My ex-boyfriend is transexual. We were just another straight couple but some months ago he insisted on inviting me to eat something he knew I like. We kept a nice relation after the we started talking again (we broke up then stopped talking and then talked again). So I went even if that wasn't totally comfortable for me because at some point I think he still has feelings for me.

He confessed to me he's in all the way to be a transexual. He's a boy but wants to feel like a lady, be treated like one, drss up like one. He still likes girls so I think he's like a lesbian or something.

I was shocked at first but I don't see him much so it doesn't affect me. At least my actual boyfriend is not jealous anymore that I keep talking to him.

My last ex is gay. He cheated on me with another man, lied about it, then kicked my son and I out of our home.

Regardless of genders that is really awful and I'm sorry that happened to you. :(

raises hand

Okay...not really a gay 'ex'. We never dated, as we were like 12 years old at the time. The guy in question was my next door neighbor, and he was a very cute boy. The first by I ever liked, in fact. One day, I decided to play a 'kissing game' with him'. He told me he didn't want to kiss me, but I thought he was joking, and basically chased him around the yard thinking it was some sort of game. I was 12 at the time, I didn't know any better, and coming from a conservative Christian family, of course I had no inkling at the time of what 'gay' even was. The boy in question was my next door neighbor, and one of my best friends. We would hang out a lot, we'd visit each others houses, watch movies, play video games, have sleepovers, etc...

He (or, rather, we) moved away. Fast forward a few years later. I'm in high school, and one of my female classmates asks me about boys I liked. I said, "Well, there was this one guy...[let's call him] John." "John who?" "John (bleep)." "Oh, no way, he was so cute! I went to middle school with him, every girl wanted to date him!" I wasn't surprised - he was a good-looking kid - and said "Yeah, that would be John."

So fast forward, my mom and I are at a local Chick-fil-A. As soon as we walk in, there's a guy at the counter who looks really familiar. Tall, nerdy, good-looking, with glasses. I'm with my mom at the time, and she totally whispers in my ear, "That's John." I blink for a second, then listen to this guy taking orders, and his voice is very high-pitched. I watch him, and he also is acting and talking...very flamboyantly. "Him? No, that can't be John, he's nothing like I remember." "That's totally him." I blink again. "But John didn't act so...I dunno, gay."

Later I got a job at the same Chick-fil-A. Turns out, he was gay. Very gay, in fact.

On top of that, my ex came out to me as a "male lesbian" after we dated for three years. He also claims on one of his profiles that "I grew up straight, I still am straight, but the thought of anal for some reason turned me on. I won't lie, I had a fling or two with a guy, and it proved to me without a doubt I'm 100% straight". Of course, he never bothered to tell me that he even had a "fling or two" with a guy, never mentioned it, and it never came up...he's told me that a lot of people tend to assume he's gay. Seeing as how he had 'erectile dysfunction' a lot during sex, and asked me to peg him a lot of the time with very masculine dildos, I'm not wholly convinced that he isn't gay. (Possibly trans, as he also has asked me to refer to him in feminine and female terms before, too.)