I saw the info about the gender berry but i have'nt seen one for sale and the lab ray is too risky, what's the best way to turn one of my pets female?

There are a lot of them available for sale on the shop search...

Tgank you I must have misspelled it somehow when i was searching for it XD

No problem! Glad I could help. :)

Just additional info, the pet zapper on Subeta does not change gender.

Actually, I'm pretty sure it does. From the old Faq here: Frequently Asked Questions and Answers

And Amber has it set to go into the new Faq:

I put in the bolding so that it would stand out here, If it doesn't change gender, though, Amber should probably be told on the thread Feedback on FAQ!. [edit] is this still a thing? Just saw on the other board that it isn't, and now I'm totally confused. Guess I just should've shot you a ping when I posted this.

You rock, ! Thanks for clarifying! <3

Random double post is random. Sorry about that!