I wouldn't have a FWB myself, even if i was single. I'm not laidback enough :x

I've had some of those before. (never had sex with them though) They work out well with my personality since I can be quiet the innocent flirt, and I can be so... wishy-washy about if I want a boyfriend. until I do grow a connetion with that person and then I can get a bit jealous and a little possessive.

But i'm not into those anymore, since I now have a steady boyfriend that I love dearly and wouldn't leave for the world now that I got my head on strait and thought about what I really wanted.

So in short, I see nothing wrong in them, everyone has there right to do what they want, and as long as both people understand what they and the other person want it should be just fine.

anyway ive never had any (people have offered), just not really my thing. having sex with people once, twice, or three times is one thing. but im not the kind that just calls you to have sex, unless ur my gf

Did it in high school, everything but sex. Not always, but a lot of the times, someone gets involved in the relationship and the other person just does not reciprocate the same feelings. I think it leads to too many complications personally.

Yea, when me and my boy broke up our first year...We tried the just be friends thing, which quickly led to FWB...Which later ended in our lasting 7 year relationship...as a couple again

When I was single, I rather had a one night stand if I really had a whole bunch lust and heaps of temptation. It only happend twice (with sex, anyway), and both of the times they were a friend of mine. And the day after we were just friends like we always were. I still know these guys and as far as I sense there is nothing awkward.

Though if it would have happened on regular base, I think it WOULD get awkward. As soon as one of us would get a relationship, there would be some trouble with it (in my case anyway). Therefore, I think friends with benefits is nothing for me. I rather have a relationship then.

But that doesn't mean I'm against it. If both parties are perfectly fine with it, why not? Knock yourself out I'd say. As long as you're aware of what possibly COULD happen.

Nowadays I think differently I must admit (for things involving myself, anyway). I rather have love invloved with sex. Though it could be that I think this way because I've been dating one guy for several years now who I do love.

I tried it, we didn't get too far with it as it inevitably ruined the friendship when she then told me she was having feelings for me and I didn't.

She now despises me and won't talk to me, no matter how hard I have tried.

I'd rather be promiscuous with one person than be a prude. But that's just me. You say that as if anyone who is fwb will just do it with anyone they know as long as they're getting something out of it. I've been fwb with my ex because there was no romance left in the relationship.

We had sex about a year and a half into our relationship, but tension had been rising within the first year of us being together and we tried our best to deal with it and find ways to work together on it. We broke up after two years but still had sexual feelings left over from said relationship. We talked it over for a while and decided that we could be responsible enough to still continue our relationship sexually, but if someone started seeing someone else, we would end it.

It's funny how you some of you guys eliminate all scenarios that lead to fwbs and put a negative label on everyone for it. I find it acceptable as long as people are responsible with it and don't let it get out of hand (ie. trying to continue the relationship after one has hooked up with someone else; Drama..).

i'm pretty sure that isn't the definition of any of those words. just because you don't love the person you're sleeping with, doesn't make the act wrong.

fwb isn't for everyone, but it definitely works for some people. i don't think it is wrong, as i have done it myself - but like i said before, it isn't for everyone.

If someone has a lot of FWBs, then I think that's pretty whorish. But, if they only have one or two, I don't see a problem... plus it's none of my business unless I'm involved. I'd find it hard to be involved in something like that, because I tend to get attached to people, so I'd rather save those things for someone I know likes me back in that way. It would just mean more to me.

Of course, as far as FWBs go... if I did that, I'd be VERY picky about who I did those things with. I'd go with someone who I have a very strong friendship with, one that won't crumble if things like that happen. I wouldn't trust just anyone with that kind of thing. But, like I said, I'd rather save those things for someone I'm actually in a relationship with. That's just me, though... to each their own.

I think this was well said. I think it just depends on what you think is morally right and wrong.

not seeing these work out for many people if they were honest with themselves. one always winds up aching in the heart.

choices 2b made. residual from any of it stays with you 4ever

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It's fine in my opinion, as long as you're guaranteed that both of your feelings are mutual at any point along the way. See I'm in one right now; and it was great at first really. It's continuously on and off now because I'm the one that started developing feelings for him. At that point it's just a roller coaster ride for the one who developed feelings for the other. Temporary happiness, it bites.

Im too paranoid, for something like that. Not to mention how quickly I get attached to people?>