Welcome to Subeta! Where are you trying to change your name/gender? The correct location is under Personal > User Dashboard > Profile You type in your name and select gender from the dropdown and click the 'Submit your Profile' button at the bottom.

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What to do on Subeta? Useful general information for newbies Finding friends (Chit Chat) SubetaLodge (Offsite item database, pet colours etc.)
FAQ Upcoming event: Vesnali (Scheduled last week of April)