See, I don't let my husband hang out with -just- his female friends because he's cheated on me with one of them before we were married. Until he broke that trust I had no issue with him hanging out with them. Since then he's made the decision to push them back to the most basic levels of friendship, not because I asked him to but because he realized that for him they are a temptation.

If she tells him she's alright with him hanging out with you and he still decides not to, there really isn't any solid basis for you to be mad.

That's completely understandable.

I know what you mean . I had a situation a while ago where two friends went out with eachother and they both didn't want me seeing the other. But yeah, it's not like he has to listen to her or anything, he can hang out with who he wants.

Take my parents. In the neighborhood, they have the best relationship. My mom lets my dad so what he wants and vice versa. He goes to strip clubs and stuff but my mom trusts him so she doesn't mind.

I'm also very protective of my friend. VERY. BUt I trust her. She can hang out with whoever she wants but if someone's making her uncomfortable, I'll be there to get her out of what situation

Ohh, yeah. I've had GFs of my male friends text me, message me on myspace threatening that if I continue to talk to their BFs they'll do such & such things to me. I always laugh. In once instance, one GF texted me on my friend's phone saying, "Hi, this is Frank's GF. I just wanted to let you know that Frank NEVER wants to talk to you ever again!" The next hour I IMed him about it, Hey, so, uhh, you never want to talk to me again?" Needless to say, he was very pissed at his VERY immature girlfriend. XDD

Edit: I just realized that there was a huge debate goin' on above my post. I'm of the belief that you shouldn't let go of all your friendships for a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's fucking ridiculous -- you're burning bridges for the sake of one person who may or may not stand by your side for the rest of your life. I've had male friends who voluntarily dropped my like a sack of potatoes when they got a new girlfriend then immediately regretted it when the two of them broke up. :

i think my whole point was that cheating doesn't necessarily hinge solely on the fact that other girls are around. there are MANY variables about cheating that can be attributed to the relationship, the person, the circumstances, etc. to deny your SO the ability to make/keep friends automatically puts the relationship at a slant -- as if the potential for cheating is too great to be controlled by love/trust alone. i find that odd and skewed.

i can't think of a single common workplace that caters solely to one gender so much that it is very unlikely that the opposite gender even exists. i cannot possibly imagine my SO at a job in which he cannot make female friends out of fear of cheating. it is so asinine to think that this is healthy. where in the world will your SO work, hotleray??

the seeds of jealousy are already in the relationship... and those seeds are often watered by paranoia and bad self-esteem. disallowing female friendships out of fear of cheating is the same as disallowing him to drive a car out of fear of an accident. it might happen.... but chances are, as long as he is in the right place, it won't.

first of all, i've overlooked your consistent need to put my statements down because i haven't yet supplied you with any relationship credentials. i'll overlook that immaturity. if i had said that i am in a 10-year relationship with my husband (who has never cheated) -- would that make a difference? what if it were 20 years? 40?

i can type out ANYTHING i want to support my statements, the same as you. my experiences are not the same as everyone else's.... but that doesn't mean that i don't have sound judgment about human relationships. in a previous post you said:

i cannot understand how the same person who said this about moms... cannot see that this also applies to husbands. it's just weird for someone in a relationship to dictate to the other which gender they should spend time with.

Well what happens if you are with a guy who's best friends with his ex and hangs out with her all the time? You get worried. Maybe you won't react the same way but you will get worried. People are afraid to get cheated on. It's betrayal. So give her a break.

And don't worry about her. Yelling/angry posts like that just put you down to a lower level than you are at. Do the mature thing and directly address him about it, not being rude about her.

TO THE OP ------

It sounds like you were kinda a bitch to the chick, but in a way I can see your point. I'd be kind of upset if she tried to keep him from me, I've had the same situation happen so I do see where you're coming from. Give it a shot though. Everyone deserves a second chance and who knows, maybe you three can be close? Even if it doesn't work, just make sure you never make him choose you or her, that's the WORST thing to do, EVER. >.> I speak from experience XD Good luck anyways (: Hope everything works out.