i'm bi and honestly i don't understand why so many people can't wrap their noggins around the idea that some people are attracted to multiple genders like, it's not that confusing y'all

I don't know yet if I identify as bi or not, because I've not had any...eh...'experience', with a guy or a girl, for all that I'm well into adulthood. I don't really know how I can be as open-minded and accepting as I am (and I really am) and yet not be comfortable putting a label on myself. I've been told that being bi is rude and you should be pan, because only accepting cis people and not trans people is mean. That's so wtf. I can see myself being into guys or girls, but not into trans people. I don't know, I'm just not. Trans people are just fine, but for me, not relationship material for myself. So does that make me 'rude' or 'mean'? I don't think so, but hell, who knows what anyone's thinking anymore. I just want to be happy, but apparently that's super difficult.

I'm bi. Based on a recent experience, I've begun to wonder if a lot of this is rooted in a resistence against changing the idea of gender. Because if gender isn't a large deciding factor on what interests an individual, they frequently become excluded from the community/dialogue.

Among people I once believed to be open-minded, I was shocked at how many expressed opinions that men were this, or women were that, based on biological myths with little to no precedence-- as though you can either "think" in masculine terms or "think" in female terms, whether you were gay, straight or otherwise. But if you try and circumvent those stereotypes, or even if you try and articulate this, you meet A LOT OF BACKLASH. :O

- just wanted to pop in and give you a hug because I can relate and it sucks...

it's sucks with any group where you kinda run up to them with open arms & big expectations like "yay! Instant friends...comrades..I relate to you.." wanting to fit in and belong (or finally feeling like this is the group you should fit in with or belong to because others are like "ewww yuck- hang out with them-pushes you towards the gay community ") & they shun you or push you away :(

I've hard a hella hard time with the LGBTQ community... Despite my wife being trans... I'm like constantly pushed away and so is she...

Especially by lesbians. She always hears "your not a real woman. Your gross blah blah blah..no amount of surgery or hormones will make you a woman."

And because I consider myself asexual (seriously I've never wanted to have sex with anyone but my spouse-I can recognize that other people are pretty or good looking but it does nothing for me ya know? Besides occasional make me uncomfortable because I feel I'm not good looking and I start thinking if I'm grossing them out Lol) not bi or pan they don't want to have anything to with me either (personally I'm not super bothered by them not liking me-I'm more upset that they hate my wife instantly without giving her a shot, cause she's mega awesome, and that it upsets her)

Anyway just wanted to let you know your not alone. Don't know how to fix it or offer you advice buuuutttt... Didn't want you to think it was just you. That you were a freak or something

I'm pansexual, but married to a guy, so I've been told that makes me straight, I guess. :/