hiiii everyone, I'm feeling v fall w my HA

happy belated bday ^_^

oh nooo why not?? lmk if I can send any moro items or something your way when it's time <3

I went shopping today and all the fall/Halloween stuff are out. Makes me feel very festive, somehow. (Like maybe this crazy year is about to end, finally, or something :P)

I can atleast enjoy it on the site, but actual Halloween, yeah, it's basically a no-go because of my grandmother. She decided she was going to fall and break her arm. I've been having to take care of her 24/6 in this deathtrap she calls a house. Once she is able to be up on her walker again, she's going to the damn assisted living place she was suppose to be in at the start of this year (And no, the virus wasn't what stopped her, it was her own stubborness and THEN the virus).

But because I'm having to take care of her, I'm pretty much unable to do my usual costume set up or large elaborate pumpkin carvings I usually like to do. I had planned on something like a Tiki head to build off the flaming pumpkin I made last year, though with the whole virus I might have done something plague related too.

Granted the whole trick-or-treat stuff will likely be very muted to not practiced at all this year, but still, I love to carve pumpkins, this is one of the few times of the year I can do that. Can't do it with me having to do full around the clock care of her. (If you sense bitterness in my words, lets just say I have a very complicated relationship with my Granny, this has just further aggravated it.)

I feel that!! I don't really decorate but I do like seeing everything on display even in the grocery store lmao and get a mini pumpkin which makes me feel festive hehe

ahhh I'm so sorry to hear that, that's really hard to care for someone round the clock like that--that's a whole job AND some, especially if y'all have a complicated relationship. I hope she heals quickly so you can get back to your own life and doing things you enjoy irl! at least we can all be festive on here together <3

Thank you, it is hard, even with someone who's not verbally and physically abusive to you like she is with me. Even before her mind started to go, she was....a hard person to deal with, because she is borderline narcissistic and obsessively independent to a stupid degree. She loves me in her own way, but...it's very conditional. Lots of gifts and does things for me with strings attached and what not. Now I just have to wonder at one moment am I going to be dealing with a crazy giggling nut who can't stop laughing to the point she can't make her legs work, or am I going to have a screaming, raging monster ready to slap and hit at me while throwing out every nasty comment and weak point she can attack.

In any case once she's back to where she can stay on the walkers on her own, she's going into assisted living, she's not allowed to push her weight around anymore. Next week my Dad has to take care of her the majority of the week because I have doctor appointments all in a row I can't miss, so we'll see how much he can stand of her (she's his mother).

That sounds very difficult and I'm sorry to hear it's happening to you! :'( I hope this works out soon and you won't be in this situation for much longer.

My family tend to lean heavily on assisted living. I'm an immigrant kid, so it's kind of impossible for me to take care of family on both sides of the Pacific anyway. I think my parents do not expect to rely on me 20 years down the road, despite Chinese culture's typical traditional values in younger generations taking care of the elder.

Thank you, I hope it gets better soon too. I honestly don't know what would have happened had I actually had a full time job. And I think all people should look into assisted living in comparison to expecting family members to care for them, because unfortunately, not everyone is equipped to handle it. I definitely am not, but I'm stuck with the job because I'm unemployed (because yay autism, a society that really doesn't know how to hire or retain autistic people, a Fed gov that thinks I'm not disabled enough to cover with Social Security, and a State gov that thinks I'm too disabled to be technically caring for my Granny to receive state benefits.)

You have no idea how many disabled people get foisted off on their able siblings/family members and resentment grows from it, I'm terrified of that happening to me when my own parents die. Assisted living and nursing homes are better than they use to be, you just have to keep up with your loved one to make sure they're being taken care of, not just chunk 'em and walk off like you left them at the pound. And the people at those places tend to be registered nurses and caretakers, they KNOW how to take care of people in old age/disabilities/ect.

I'm glad your parents are thinking about their own future instead of expecting the age old traditions, it's better that way. You never know what the future is gonna be like, so having a couple of contingency plans in place is the way to go.

My goodness....my birthday is Wednesday...I'll be 34...I'm OLD!! It feels so weird...even more so because the other day, mum says to me "When I was 33, you were seven". Lol...gee thanks mum (She meant nothing by the comment)

And then yesterday, my friend's little (er...not so little anymore...young is a better word) girl said, "You're not as old as mum though!"

haha....my friend is 37....

But thinking about birthdays...I miss the days where I actually got excited about birthdays....I wish I could be a kid again, and just be care free....

Happy early birthday!

It certainly feels like time is flying by with each birthday at our age... But my mom keeps reminding me that there's still so much of life left; she's constantly on vacations, hanging out with friends, and sharing her adventures with me. She seems like she's still having a lot of fun - if anything, more fun now that she's just retired but still have enough energy for everything. So I think of that and I'm a bit more excited. :)

I hope we get the same experience once we reach that point in life ! :D

Sounds like your mum knows how to live! (And thank you!)

I hope so too...but with the way the Earth is going, we could be like the people in Wall-E by the time we're really 'old' ;)

Happy early birthday i hope you have a great one.

Thank you!

Happy birthday

Happy birthday !

Thanks everyone!

Happy birthday, ! Figured I might as well say it here as well as on our private forum. :P

Double the birthday wishes! :D Thank you

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