The alerts sound fabulous imo. MM is supposed to be a gift exchange. My MM today hasn't sent me anything back after I sent them a few things. I'm not high maintenance and I appreciate any thought put in and sending nothing comes across as not giving a crap and makes me not want to send anything more if they can't be bothered to send anything as a sign of their existence. Their loss of course, but for me, it's a waste, so if we can weed out the chronic non-repliers, I know I'd be grateful.

When I first read the title I thought, ban mini-mods who aren't sending you stuff.....?....What.....? I guess because I don't participate in MM except maybe one or two times a luminaire I didn't get it until I read the OP XD.

Anyways I think the idea behind MM is the spirit of giving. If you can't fully enjoy the spirit of giving without receiving, then honestly I think you're probably better off in one of those give the user above a gift forums because then you're sure to get something. That being said, it is obviously rather greedy and fairly annoying that people join solely to participate on the receiving end. I don't think it's a good idea to ban anyone from it, but perhaps what keith has in store will motivate more people to give, even if only a bit.

I don't like the idea of the alerts, if someone doesn't join with the intent of sending anything I don't think an alert will do anything.

What if you literally had to sign up to MM with an item? Like if you play SS irl you don't actually get to play unless you bring something, right (I mean you can try but most people will let you know you're rude and to leave)? It doesn't matter what item, but in order to sign up you had to give an item so at least everyone gets A thing regardless of what it is?

It would also be a good guage for anyone who doesn't want to overgift a scrooge, too? If someone doesn't care they won't care now, and if someone gets a red ball then.. there you go xD?

I'm tired of users saying this, so let me add something.

Many people are saying that this suggestion is obviously suited for those who join MM to receive, even though the real spirit should be giving. Well, if we don't punish those that join only to receive and to give nothing, aren't we passively encouraging the spirit of receiving over the spirit of giving, more so than we would be if we required reciprocal giving and receiving?

What if it was changed, so it was like the gift exchange? you send a gift, and someone would definitely get it, and the system made sure that you got a gift in return? there could be a minimum cost, so there was fairness.

another old and annoying topic that is brought every luminaire...

if you get a silent MM, that's just bad luck luminaire lasts 31 days, you will get a great giving MM at least once, i garantee!

i could add the other 3219 responses people have made every year but it's not worth it

I don't think having alerts is a terrible idea for some, but I also agree with others when they said if someone signs up with the intent to only receive then an alert isn't gonna sway them.

MM is a gamble every time. Yeah maybe if they don't send something one day they shouldn't be allowed to participate the following day. I sort of like that suggestion. It's fitting enough. It's not too big of a burn on the user who didn't/"forgot"/"got busy" to send and (hopefully) won't be too big of a burn on the sender who didn't receive. But another day comes and the sender can send to another and the receiver who sent nothing gets a time out :P

Now. I. Am. Rambling. But... I'm probably only going to sign up once a week tho...soo

I don't think banning is the right move. I really don't think anything is needed. Send a small gift, and then if they send something back, awesome. if not, move on with your life.

I think the events are a good idea. Are two events really going to clog your event list? If it does, seems like you should remove some events. But for people like me, who go to bed usually right after they do MM, it'd be a good reminder. I love to send gifts to my MMs, and so far I've had great MMs this year. And yeah, events aren't going to sway someone who won't give in the first place, but it will help the people who accidentally forget to give a gift in the first place.

I think banning is a bit much though, and even if you did, they'd just be back once the ban was over.

Ehhh, I don't support this. It's always a risk when you join the MM, and "giving is better than receiving," after all. Yes, it's a huge bummer when you get a partner who isn't active...but that's the risk.

I'm against this It's not the end of the world if you don't get anything. There's always tomorrow, when you might get a better MM

I'm against banning people I think there should just be a buy in to MM that goes toward the gifts you send. Something like enter MM for 100k sp and then it takes you were you can spend that 100k on preselected MM items of varying prices. If people enter and send nothing the left over sp doesnt get refunded so take it as an incentive to give gifts instead of having the sp eaten. The buy in also makes it so you get people that want to do it, because as long as it cost nothing people can and will exploit it. This is not like paying twice you pay the fee to get in but as I said you use what you buy in with to buy gifts. You can add sp if you wish optioin if you want to send more.

I'm sure people will complain that they can't send whatever item they want but having a rotating selection of items may make it not so bad. Honestly I think giving up the ability to choose from everything on the site to a selection of themed holiday items is worth the sacrifice, if it stops people 1)being inactive and 2)complaining about inactive or quality of the gift(as all gifts will be of the same quality).

I like this suggestion, though maybe temp ban would be better than a perma ban from MM.

Also, it's not about getting something and making profit, it's just a bummer to have someone join and do nothing in something that's supposed to be fun.

Even if you give cheap items with a message or some effort, it's nice to exchange with someone that cares more than not at all. Stop twisting it into making people that support this seem like greedy users, it doesn't make you seem any better.

It's like a 2 player game, it's pointless and sad if only one person actually does something. It's like in multiplayer team games, if someone is inactive and drags the fun down by ruining it, they get booted. Similar note should be taken for this, if they're going to sit around and do nothing, for what I assume is for free gifts with no payback, they should get kicked out of their current MM partnership for inactivity as well.

I don't count my gifts and lament the sP spent on a dead user, it's just that I wanted to have a nice time for an activity that's only around during this month in a supposedly festive time and I got someone that just didn't even care.

I actually stopped using MM because I kept getting dead ones, it was tiring. It gets really old to keep hoping for a "better" MM.

It sounds nice, especially after a couple of days of partners who seem to only want to scam you out of items. But like others have said, people who don't send items will either start sending low value items or send one niceish thing at the start to lure you in and then stop.

I like the, 'You've not sent a gift yet!' idea. Help remind people who had something come up in life and made them forget they had signed up. Because I've done that.