Seriously, for years ((maybe even close to a decade now)) I've never really wanted to think about my birthday, just wanted to ignore it and make it another day. Even though some small part of my trys to hold out hope that people will remember and make me feel included, make me feel loved, and cared about.

Yet this year I was going to try to take a more positive stance...

6 people out of all the people I know, family, friends, coworkers, people here, and facebook....6 fucking people. Yes I said family. Even out of my family only 5 OF THEM said anything! One in particular couldn't even be bothered to get me a card or ANYTHING. Fucking awesome. Real nice you guys.

This is why I hate people and hate my birthday. I always get my hopes up just to be let down EVERY time. I always tell them all Happy Birthday and such and yet when it's mine, they can't be bothered.

Everyone is so self-absorbed to pay any attention to others. Their Iphones are their lifeline and even when you KNOW they're spending countless hours looking at facebook/instagram/twitter, so they see it's your birthday (the little icons that say so for christssake!) ...still nothing.

Fucking awesome.

Animals ARE better than humans.

End rant. steps off soapbox

I almost always get less than 10 people as well. I downplay it as me just being an introvert, but secretly I wish people would notice that I exist too. But that's life for me. I'd rather have a few people who know me well than a lot of people who don't know me at all. It does stink that my family doesn't say anything either, and obviously yours didn't either. I'm really sorry that you're in the same boat as I, and so therefore, happy birthday for what it's worth. I hope that it does start to change for you, and although it sucks being that one, it could be worse.

Well yeah I mean, I should know better as I am an introvert as well but still. You'd think that people that "care about you" should at least bother to say "Happy Birthday" it's not asking much.

I don't really want all these people who "claim to" know me but still I'm talking about the people who do, the people I care about and consider important. It just really hurts my feelings. That is my point and it just makes me feel shitty.

I should also know that I shouldn't get my hopes up but for some STUPID reason I do every time I don't get it.

I know it could be worse but as I say, everyone is fighting their own battles and this is mine right now.

Thanks...ish

Happy Birthday

Seriously though, I never have the cake icon on during my birthday and pretty much always downplay my birthday, but it's because I personally don't like the extra attention though.

The fact is most people will forget your birthday. I've gone through years where I explicitly mentioned my birthday coming up and other than my family didn't get ANY birthday wishes.

I know how this feels. It kind of sucks when people you've known for over a decade/your entire lives, even family, can't even be bothered to send you a text or email or call. Not for your own birthday or a thank you for wishing them a happy birthday.

For my last birthday my parents got me bowls and plates. To be fair it was what I'd asked for. Maybe I'm an ingrate but I was hoping they might get me something they think I'd like, ya' know? Like something to show that they actually listen to me when I talk. Because that's a big issue for me, people ignoring me when I want or need their attention, especially because I don't normally want or need it. I do things on my own. Introvert here. Ignoring me is a habit me parents have had for as long as I can remember. I ended up going out, buying my own dinner and eating alone. It was one of those pre-made burgers from the butcher's counter in the grocery store. Had green peppers and onions and cheese in it. I also bought a baked sweet potato, broccoli, and I splurged for good quality buns.

Kind of disappointing. They at least made me a cake. It was pineapple upside down cake. Which is my dad's favorite, not mine. But it's not like I don't like pineapple upside down cake, so it was whatever.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be acknowledged. Being ignored by strangers is one things but when family and friends do it, it kind of makes you (well me) feel like less than a person. It's like saying that you're not worth a few seconds of their time and that's pretty shitty because chances are they're not wrapped up in something important anyway.

I'm not one to ask for extra attention, to me a simple "Happy Birthday" is just courtesy.

I'm not asking for gifts just to know people that I care about equally care for me which apparently is too much to ask.

It SHOULDN'T be a fact. That is my point. It just solidifies how awful and self-absorbed people have become.

At least your family gives that, less than half of mine do.

I'm just so screwed up that people give me anxiety. And I say 'screwed up' because the only right way of living is being completely dependant of others. SARCASM! My birthdays (and other unfortunate events where I am the centre of the attention) make me feel like a cornered animal. I personally couldn't care less whether people wish me happy birthday or not. There's nothing happy about it and I'm not important.

If I could choose I would spend the rest of my life completely alone. It's never hurt me or anyone else to this point. Of course, the issue raises again because you can't be allowed to isolate yourself from society because you gotta be there to please others! It's not that I don't love my family and friends, It's just a flaw of personality.

And I think Facebook and all the other shit should be called 'antisocial media' because that's what it really is: enabling narcissistic behaviour and so many more traits included to the description of 'antisocial'.

This ramble had nothing to do with anything: It's strictly about my opinions/how I feel.

EDIT: I've had SO MANY people wishing me happy birthday and then ignoring me the rest of the year. That's more like a joke than a polite gesture, and to me those instances make no difference. I think people should show appreciation to each other all year and not just on Birthdays/Valentine's etc. That's not the point after all. Again, just MY opinion.

AND I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN, EVEN IF I DON'T REPEAT YOUR WORDS. NO NEED TO PATRONIZE.

Actually, they don't. For most of my life my family NEVER celebrated any holidays, including my birthday. It was only when I turned 18 that they actually started caring or even remembering and half the time they still don't so I've learned to mostly stop caring. After all, if you don't expect anything you're not disappointed when you don't get it in the first place.

Sorry I missed your post, I think I had started to reply to Normandy when you posted I think.

Thank you. Yes. Thank you, someone knows what I'm saying. I'm sorry that you have to feel like I do and you have to deal with that but I'm glad that you really seem to understand where I'm coming from on this. I appreciate it. :)

Well... Yeah, on that part. As I said before, I don't crave attention it's just I feel it's courtesy and common kindness to express that you're happy that your daughter, son, sister,brother, niece, nephew, and/or friend was born today and you're happy for that.

Yeah that might make it a little different for you. The only reason I said that is because that's how I read your post....

I read that as other than your family (wishing you H.B) no one else did.

If I mention it yes, they'll mention it in passing and I'll get a cake, but that isn't the norm. It's not something that happens every birthday and truth of the matter, a lot of the time during my birthday since I'm constantly around my family I mostly want to be alone on my birthday personally.

My last birthday I ended up not getting any acknowledgement at all from anyone in my family because no one actually remembered it and I was okay with that.

Well I misread that. And ok, that's what you choose. Or don't choose.

But yeah, exactly as you said. Acknowledgement. I don't expect anyone to buy me things. I hope they might though as it's always nice to get stuff. My family and friends don't have a lot of money. There are a handful of people that I at least want to acknowledge that I exist despite the ignored and forgotten texts and requests for help the rest of the year. And hey, if they want to buy me my favorite candy bar or a funny card or something, that's nice too. I've got a box of cards from years ago that I've never thrown away.

And thank you for the Skair. It's a cute little guy.

Well I just wanted to express my thanks a little more. He was on your WL.

A-fucking-men! (pardon my french) But you hit the nail on the head. At least someone here knows what I mean.

I appreciate that. A lot.

Birthdays seem to lose their significance over time, it seems. Two years ago, I had to buy my own damn present cause nobody was up to getting one or could afford it (It was only $30 but that's not the point).

I think eventually birthdays become what you make them, not what others do; you're going to have that hope that someone will remember because it's clear birthdays are significant in some way to you. It's not a bad thing.

I hate this year's in particular. May 10 is the second Sunday, so Mother's day pre-empts anything. I had plans to visit a aircraft and automobile museum nearby, but I got a no go from everyone I wanted to invite. So instead I'll spend that day getting stupid drunk...again.

I see my Birthday as a chance to really spoil myself. It could eat a whole birthday cake or just get a massage. I dont have anyone coming to do something nice for me on my bday. I would plan the day as spoil myself to whatever I wanted to do.

The only people that ever cared for my birthday are my parents, my sister, my grandparents (r.i.p.) and a handful of longtime internet buddies. The rest of my family never cared but since I don't care for them either it's not an issue. As for real life buddies or workmates - most of them don't even know when my birthday is so whatever. X'D

[img align=right]http://www.subetalodge.org/images/graphics/ryan/r_fs_rifi.png[/img] I know the feeling as well. I don't even like my own birthday. Its not because of my friends and I don't really have much of a family anymore. Point I am trying to make is that something happen to me on my 19th or 20th birthday and I really just want it to be a normal day. Not I don't want people to tell me happy birthday and all but in a way I want it cause I just have to feel like someone cares.

I love how you did something for Spock. =) RIP [br clear=all]

Thank you, Leonard Nimoy was really special to me so I had to :'3

I don't blame you. I am give that he will be remember on this site. =) Tho in a way I wish I could have done that for one of my favorite actors or remember to do it.