so a rape victim tells you her perpatrator got her pregnant and you say congratulations!!!! but i'm the jerk!!!!

jeez pregnant people nowadays entitled to great parking spots at walmart AND to congratulations

just a joke btw kind of the expectant parking spaces are a-ok

Holy shit.

Even if you're fucking with me that's just a dumb thing to say

Just

Holy shit.

That's a completely different situation then the one discussed in OP's post. Obviously that is not something you congratulate anyone for. That's only common sense.

If a family member or friend tells you their pregnant and they are happy about their pregnancy, there's no reason why you couldn't say congratulations instead of shitting on their happiness.

I am so dumbfounded I just can't even believe that was something that was typed. Because like... saying you should say congratulations means you say that to someone who's happy I mean that's just implied. I mean... to people who have a functioning brain cell... Just

Wow.

weren't you leaving or something

i'm aware of that, as i am not the one who said whenever anyone is pregnant, you always say congratulations.

saying nothing is just saying nothing, if they wanna take it as shitting on their happiness thats their problem. i just dont care!!

omg you were actually serious

no but you are and thats the fun part

You make zero sense. It's completely implied to normal people that I meant you say "congratulations" to someone who's actually happy. No person with a functioning brain would think I meant to say that to rape victims or anyone that's unhappy about their pregnancy. You're so bitter about pregnant people it's messed up.

Wow.

youre so bitter about my opinion, its quite comical.

idg how being indifferent to pregnant people equates to being bitter??? or maybe bitter is just your word of the day or something because you are seriously like slinging it around

How else are they suppose to take it when someone does that? It's not like someone would take that in a positive way, it just makes the person who says nothing look like an ass. But whatever floats your boat. If you don't care, you don't care so it's really a non-issue for you.

I've already said so many times in this thread I'm getting tired of repeating it. This is the last time I'm going to say this:

1. Certain other users were not "indifferent", they made rude comments about people who decide to have children
2. Certain other users cared about "making a point" (???) over being polite
3. It doesn't matter what you care about, you should just be polite in the situation

If certain other users had just said, "I don't feel excited or happy for them", that's fine. They didn't. Instead, they went on about making a "point" instead of just doing what's socially normal. There's also a reason certain things like saying congrats are socially normal: because they're polite and people should just be polite even if they don't agree with something.

You're missing these points and you probably still won't get it after this and will just continue being rebellious with the whole "would rather not be fake" thing. I guess you just can't see that being polite is more important than making a point.

Being silent when someone tells you they're pregnant (and happy to be so because apparently I need to clearly state that) is just rude.

Again, the other user mentioned "making a point"... why on earth would someone want or feel the need to "make a point" when someone tells them they're pregnant (and happy to be so)? Also, why are you continuing to ignore that that was what was said?

Well this escalated quickly....0_o

It's hard to be around a newly preggers person when your feelings on the subject are not "socially acceptable". I was forced in a baby shower two weeks after a miscarriage. I sat in the corner, didn't speak, and barely looked at anyone. I wouldn't even be thanked for the gift I had to pick out and pay for. Was I heartless at the time? oh yes. Did I have every right to be? OH fuck yes.

Babies aren't a big deal for everyone. Oh well.

What the hell at some of the people on this thread. I can't.

Anyway, It's your cousin's pregnancy, not yours. Therefor your personal opinions on pregnancy are, in this situation, entirely irrelevant. You don't have to give a shit, but try not to be a dick about it because your cousin is probably happy and excited and wanting to share her happiness. If you care about her, you'll probably want to avoid making her feel bad, so just acknowledge her with some form of congratulations and try to politely change the subject. No one wants to share news of something that's exciting to them just to hear a family member say "shut up I don't give a fuck". Let her have her moment.

A ridiculous thread led to an even more pathetic argument - if you can even call it that. Being an ass must be the newest bandwagon that I forgot to jump into. I don't even know what else to say.

....why the hell is there an argument going on. Sometimes people hide their feelings for the benefit of others. This is called kindness.

If you really believe that you shouldn't restrain yourself sometimes for the sake of others, you are placing way too high a value on your opinions.

lllllllol

OP, just don't bother saying anything. I doubt she's going to come up to you one on one and say "Guess what, I'm pregnant!", so there'll probably be little opportunity to even congratulate her.

Sometimes I'm unconformable faking sincerity, so I can see where you're coming from. I still find people saying bless you when someone sneezes extremely cringe worthy, so I don't. I've never been called anything bad for it, even if they think it's rude.

But just how the hell are you going to cope when she has the baby and starts handing it around like a new toy... ¦}

Reading this was the perfect wind-down from a stressful day of Christmas errands and I do not regret it at all.

It sounds like the OP doesn't really care for her "not blood related" cousin anyway (is that the real issue at hand here, the attention she'll be getting from the other family members?), so it's pretty natural that she wouldn't be interested in this person's major life event. Please correct me if I'm way off-base.

My advice would be to enjoy the food at the family dinner and be polite (not even nice since you can't fake it) for one evening.