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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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I honestly do not see why such a thing would be necessary. This is not a dating site. Why should "which pronouns you prefer" be an issue? Sorry, but no support for this particular notion.

Don't know if no nuance November is going on still but to add a little insight- you use pronouns for people when referring to them (see, right there) in the third person. Knowing how to refer to someone in the third person respectfully and properly has literally nothing to do with dating or romance in the slightest. Knowing that I use he/him or they/them does not mean you want to or are interested in dating me, it means you know how to refer to me in the third person and you don't run the chance of misgendering me.

That being said, I love the idea. Hell yeah! Support.

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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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Quote by youngexplorer
I honestly do not see why such a thing would be necessary. This is not a dating site. Why should "which pronouns you prefer" be an issue? Sorry, but no support for this particular notion.

Except pronouns are used in every day life to refer to people? It's not something that only applies to dating; that would be sexuality. Also, misgendering is a thing.

Anyways, support. I'm pretty lenient on pronoun for the most part, but, well, I'm liking female pronouns less and I'd like to avoid them overall haha.

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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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I honestly do not see why such a thing would be necessary. This is not a dating site. Why should "which pronouns you prefer" be an issue? Sorry, but no support for this particular notion.

You know what? I actually totally agree--the only time I use pronouns for anyone is when I'm interested in dating that person. It's generally my most successful seduction technique. There's nothing more romantic than calling someone "he" or "she" or "they" or whatever. (For people I don't want to date, I just kinda vaguely gesture in their direction.)

;) I kid, of course.

But in 100% seriousness--it's just another way to make it easier to refer to people respectfully. There are people for whom misgendering is upsetting--trans and cis!--and having optional pronouns can prevent that from happening accidentally.

Like I said in the OP, it's just one way to make the site more inclusive, and to facilitate communication between users. Since the community guidelines we all agreed to in order to post here mention following the golden rule of respect and not being "that" guy, having pronouns available makes it easier to actually stick to those guidelines.

Plus, it's optional for people who are really against it for one reason or another. There's any number of reasons why people might not want their pronouns displayed, and I wouldn't want anyone to be forced to fill it out.

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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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Sir, that's kinda reductive to go and say that pronouns are only used for dating. You use pronouns daily when referring to your family and friends, and yet, you're not gonna date your mother, are you?

Is that something that's possible to program in the hover? Would be convenient for NB/trans users, at least

Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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I support this suggestion as long as it's optional so people have a choice.

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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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Luka

Yes please, as long as it is optional! I'm a long-time user (13 years) but only came out as transmasculine within the last couple of years, so I'd like a way for my current pronouns to be a bit more obvious. Also, since when have pronouns only mattered in the dating scene? I refer to people by their preferred pronouns every day and I can assure you there's nothing romantic about it LMAO


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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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I can’t imagine how someone could be against this idea when it’s simply giving people the option to tell people how they’d like to be addressed... seems like a simple issue of people want to be respected for who they are and I just don’t understand how anyone could be against simple human decency.

Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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Full support. :)

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Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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Mavirin

I 100% support this idea! Love it ^-^ I’d love to not make mistakes and call people by their correct pronouns <3

Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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Would also really like this, because being able to refer to people by their correct pronouns without having to ask them or guess would be great a+. As long as it'd allow us to enter our pronouns of choice or just fill in a little textbox, at least; I use multiple sets (she/hers and they/them) and would like to have that option.

(There's absolutely nothing romantic about it either and I have no clue where the heck that came from. Like, yeah, my girlfriend also plays on here, but knowing her proper pronouns has... nnnnothing to do with us being a thing.)

Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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100% support this :)

Nov 23, 2020 5 years ago
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There's no valid (non-technical) reason not to do it.

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Nov 24, 2020 5 years ago
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I honestly do not see why such a thing would be necessary. This is not a dating site. Why should &quot;which pronouns you prefer&quot; be an issue? Sorry, but no support for this particular notion.

You know what? I actually totally agree--the only time I use pronouns for anyone is when I'm interested in dating that person. It's generally my most successful seduction technique. There's nothing more romantic than calling someone "he" or "she" or "they" or whatever. (For people I don't want to date, I just kinda vaguely gesture in their direction.)

;) I kid, of course.

But in 100% seriousness--it's just another way to make it easier to refer to people respectfully. There are people for whom misgendering is upsetting--trans and cis!--and having optional pronouns can prevent that from happening accidentally.

Like I said in the OP, it's just one way to make the site more inclusive, and to facilitate communication between users. Since the community guidelines we all agreed to in order to post here mention following the golden rule of respect and not being "that" guy, having pronouns available makes it easier to actually stick to those guidelines.

Plus, it's optional for people who are really against it for one reason or another. There's any number of reasons why people might not want their pronouns displayed, and I wouldn't want anyone to be forced to fill it out. I agree with the pronoun preferences being optional since it will help us with not misgendering other users it has nothing to do with dating but we are a modern society and non-binary people as well as everyone else should have the option of displaying their preferred pronouns if they want to as it is important.

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Nov 24, 2020 5 years ago
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Nov 24, 2020 5 years ago Official
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Yeah, it's absolutely doable, and I'm totally in favor! There's literally no downsides to having this as an option.

Also, it sort of goes without saying that this would be optional... Forcing people to state their pronouns when they aren't comfortable doing so is not okay, and would go against the whole point of this suggestion.

When this is implemented, I encourage cis users to also use this feature if they're comfortable doing so. I'd love to see this help normalize stating pronouns in general, instead of just becoming a way to tell which users are trans.

(By the way, there is no need to make the distinction "NB/trans" because nonbinary people are trans, so just saying "trans people" already includes them :) )

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Nov 24, 2020 5 years ago
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xD amazing, I'm stealing this hahaha

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Nov 24, 2020 5 years ago
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Nov 24, 2020 5 years ago
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Thank you!! <3 You are sincerely a rockstar!

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Nov 25, 2020 5 years ago
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When this is implemented, I encourage cis users to also use this feature if they&;re comfortable doing so. I&;d love to see this help normalize stating pronouns in general, instead of just becoming a way to tell which users are trans.

Could not have said this better myself!! Anyone who is cis and feels comfortable sharing their pronouns, please do so! <3


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Feb 27, 2021 5 years ago
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I support this. I don't wholly identify as male or female, but I still go by male pronouns and feel more comfortable being seen as male, so something detached from gender / personal identification and more relevant to, say, social identification, would be lovely.

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