Yesterday I told my brother that I was going to make soup. He said he wanted some. I spend an hour and a half preparing and cooking. It was a homestyle vegetable soup. It starts out as broth, then you add the tomatoes, milk and the flour to thicken. My brother said "It's good". I asked him if he can go to the store to get some pre-made chicken and bread. He leaves, then calls me and says "I'm eating dinner out. I don't like the soup". I said "You mean I spent all this time making the soup for nothing?" and he said "Yeah. You did". I was so mad, I hung up.

I was crying because that was such a dick move. I called my mom crying... she said "What do you want me to tell you? He doesn't like it" and then I started yelling at her saying "I've made plenty of things I didn't like and I ate it anyway. I've also eaten things from other people I don't like" (one example... my cousins spaghetti sauce is awful. It tastes like plastic). Then I hung up on her.

Then.... it just got worse. (You don't know the backstory, but my fridge isn't working properly. My food spoils because the temperature is over 40. I've been keeping my food in my brother's fridge. Yeah.. yeah I know. I've already contacted my slumlord a million times about the fridge. Nothing is being solved. You guys will say "Why can't you move?". I've been looking... rent is insanely expensive in my city).

I cleaned up, did dishes, packed up the soup and went back to my apartment. He texts me saying "You Fing trashed my place. Nothing is cleaned. My stove and table are a mess. This is the last Fing time you're cooking here". I text him back saying "Your place was already a pigsty when I got there and the table was already filthy. I didn't spill any soup". He texts me again saying "If you don't get your shit outta my fridge, I'm throwing them out".

I bawled my eyes out until 3am.

I'm working on saving up for a fridge. I just can't produce money for an appliance in a blink of an eye. They're a lot of money.

Mom said I can borrow my deceased brother's bar fridge. My dad said no, as my other brother already claimed it. My brother has an expensive $2,000 fridge. Why he wants the bar fridge is beyond me. He has no where to put it and I can use it for time being.

My family is a piece of shit. I know that.

I did some friendly pings. I'm not looking for a pity party. I just need people to talk to.

I am so sorry to hear that. What the hell is wrong with your brother, there is no excuse for being rude and a jerk.

Idk. My mom says I have a knack of pissing people off. I get pissed off when I make something and then getting told it's "gross".

He doesn't cook... can't be bothered. He much prefers to run to mom because she does all the cooking. And honestly... I can't see himself ever being with someone who likes experimental cooking. If it's not plain jane, he won't eat it.

Sounds like he needs a good swift kick in the ass. :( [edit] I apologize, I just hate seeing people treated so poorly, you don't deserve that.

If it's not his way, it's no way. That's his attitude.

He said he wants a girlfriend. Not at this rate he wont. It's not like he puts himself out there, anyway.

I want to be alone. After how my dad treated us and my mom.. no thanks.

[edit] Thanks, but this is how it is.

I don't blame you for that at all. He needs to grow up and stop treating others so badly. Especially his own sister.

He's not talking to me today. I'm only good enough to put his order through at work.

you know my stand point on your family in general... Completely uncalled for. Just know I love you! Fuck that shit.

i'm sorry your family are assholes with zero empathy towards their own family. especially your brother, he sounds like a super douchebag that can't take care of himself properly like an adult. i don't know your whole situation, but if all they're doing is making you upset, maybe you should consider slowly cutting them out of your life? i know it's really hard, but.. it's an option. i'm glad to hear that you have the mini fridge for now. and if anything, you could avoid meal prep for days ahead and just keep canned stuff/pasta/vegetables for stir fries or stuff like that. anyway, hope you can get a normal fridge soon and that you feel better. honestly, those assholes don't sound like they are worth any of your tears. ♥ P.S. idk if you've ever tried meditation? i used to do it regularly but not so much anymore. i should probably start again tbh, it really helps with stress c: also remembering that >you can't be 100% sure that anything outside your mind is real<, i know i sound like a crazy person but it's kinda calming for me to remind myself if i'm ever in a lot of stress LOL P.P.S. i love vegetable soup, i'm sure i would've enjoyed yours :^)

Ugh, yeah, your brother is a jerk. 😠 At the very least, he could’ve had the decency to tell you before going out that he was gonna eat out. Like, grow some balls and just tell you right there. The fact that he went out and told you over the phone like that is just cowardly, inconsiderate, and rude of him—no class at all.

And we’ve already established that your parents are mostly unsupportive, so...they’re lost causes in that way. -_-;

You have every right to be upset about this. Family should be loving and supportive, not mean, cold, and overly critical like this. I’m sorry that you went through another crappy incident with them. :(

hugs Hang in there! Take care of yourself, and if they say or do anything else like this, just know that it’s uncalled for and you don’t deserve it because you’re worth more than that. <3

I am on medication. And the meat I bought yesterday has SPOILED. Like. Overnight. It's that fast in a warm fridge. I really want to text my slumlord and say "This is the second time all my food has spoiled. That's another $80". He doesn't care. He hasn't even responded to my text and I sent that on Monday. I see he read it.

I sent that text anyway. I don't care. I'll go back to the landlord and tenant board if I have to. It was really hard on me the last time. I'll do it because it sounds like I /need/ to.

[edit] I have an appointment at the legal clinic on Aug 13. It's with the same women who did my intake and form type-up last time. I don't want to go to someone else, because I'd have to explain everything all over again and I just don't want to do that.

I'm still waiting for my court order in the mail, but that can take months (I can still go back for other problems).

Perharps, instead of paying in full for a fridge, you could look at Kijiji and find a decent and not too old second-hand fridge? It's better than shelling out for full price (which is always too much imo) or to rely on your brother that can't be bothered to help you out. You cannot expect your landlord to pay any fees going towards the fridge.

Was the fridge included in your rent? Is it written somewhere? How old is the fridge? Was the fridge working properly before you took possession of your rent?

I don’t know how it works where you are but my parents are landlords are appliances are 100% their responsibility. The fridge/stove/washer/dryer have to be functioning properly at all times for the tenants. Anything there when you move in the landlord is 100% liable for. You don’t rent a place and bring your own fridge. At least not in my city. Appliances are always included.

If it is stated nowhere on official papers that the frige is included, the landlord could pull a shitty move on her (he seems like the type of guy that does it). Some will take all responsability on their utilities, and others will simply say 'our appliance was working before you came. You are responsible if you break it'. Which is why, I have asked a few questions. I've helped out a few people coming to a non-profit where I volunteer over the years. It saddens me to see how soo many landlords can get away with things! Taking things to court is always stressful, and too little people are able to get someone with knoweldge about their case.

I can see that. Most tenants are good. And I know my parents are probably better land lords than most seeing as how whenever they have money for an upgrade on the house the tenants get a choice, so I hope this person can get things sorted out. I wish all landlords were better but I also wish certain tenants could be banned. My parents had a couple tenants from hell that completely destroyed the house and there’s nothing a landlord can do besides keep the damage deposit. It’s just so sad on both ends that the innocent person is always the one that suffers. I wasn’t trying to be rude, I just know her appliances are definitely a part of agreements.

Boy, they sound like the relations that I literally cut out of my life after giving them a swift kick in the ass. I'm sorry, bb, that sounds miserable and I wish I could help.

It's in my lease that the fridge and other appliances have to be in working order. And also, he's playing the "It's my legal right to enter your until" game. No, he doesn't have permission unless U give to him. He's a game player and my mom says she's sick and tired of hearing about it.

I bought my own washer/dryer when I moved in, so those are my responsibility. The fridge and stove were included. That's not my responsibility to repair them.

And he is the type to do a shitty move. He's doing it right now...

I have to go back to the board. It's the only way. I DO NOT trust him in my unit when I'm not here. He's the type that will put holes in walls and say I did it.

[edit] Second hand fridge is a good idea. I'll browse and see what I can find. I at least want to save $500 before I start the search. And.. I won't be spending on CSC. A working fridge is far more important than a game :)

I'm so sorry to see you'r family ''sock''. I hope thing will turn better for you.. It's hard when everyone's agaisn't you when all you wanted was to be nice :( A second hand fridge's probably the best idea, but PLEASE, as I see how you talk about your land lord.. Keep track of when you bought the fridge, picture of when you were buying it yourself so he won't be able to say it's his and not yours. Make sure to not trow away the fridge you have right now and maybe put it outside so he'll be able to pick it up, since that's his. If his that shitty, don't take any chances.

Sorry if my english's not perfect, i'm french <3

Your English is fine ;3

Oh yes.... document everything! First.. I will be saving up funds from this paycheck on. Appliances are expensive, but at the same time.. I feel that he /wants/ me to get a fridge so that he doesn't have to pay for reapirs because he's that cheap. I'm still waiting on the court orders for my water damaged bathroom. I've had a leaking tub since 2011. The floor is starting to cave in.

Document through each day the temps of the fridge too. A few times every day until you either can buy the new fridge or go to board. At my job if something is breaking down we have to show corperate clearly that the appliance was failing and not suddenly declaring its broken to try to get new or updated items faster than other stores. So I imagine if you can demonstrate the same here it'll help the case.

Also wtf about your mom?!?!?! Granted your brother is dickish right now, but TWO of her kids rent from this scuzzy guy. TWO WHO HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIS SHIT ATTITUDES ABOUT FIXING AND CARING FOR THE PROPERTY. Your mom should be better invested in this because I have no doubts when/if you leave your brother is next. He will likely be blamed for the inner wall damages you told us about with your leaky tub. Let alone any other issues his unit may have aside from yours. She should be encouraging the two of you to work together on getting out from there and bringing this guy to the table to account for his lack for repairs.

But yes document document document. Thermometers shouldn't be more than a few bucks, just make sure its meant to read fridge temps and if possible record it on video so he can't say you left it out to take a pic of a warmer temp.