- As the days go on, things are becoming clearer for me. I think a part of the problem is he's still trying to figure himself out while I have a good idea of who I am. This summer has really helped me focus on myself and reevaluate the relationship.

Update: I've decided to break up with him. I've started to see a friend who I've known for 3 months. The way this friend treats me is so different. He actually wants to spend time with me! He listens and tries to understand as best as he can. He complements me and makes me feel like I'm worth something. The other friends I've been hanging around are also like that. It's made me realize how crappy my bf has treated me.

Now, I just need to gather the courage to break up with my bf. I have a week left before he returns.

it may be hard, but you can do it. Just know that in the long run, it's what's best for the both of you.

I don't know if you have broken up with him yet, but let me just say... this sounds EXACTLY. Like the situation with my ex boyfriend. EXACTLY. And it NEVER EVER EVER got better. It sucked. And I stayed with him for years. Then when I started to fall for a guy who was actually nice to me, I finally sucked it up and broke up with him... been dating that other guy since and am AMAZED I put up with the shit my ex gave me. Just end it.

- Nope, I'm still with him. Maybe I'm stupid for staying with him. I know my bf has problems, but he's been so wonderful to me the last few days. I feel like he's doing his best to make things work.

I think the fact that the friend I had a crush on rejected me really hurt. I'm scared of being rejected again. I would rather work on an existing relationship where I'm liked for who I am.

Well good luck to you then... in my experiences in my past relationship, there were many times where he would be really great for "the last few days"... and it would last a little while, then always go back to the same shit. I wouldn't use rejection as a reason to stay with him because... that's not really fair.