I wish there was a message or item I could send to say "I don't expect expensive stuff in return!" It is my one worry with doing MM, is that if I gift bomb the other person, they'll feel anxious about having to gift me back.

So far MM has been really nice for me. I've done it every day and had a great time. I'm lucky in that I haven't gotten a completely non-participating partner yet, and the responses have been so heartwarming :)

Personally it doesn't upset me if someone does not respond, but I tend to forget to keep gifting throughout the day if I lose their notification. So a more responsive MM tends to get more spoiled from me. I figure if I don't get any response one day, hopefully I still made someone happy.

Hmm, I seem to have an unresponsive MM already. I accidentally walked away after joining, and just came back to find that I'm partnered... and nothing. I've sent my typical opening gift bomb just in case they did the same, but I doubt it.

I wonder if there was maybe a way to keep an interaction going on in MM. Like... once I send 5 items, I can't send anymore until I get 5. Price doesn't matter, interaction does. But not sure that's the best solution.

MM I JUST WANNA SPOIL YOU BUT IT'S NOT FUN IF YOU ARE QUIET. Q_Q

I haven't been paired with an MM for today yet, however, I'm hoping they are more active than the last two MM's were. Yesterday's started out somewhat okay. They were at least participating so I sent some nice items over. They sporadically sent some items over and then was silent for 9+ hours after the first 2 hours. I just quit sending items. If they are not going to participate I'm not here just to give out free stuff. I don't care how expensive or inexpensive the items they send might be, I just want someone to be active.

Edit So I've been paired up, sent a welcoming gift over and nothing. 20 minutes later, still nothing. Looks like I'll have to wait for today to be over before I can try again. This seriously gets old. I wish that if after 2 hours of no interaction with your partner, there was an option to get a different MM.

Hmm, I've been keeping track of this thread for the past days now and I gotta ask you all, what is an "active" MM partner in your opinion? I've got the impression that quite some people expect their MM to be online and sending gifts more or less the whole day? I'm asking because I think the overall idea of MM is nice (if fewer people were just signing up to be given expensive stuff without giving anything in return), but the thought of having someone as MM who wants me to exchange gifts all the time would really stress me out. I mean, I cannot be online all the time, and even if I am, I might have other stuff to do as well... that's what has kept me from signing up again... Just curious about your opinions if anyone wants to answer :)

I always get sort of mad if I read things like "if my MM is not active for 2 hours I wish I could be paired with someone else"

there are people out there who have a job (that does not include sitting beside a computer) and 9hours + sounds as though "full time job" ( 8 hours) and the drive. So those people should not sign up.

What about people who have to go to hospital and get long treatments ? Can I sign up - or does that also steal your happiness?

I sign up (at least an hour before I have to leave) I gift and try to communicate "I'll be back later" then leave and once I am back I start gifting again..

There might be more then 6 hours in between PLUS I am living in Europe so I am (what) 6-8 hours ahead....

So it's already evening for me...

I hope my MMs were happy with me... But maybe I should just not sign up - if this annoys people so much....

Sorry I still have a RL sighs and as long as there is no option to a) put things in my inventory and do something like send a gift to my MM every 30 minutes/1 hours b) put in an amount of SbPoints and do the same gift my MM every hour for 500k until money used up I can not be online 24/7 and keep on gifting.

and yeah I know I sound mean - but it really annoys me to read something like that...

btw - yes I gift and I think my gifts are good

My thoughts exactly, I didn't know how to put it into words. I guess I'd sign up again if I knew that I wasn't disappointing people by not being able to send gifts the whole day.

I do not expect that.

I am signing up, because I want to gift - not really to receive which means I tend to send stuff during the day even if I do not get a respsonse. I gift a little more if I get a response - and I always hopr peopel do not think they have to match.

But it's sort of a nice thing to come back and see my MM has repsonded So then I can start over again

That's why I won't do MM again. The other is, what exactly is "junk items"? What (g)you see as junk I don't. So I'm sending items I like and then see someone post "User is just sending me junk in hopes I'll send expensive items." Um, no. That right there kills any fun I was having. (I had a few years ago where my partner not only didn't like what I sent, accuse me of dumping junk on them and donated everything I sent. I was sending plushies I liked so, yeah, some were cheap but I liked them. I was working on getting some more expensive plushies to send later that evening.)

I don't expect someone to send me gifts all day long. I get RL things happen, that is why I still send some good gifts and wait. However, the past three days to get no response or very little response in a 10+ hour time frame gets frustrating. I've always enjoyed being able to have a gift bombing fest with someone off and on throughout the day. To get no response though after someone finally gets paired with you is frustrating because you know they were there to push the button to sign up and then poof gone for 4, 8 10+ hours right after signing up. So that is what I meant by wishing we could get paired with someone else. Not if after getting a partner there is some gifting going on for 20-30 minutes and then they have to go for awhile. Only when immediately after getting paired up, absolutely nothing happens all day. I enjoy gifting as much as the next person, but it makes it more fun when others actually participate. Like I mentioned I don't even care what the items are as long as they try to participate.

People are acting like people need to be sent super expensive gifts (maybe some do, but I’ll speak for me) or need people to be online to entertain us all day long. I’m not online all day, so that’d be an insane expectation. People are acting like wanting your MM to actually participate is asking too much. If you can’t throw a gift every few hours or so, or send a few gifts and let people know you’re done, maybe it’s best not to sign up. I don’t mind cheap gifts, because that’s not the point, but I do mind someone who sends one gift and then nothing for 24 hours... or they send nothing, at all. You were there to sign up, so what happened? I’d rather be paired with someone who sends a few food market items through the day than someone who can’t bother to participate. Gift bombing is great, but I’d rather just gift bomb friends or random people than people who, specifically, sign up for MM and don’t participate. MM, I thought, was supposed to be a fun little gift exchange with random people, but that doesn’t seem to be the case all the time and trying to shame people for wanting reciprocation is weird. If you don’t care about that, that’s fine, but don’t try to shame others because they want participation.

Agreed, It really irks me when people expect somene to be on all day.like if I sign up at 2, I'll gift for a while, but after 3 or 4 hours of sitting, I kind of wanna stretch plus I have a job, I have chores.I can't be on all day.As long as the person sends me a few items back and not just receive and not send then I'm ok.

I'm also tired of people expecting expensive items.I "theme" my items and some may or may not be expensive, but I certainly can't afford to be sending 20+ mill items.

That's so rude of someone to do that.Some times the least expensive items are the prettiest or cutest items.I received some neat items last night that I didn't know existed, they went into my gallery cause they were cute.XD

Though sometimes the constant gift bombing gets a bit stressful cause I can't keep up or the items I wanna send get mixed in with their items that they sent.I accidentally sent an item back once.

That's what I think MM should be all about - gifting each other as a nice gesture to celebrate this time of the year. But there will always be people who sign up just to receive, and others who will be disappointed because they get little to no response when they are sending gifts. There seem to be quite some negative responses to MM in general, as far as I got it from this thread.

I can only speak for myself here - I think as far as gifts go I'd be happy with just about anything no matter its worth, as long as it's not clearly an item you just got from the random game or some floating event item everyone has loads and loads of. In principle, just something that you put at least the tiniest amount of thought into to make for a nice little present. But then again, you never know if your MM sees this the same way. I'm sorry you had this bad experience :-/

I totally understand that it's frustrating not to get a response, or to get one item and nothing else, especially after people just signed up. As long as MM is anonymous though, there will always be people who sign up just to snag nice items without reciprocation, sadly. So I'm absolutely not shaming people for wanting a participating MM, that's the point of it after all. I was just wondering as someone who has maybe an hour for Subeta in the morning and then again 10 hours later in the evening, and additionally not living in the Subeta timezone, whether I for example would come off as not participating enough. It's just the impression I got.

I haven't done it yet I am thinking about it but I am apart of a few things and its hard to focus. :D I love giving to people though its so fun!! so I might go search for some things to participate :D I love gifting more than receiving it just makes me feel bubbly. :D

I understand. :) There have been times when I know I'm going to be super busy, I wind up waiting to sign up. There have been times I haven't joined MM until 8 p.m. my time (9 p.m. Subeta time) because I know I'll have time then. Other times if I join mid morning/early afternoon and things start cropping up and I realize I don't have the time right at that moment, I send a gift with either of these messages: I'll be right back, I have to go now sorry, I'll be back soon, or I'm busy at the moment. That way my MM knows that something has come up, but I'll be back. If I get any messages like that from my MM, then I'm cool with it. At least I know they want to participate, something came up, they got busy, but they'll be back. At least they are communicating their intentions.

However, when an MM signs up after me, I send a starter gift, and I have no response after 20-25+ minutes/hours, I have to wonder if they signed up and then left. The MM's I've had the last 3 days haven't even sent a message saying whether they will be back, if they are busy etc. They sent about 5 items, then disappeared with no hint as to if they went to bed, got busy, are coming back etc. and was gone the rest of the day with no communication, no further participation.

So if you signed up in the morning when you had the time, and then when you had to leave sent a little gift with the message attached saying, "I have to go now, sorry", then another small gift (doesn't have to be expensive, could be an item indicating school, or work, etc.) with another message saying you'll be back, then I think that at least communicates that you aren't just ditching your MM. If my MM's had done that the past few days, I'd have been happy with the communication, look forward to when they come back, gift on and off through the day, and then go do something else. I hope that makes sense. ;)

The only times I'm disappointed with my MM is when I get absolutely NO response at all or one item they got from a random game and then nothing ever again. I don't care about expensive items, I actually think it's more fun when they send cute cheap themed items like a set of candies, or a "breakfast set" with just cheap restockable items or a bunch of themed plushies or anything like that (these are just examples, I didn't get any of those from my MM, don't blast me mods xD ), items that anyone at all can afford but they make the other person happy when they get them . In the past years when I got a MM like that I did the same back and forth and then I gift bombed them with super expensive items 5 minutes before reset so they wouldn't feel the pressure to reciprocate, just to thank them for the fun. People don't get mad at MMs because they aren't online 24/7 or don't send expensive gifts, they get mad when someone sign up and then never even says Hello.

Yes, that makes sense ;-) Probably I will give it another shot then. I wish you better luck with your next MMs!

I'm glad, I'm a bit tired haha. I wish you the best then, and hope you'll get some really good MM's that are understanding etc. Thank you, I appreciate it!

exactly! I love everything you said. I don't get mad at my MM, more of I'm mainly disappointed when they are not active at all. Just sign up then poof they disappear the rest of the day clear up till MM resets.

On a bright note, after 7 days of ghost MMs I finally got a very nice one today, I'm super happy!

Another dead beat.ready to give up on this.

I understand and it’s okay; I was just a bit frustrated. It is hard to sync up, with time zones and things. I just don’t want people to think I’m being upset because they’re not sending gifts constantly or expensive ones. That, to me, doesn’t matter. I’d just like reciprocation and it’s sad when it’s not returned. First MM I got, I was excited because they sent something and I sent an item and nothing. It made me wonder if my gift was bad or they thought it was too cheap. Which would be weird because they sent a restockable. Just send me anything, lol. I’m also hoping it wasn’t because they thought they had to send something as expensive. However, when I get no response all day, after sending something, my mind assumes it was because it wasn’t expensive enough. :/