your brother I will have to agree with the others when you should find him some professional help sometimes it takes another sibling like yourself to step up and show the other one the right path if you have to you may have to take this into your hands and force the issue of help by taking them to a mental health specialist where they can determine whether or not he made need to stay and receive treatment for his own benefit I know that sounds mean but its called tough love, and you yourself need some type of peace of mind if he is in some type of care you can have some type of relief in your mind and know that you have helped him .... this is what Family does for each other that is what we are in Here is a Family you are loved here and every one here opinion will be different .... but one thing is for sure you should definitely take the keys or something he could do more harm then good driving a car around in his condition I hope all gets better for you

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, it sounds like your brother for whatever reason is unable to take care of himself. Perhaps though he would be willing to look with your assistance into an assisted living facility. Some are very nice where he can have company, his own apartment yet get his meals and medicines. Psychological assistance seems also needed.. rough for you for sure! Agreeing with others, disabling his car is important.

Perry and I have lived in different places where neighbor women were in danger, or maybe it's everywhere and we just see it? It's pretty damn frustrating when they won't press. Nevertheless we have sheltered them on occasion and allowed them to use our phone and some of these guys were on so many chemicals they could have punched through walls. The right action to do is the right action.

I get heart incidents fairly often and they feel like deathanddoom, and they started at the same time of life a cousin's heart exploded and left behind his wife and five kids. Maybe your brother doesn't know when he's gonna check out and each miniseize is just one more loss of autonomy and a reminder it might be anytime soon. Anyways it was a full year after that until I got any serious treatment because if I figured it was gonna end soon the HELL if I was gonna spend it in the company of doctors and hospitals and now one deathanddoom at a time it's ten years later. Alas, I drove for longer than I should have, too, because if you're used to being your own person it's hard to give it up even though now I have learned to relax and just enjoy the ride/scenery. (and that took years, too).

Maybe he will die. Maybe he won't. I can see how his wife may have made it worse in his mind if she went all mother-y because that made it so very intimately real because few people on the outside are really looking that close. I carry and use my cane as an affectation even though I need it, and this fools a lot of people... From one arrogant stubborn sickie then, in the end whether or not he comes to terms with diminished capacity(ies) is his own thing, sorry.

Cars kill far more people than guns in the USofA. Maybe if you can frame it in terms of him being the man and choosing not to take anyone out with him this will cut through all the rest of the chaos of life that his body is throwing at him and give him some true insight and clarity.