We're up to try all kinds of things! Dearlings are all about support, kindness, self-improvement, generosity, and lifting one another up. We do things like Questing Challenges, Anon Gifting Goals, Complimenting each other, Discussing facets of kindness and self-improvement, Supporting one another or other users on site(including pings to the group when someone needs a lot of support), Some of us are making Newbie Trade packs, and your Donation Center Idea sounds fantastic!

I suggest if anything, Join us and see for yourself! If it's not your style, you can always leave later, we won't hold it against you, that's not the Dearling Way. :)

thanks I just joined! :) Can you tell me more about questing challenges, anon gifting goal and newbie trade packs in detail please? When you mean newbie packs do you mean for the group? could it also be for new people to subeta? just thoughts~

The Current Questing Challenge is a challenge presented to Dearlings in order to promote positive habits through goal setting and to create an opportunity for a sense of accomplishment. The current one is to do Shinwa + 3 Questers quests to completion for 7 days. Dearlings are free to modify the quest to meet their needs, and can even take on more if they feel it's too easy. We each post each day how well we did on the challenge and when another user struggles, offer encouragement and help if we can.

Anon Gifting is pretty simple, many of our users delight in sending out little gifts for fun and to be kind to users around Subeta. Sometimes we have little challenges for it, such as the Dice Roll challenge, where you roll a die and set out to gift that many people during the day.

Newbie Trade packs are some things each of us like to do from time to time, where we gather good items for New Players, set up a trade, and allow them to offer a random junk item in return for useful items. Each Dearling can set these up however they want.

Nothing we do really is limited to just the group but of course to be in the challenges you have to be in the group to see the posts about them. Dearlings is about encouraging kindness in the Entire community of Subeta, not just within ourselves, although we do talk about and formulate ideas within the group on ways to show positivity and be generous, and we do often communicate with one another and help each other through rough days. We also like to talk about self-care and encourage one another to be kind to themselves as well as to others. Like telling a fellow Dearling not to put themselves down and reminding them their great qualities, or encouraging them to make positive and healthy choices for themselves.

I am currently a bit stressed in RL and might not be on all that much

Hello! This seems like an adorable idea for a group and I'm definitely interested in joining! I've been on and off Subeta for 12 years now and I never really made any friends. I've decided that I need to actually step out of my comfort zone and meet new people! I love spreading kindness and love surrounding myself with sweet and genuine people, who encourage me to be the best that I can be. I've been inactive for a while, but found myself coming back to a lot of changes. I understand that the forum groups have replaced the cults. Is there an application for the group, or do you just go ahead and join? Thanks! <3

welcome! hugs before turning in a Zombie

hugs back How are you today? ^^

This sounds like a wonderful group! I love random acts of kindness and I also love spoiling people with gifts (it's one reason Luminaire is my second favorite Subeta holiday -- sorry, nothing can top Morostide for me XD) Questing challenge sounds like fun too! I sometimes need a little motivation to get my quests done. Yeah, I'm interested! :3

I can really relate to you as I've been on Subeta for almost 12 years but have only made a few friends. That's my fault for being so shy buuut it's good to step out of your comfort zone, yesno? Plus I've been telling myself I need to be more active in the forums. XD

Hey you should join with me. You need more Subeta friends. :D

I completely agree! I'm never active on forums, unless it's for an event, so I'm constantly posting in those 'Kiss the user above you!' topics or whatever lol. I just need to be more socially active on Subeta in general, lol

Oh my goodness, and Sorry for the slow reply~ Ive been swamped at work with overtime and training new hires, yay me! xD

Welcome to Dearlings, We're a great place to branch out and make friends. I will admit that sometimes I feel a little Ping heavy but it comes in waves, much like my social life XD If you havent actually joined up yet, the link is in my signature(Click the Text "Dearling" ) :D

No need to apologize, it's completely understandable! Training new people can be so exhausting, I'm so thankful I haven't had to do any in a while :P

Thank you for such the sweet welcome! I went ahead and joined a while ago because I'm impatient lol. I haven't been super active lately, but I look forward to being apart of the group! <3

Yeah that sounds familiar. XD I do occasionally join in conversations that spark my interest but most of my forum posts are "claims" for events.

No worries and no apology needed, life gets busy. Thanks for the welcome, I sent a request to join! :D

I've never been in a group on Subeta before but it sounds like fun!

thanks for tagging me!

I just sent a request to join the group. :D

I'd love to be a part of this cult because it sounds perfect to me. I love to randomly gift people, even if I have never actually exchanged words with them xD Although I have been a long time member here in Subeta, I find it somewhat difficult to make friends... I am quite shy I guess ;w; Maybe this club will help me to make new friends! ^-^

I feel like this group is especially fitting for me because I've experienced rough times in the past... I suffered from a strong period of depression for about 1 1/2 years.. I got over that phase, but well, depression is imo not completely curable. I used to describe it as a cloud that always follows you around, that cloud can turn transparent or on other days it can change itself into a heavy thunder... but it never completely disappears. Although this sounds very depressing by itself, I am currently experiencing some of the happiest days of my life, which is one of the reasons why I'd love to spread my happiness with others. I feel very blessed to be surrounded by so many loving people :)

With that said, hello everyone ^_^

How does this work. I just applied for another group when I saw this topic. I LOVE random kindness and giving and spreading love! Your group sounds perfect for me. Is it okay to be in two groups...? I am on every day.

I am 37, from The Netherlands. I am mom to two dogs and a bunny (my subeta pets are based on them, my loves), and I love going on long walks in nature with them (the dogs, that is, the bunny not so much lol). I have a personality disorder that prevents me from having a job, so I am here every day, I do volunteer once a week (once my broken foot is healed) but I have a lot of free time. I usually just hang out on fb but an old sweet friend of me pointed me to subeta and boy I am glad she did. I'm hooked. <3

Anyways... lol. How do I apply? I have so many questions :o

EDIT I have been very depressed years ago and although I am doing pretty well these days, you are right, it never really disappears. hugs to you. Glad to hear you're having a good day :)

aaa, i've been wanting to post here with a real, actual introduction - to get to meet and know all you generous and wonderful people - but i've been so busy that i haven't really got around to it. sighs. but after seeing a few of my friends in this group (which is fitting, because they are very wonderful and kind ❤️), i decided i was going to go ahead and send in a request to join, and at least try to make a small post here about myself.

i may not be the most active right now, but it would mean a lot to be able to join this group. ;v; whenever i am able to log onto the site and actually accomplish something, i do my best to do at least one nice thing a day for another user. making people happy is one of my favorite things - nothing feels quite as good as getting a 'this comment made me smile' or 'this was so nice to hear'. i never want anyone to feel alone, scared, or hopeless. i do my best to reach out to anyone and everyone i can, especially if i know they're having a hard time or looking for someone to talk to. i've been through some terrible things, but i've always had friends to pull me back up on my feet. i want to be that friend for others. i want them to know someone is listening, someone cares.

i plan to train service dogs in the future, so my life and future career has always and will always be about helping others. i would be happy to discuss this with anyone else who might be curious about it - not going to post a whole essay here. needless to say, i'm hoping to help people who help isn't so readily available for. no one should ever have to suffer alone.

(or anyone else who can answer) - How active would I have to be to be part of this group? I've been eyeing this group for a while, but have been kind of nonsocial recently. >.<

As active as you feel up to being! I don't force anyone to be active per say because I myself have moments where life is too busy(like now!) or I'm not feeling social. As long as you feel like spreading positivity, kindness, and joy on the site, you would make a perfect Dearling. That's all that is required, a good heart. ♥

- That's a relief! This sounds like a sweet group, and I definitely want to join~

I try to help out others who are feeling down or who have questions. I also randomly gift sometimes and been thinking of doing some sort of newbie pack. My activity does vary a lot due to health and mental conditions, but I love spreading kindness when I can. ^^

This group looks so sweet ;u; I sent a request to join!

Random strangers have been so good to me over the past few years; I love when I can pay it forward.