I would consult Laurie on how she wants it dealt with

, just the birthday list is fine to update... thanks for considering it. I believe some have even had a list on their profile.

I just thought of it, because I feel bad for members that get left out unintentionally or have left and dont want to be bothered.

Aw - no pressure ❤ I thought you were just doing the Bday thing. I don't really do bdays and you do seem to enjoy it, so I was just trying to give ideas to help you maintain a list of some sort. You are just one of the sweetest! Didn't mean to make you feel any pressure - Subeta time should be bonding time :) and fun time :D

Thanks for the clarification

Oh you had an excellent idea of looking at the members area. I didnt even think to look. Sorry I misunderstood your meaning and others here.

just glad it was somewhat helpful :)

Any source to make the list as accurate as possible. I would hate to leave a bear out, that wants to participate.

Here is a thought Bears, Since we havent been able to get a memorial type option on our friends list on our profiles. I just happen to think why not make a memorial in our edit shop area that you can see in view shop area. Then anyone viewing your shop can see the memorial to friends you have lost. I did it.

So as you can see by my name it is my birthday. and i should be super happy because i usually am. this is the first year that i have not had my brother and my grandpa. my grandpa passed it will be a year on the 5th july. my brother just passed january. i should be happy, but it really feels like i dont wanna be happy... so i am gonna have to suck it up and deal with it. BUT i know you all let me vent and this is a safe place to say it out loud.

have a good birthday despite everything.. you are here and with us. huggles

I understand totally.... wishing you a nice Birthday with happy memories ❤

Thanks yall

its tough when birthdays start to be a reminder of those who we've lost instead of a celebration of living.

Its okay to be sad. Hopefully, you'll be able to set aside the sadness and enjoy your day anyway, but you shouldn't add pressure to yourself to try to make that happen.

Let the rest of us celebrate the fact that you're here and we're happy for that! Happy Birthday!

~ Smile!!! and I hope you have a wonderful birthday even if you feel down, celebrate you!! hugs

The first year of doing things differently is the hardest .... We never get over our losses but we learn to live with them. I am sure it has been said to you before "they live in your heart" and I know that is true because you can speak about the loved ones who have passed on. We are here to support you and listen to you ... so vent away! Sorry you have had to go through the sadness of loosing loved ones ....most of us can relate .... Love you!

Have a excellent Birthday. If you need us too talk too we are here for you

It is difficult to celebrate a birthday when it happens at a time of loss but I hope that the memories of past times celebrated with your loved ones can help bring you happiness on your special day. Best wishes for a pleasant birthday.

Wishing you a happy Birthday and sorry for the people you have lost.

Thank you all!

(((((((GROUP HUG))))))) Lair Bears! For all that we have loved and lost and for the simple joy of knowing that we are there for each other. I always remember that my loved ones that have gone before me are in a better place and it is never goodbye but an I'll see you on the other side. It is important to live our lives to the fullest in honor of those that have gone before us.

Happy Birthday . The sense of loss never really goes away but it does get more manageable. Take care of yourself and live your life in a way that makes them look down on you and smile.

Well said! ❤